Recently a divorced woman named Sue found herself in a “gross” conversation with her divorced griflriends. Not “gross” as in the subject matter was lude or disgusting; rather, the conversation left her feeling gross. For somehow, her friends’ conversation had shifted to her relationship with her boyfriend – and as she put it, “It was like […]
At 66 years old, my mom is a real firecracker. This woman has so much energy, she makes 20 year olds look like slugs. But much more than that, mom is confident. She’s generous beyond belief. She’s sexy. Has taken great care of herself. And she spends her days either working 10 hour shifts in the hospital or […]
So I’m knee-deep into the publishing process on my upcoming memoir, which is slated for release in Spring 2012. And my publisher, which is the feminist publisher Seal Press, has changed the title of it. It’s now: The Secret Sex Life of a Single Mom. (gulp)….A little more in-your-face than its original title, ”A Woman’s […]
Unexpected change is sweeping through the lives of some of my dearest girlfriends these days. It has arrived wearing the face of divorce or break-up. As a result, deep and complex conversations around the nature of love, secrecy, and commitment have ensued. And now, for the first time in my life, I find myself seriously […]
What is true love? This is a question I bet millions of divorcing people ask themselves, myself included. After all, we all thought we had it…yet it slipped away. Ever since I was little girl this concept of true love was sold to me everywhere: the movies, TV, church, within my family. It seemed the most magical thing, the perfect […]
This past weekend, a very close friend of mine, Darlene, phoned me in a tizzy. Out of the blue, she had been accused by a girlfriend of having an affair with her husband. And since I’d recently been accused of the same by a neighbor, she wanted help sorting through the drama. Now I believe […]
“EX-husband,” “EX-wife,” “The EX.” The term “ex” is one we all use after divorce, in both our written and oral communications. It’s something we don’t give much thought to either – it’s just part of the English language, right? But have you ever noticed how you feel when say it? What about when someone ELSE uses it in conversation? Cause […]
Many months ago, during a deep conversation with my Good Man - a handsome, young widower who continues to restore my faith in men - we began talking about ’sacrifices’ and ‘choices.’ Or rather, I was rambling on about how I think women make sacrifices when they become wives and mothers – when he cut me off. “Do you really think of […]
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