It was my deepest, darkest secret – something that nourished me, tortured me, yet ultimately tore my family apart: After seven years of marriage, the birth of three kids, and weathering the emotional storm of my husband’s infidelity, I made the choice to have an affair. Now I’m not revealing this today as some kind of […]
FROM THE ARCHIVES 2009 You my not see it. But it’s there… deep within him. It is beyond his admission, beyond his self-awareness. But it’s there, eating away at his soul… His self-loathing. He may seem all blissfully happy-in-love with her; look at that skip in his step. That skips says that he wants nothing […]
When Barb contacted me via email last week, she was clearly very upset. Only six months into her divorce, she’d discovered that her separated husband had a new serious girlfriend; they were even making plans to move in together. “It’s not that I want him back,” she wrote. “But it’s such a slap in the face – […]
Recently a divorced woman named Sue found herself in a “gross” conversation with her divorced griflriends. Not “gross” as in the subject matter was lude or disgusting; rather, the conversation left her feeling gross. For somehow, her friends’ conversation had shifted to her relationship with her boyfriend – and as she put it, “It was like […]
It’s tough being a single parent. And in addition to sometimes feeling draining and overwhelming, it can feel “unfair” – like our parenting responsibilities are stealing precious time and energy from us that we’d prefer to spend on well…ourselves. You know – our careers, our social lives, our dating/love life, etc. “I didn’t sign up to be a […]
By Sloan Carson, Family Law Attorney Without a doubt, some of us going through divorce should be hiring attorneys and sending them to war against each other in a courtroom. Our marriages are just that bad; there’s simply no middle ground or agreements to be had with our soon-to-be exes. But for the vast majority of us – even some […]
A lone scorpion was travelling across the land when he came upon a river. Seeing a Frog in the bulrushes nearby by, he called out: “Hey you! Frog! I need to get across this river. Let me jump on your back and you can carry me across it.” The Frog fervently shook her head: “Not a CHANCE. […]
This Valentine’s Day season is turning out to be a tough one for many of my readers. Letters are steadily trickling in, speaking of break-ups, heart-ache, sadness, and overwhelm. Everyone is looking for reprieve – to break free of the pain, to feel their smile, at the very least, to hold onto hope. I offer up ’tips’ to some readers, suggestions on […]
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