Tag: single parenting

Thoughts on the “Next Serious Relationship” After Divorce

Posted by Delaine - September 10, 2013 - Blended & Changing Families, Fears & Challenges, Loving & Trusting, Making It Work, Relationships
serious relationship after divorce 300x153  Thoughts on the “Next Serious Relationship” After Divorce

The title of this blog may be a bit misleading.  Cause I don’t want to talk in a professional  tone or way about the “next serious relationship” after divorce.  I want to talk about mine. That’s right.  MY next serious relationship.  I had one for over 18 months.  And I never told you anything about […]

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Helicopter Single Parents: Will You Give Your Kids Freer Range?

Posted by Delaine - April 9, 2011 - Co-Parenting, Parenting, Single Dads, Single Moms
young boys on bicycles  Helicopter Single Parents:  Will You Give Your Kids Freer Range?

It happened last weekend.   My eight-year-old son asked if he could bike over to his friend’s place two blocks away. Right away I said no.   What if they got hit by a car?  What if some predator chased them down the residential streets?  I wanted him within eye/ear sight.  Just in case. But when I opened […]

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Parenting After Divorce: Do You Have A Plan for Emergencies?

Posted by Delaine - February 3, 2011 - Co-Parenting, Parenting, Single Dads, Single Moms
little girl hurt1  Parenting After Divorce: Do You Have A Plan for Emergencies?

I was at home working when my phone rang – my ex-husband’s number popped up.  Thinking it was my children, I quickly answered. Instead it was my ex. I heard, “We’ve had a bit of an accident.  We’re on our way to get stitches.” “Who’s hurt?”  I asked heart racing. “Janet.”  (My four-year-old daughter)  “She cut open her […]

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The Results of a Divorced Father’s Biting Words

Posted by Delaine - November 23, 2010 - Parenting, Single Dads
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Over the past couple of months, Shelia has been quietly optimistic around her ex-husband’s relationship with their children, particularly their 10-year-old son.  For you see, since this past September he has been taking their kids on sleepovers twice a month – a  HUGE improvement over his ‘maybe’ once- every-four-to-six-weeks track record. He even began volunteering as an assistant coach for […]

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Rocky Balboa’s Got Nothing On Single Moms!

Posted by Delaine - June 29, 2010 - Parenting, Single Moms
single mom box  Rocky Balboa’s Got Nothing On Single Moms!

I’m writing this article with the theme song of the movie Rocky playing in my mind.  For at this very moment, I don’t just feel like Delaine The Divorced Mother who raises her three kids 95% of the time on her own with no help.  No no -  I am a champion; my feet are dancing […]

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The Ex’s Empty Chair is Filled with Friends & Role Models for My Kids

Posted by Delaine - November 17, 2009 - Children, Parenting, Single Moms
husband left divorced mom  The Ex’s Empty Chair is Filled with Friends & Role Models for My Kids

I’ll admit, the fact that I’m a single mom to three kids with an ex who’s rarely around, has worried and terrified the hell out of me – sometimes to the point of tears or hours of depression.  Though I’ve tried desperately to make good parenting decisions, to do what’s best by my children, the Doubt Monster and […]

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Sometimes It Sucks Being A Divorced Mom With No Family Support in Town

Posted by Delaine - July 22, 2009 - Parenting, Single Moms
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I’ve put off and put off and put off writing this blog because I was worried about coming across as a whiner.  But as a good friend recently reminded me once again, I’m not SuperWoman.  And so I confess:  I sometimes find it really hard being a divorced mom with no family support here in town. […]

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The Fake Smiles We Give Our Kids During Divorce – Are We REALLY Fooling Them?

Posted by Delaine - June 3, 2009 - Children, Parenting, Single Dads, Single Moms, Surviving
boy  The Fake Smiles We Give Our Kids During Divorce – Are We REALLY Fooling Them?

I love my kids more than life itself.  And since getting divorced, I’ve worked hard to ensure they not only adjusted, but thrived.    But sometimes life circumstances have beaten me down.  And my kids have seen me cry.  They’ve seen me stare out the window.  They’ve seen the shell of a woman named mom […]

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Cheating Husband in the Public Swimming Pool

Posted by Delaine - February 28, 2009 - Infidelity
cheating husband divorce1  Cheating Husband in the Public Swimming Pool

I was at a public swimming pool with my three kids, playing in the toddler section.  A great big bucket of water above us was almost full and teetering to tip.  My kids squealed and we all huddled in, arms entwined, heads down…till finally, the much-anticipated water crashed over our heads and backs. Laughing, I scooted back […]

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Overwhelmed by Single Parenting & Working Full-Time

Posted by Delaine - February 24, 2009 - Parenting, Single Dads, Single Moms
single mom losing it  Overwhelmed by Single Parenting & Working Full-Time

I feel like I’m going crazy; pushed and pulled in a hundred different directions.  I should have known today would be one of ’those days’ when at 6:30 a.m., the scream of one my boys getting hurt while wrestling launched me out of bed. Work deadlines loom, my nanny called in sick, my kids’ schedule today is more demanding than most, kripes – […]

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Psych Yourself Up and Go Out ANYWAY!

Posted by Delaine - January 30, 2009 - Parenting, Support & Girlfriends, Time Without Kids
go out divorced women  Psych Yourself Up and Go Out ANYWAY!

Goddarnit the excuses roll in sometimes when it’s time to go out.  I mean OUT out – like dancing, having fun, having a few drinks.   “I’m so tired,” is usually my number one bail-out; single parenting and working full-time leave me spent.  Feeling “fat and ugly” is usually excuse number two.  “It’s too much effort to […]

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Fairytale Endings: Movies Are Programming My Daughter

Posted by Delaine - January 26, 2009 - Parenting, Single Moms, Social Barriers & Change
little girl eyes small  Fairytale Endings: Movies Are Programming My Daughter

My 4-year-old daughter grabbed my cheeks and put her face up to mine.  I was about to give her a quick kiss when she ordered:” NO mom.  You turn your head that way.”  Her hands were still on my cheeks.  Shocked, I sat there wide-eyed as she planted a VERY long kiss on my lips.  […]

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Reflections: I Felt Like a Single Mom While Married, Too

Posted by Delaine - December 20, 2008 - Children, Grief/ Anger, Surviving
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I’m not sure why the memories came at me tonight. Perhaps it was the fresh fallen snow and smell in the air that triggered them; Xmas is coming after all. Perhaps it was because my ex moved last weekend to a small town outside Calgary; I know he will now spend even less time with […]

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