What's It REALLY Like to Have An Affair?

Posted by Delaine - April 11, 2014 - Advice, Grief/ Anger, Infidelity, Phases/ Stages, Relationships, Surviving - No Comments

Flirt Couple KissIt was my deepest, darkest secret – something that nourished me, tortured me, yet ultimately tore my family apart:  After seven years of marriage, the birth of three kids, and weathering the emotional storm of my husband’s infidelity, I made the choice to have an affair.

Now I’m not revealing this today as some kind of confessional.  Nor is it my intention to justify or explain my decision.   What’s prompting me to write is a disturbing article I read on DailyMail that I fear may entice women into cheating.  According to a poll this article cited, many cheating wives believe that having an affair not only improved their sex lives with their husbands, it saved their marriage.  And I know, first-hand, that such beliefs are not just distorted, they’re false:  Having an affair is far more complicated, painful, and confusing that anything you can possibly imagine. (read more here)