A lot of divorced women – myself included – go through a ‘man crazy’ phase in the aftermath of divorce. By ‘man-crazy’ I mean some part of them is always thinking about, worried about, or eagerly daydreaming about some guy they plan to meet, want to meet, or hope to meet. There are many different […]
It was my deepest, darkest secret – something that nourished me, tortured me, yet ultimately tore my family apart: After seven years of marriage, the birth of three kids, and weathering the emotional storm of my husband’s infidelity, I made the choice to have an affair. Now I’m not revealing this today as some kind of […]
Question: Hello Delaine, I have been happily dating a separated man for the past year as he finished up his divorce. His divorce was finally finalized last month. They were married for over 20 years and according to him, it wasn’t a good marriage. I’ve noticed, however, that ever since the divorce came through, he’s […]
He says his marriage is long over. He says he’s ready to date again. But would it be wise for you – a woman who is ultimately seeking a serious relationship – to throw caution to the wind and dive right in? I’d definitely say, “No way.” Getting involved with a separated man usually comes […]
On the heels of recent letters I’ve received from divorced women – many who’d just finished reading my memoir – it really struck me how we all share many of the same fears and challenges as we attempt to date after divorce: How do I know I’m ready, how do I handle rejection, how do […]
Thinking back to my twenties, I remember I said the words “I love you” very soon in my relationships with men. The “love feelings” would overwhelm me: the closeness, the intimacy, the peace of feeling cared for and apart from the rest of the world. The warmth and power of these feelings would fill my chest, sometimes to the […]
Over the past three years since I got divorced, it is by far THE most popular statement I’ve heard from women: “I don’t need a man”. And it’s been said with passion. Power. Ownership. As if it’s been EARNED. And I’ve heard it all over the place: from dinners with girlfriends…to dating sites…. to here […]
So I’d planned to spend this morning – this lovely Saturday morning – being super productive and getting work done. I have two chapters of book edits sitting in my inbox from my developmental editor which I haven’t touched in days. And I have important errands to run, that can no longer be postponed. It’s […]
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