Category: Relationships

Hmm – I bet the issue in this letter resonates with many of you.  Hi Delaine, I’ve been divorced a couple of times.  A recent acquaintance told me if we were to get serious, she expected me to complete her “To-Do List” every evening after work.  I am tired after work and just want to [...]

Unexpected change is sweeping through the lives of some of my dearest girlfriends these days.  It has arrived wearing the face of divorce or break-up.  As a result, deep and complex conversations around the nature of love, secrecy, and commitment have ensued.  And now, for the first time in my life, I find myself seriously [...]

I recently went out on a first date with a stylish, charming man of French (Quebecois) descent.  And when our conversation moved into that of relationships (which it inevitably does with me) he suddenly caught me off guard by stating :   “I  believe in commitment…but not monogamy.” His admission left me quite tongue-tied.  I’ve never met someone who came right [...]

If a woman experiences wild sex with multiple partners after divorce, is she less apt to be faithful in her next relationship? This question was at the core of a recent letter I received from a reader.  “We’ve been together for over a year and a half,” he wrote. “We have a fantastic sex life, [...]

It’s a common fear among many divorced women and men – yet it’s something they oftentimes keep secret:  that is, once they start seriously dating someone, their sex life will dry up and die a painful death like it did during their marriage. Lots of us carry wounds and fears around sex and intimacy into [...]

This is a question many divorced women ask after they’ve remarried – and one that can be source of stress and fear.  After all, they don’t want to wrongly steal the spotlight from the kids’ biological father, nor do they want to upset their kids.  At the same time, however,  it seems a slap in [...]