Tag: single mom

The Duke: Questions & Cautions around Doms and D/s Relationships

Posted by Delaine - May 30, 2014 - Concerns & Fears, Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches, Internet Dating, Loving & Trusting, On My Book Becoming A Movie, Sexual Issues & Kinks, slideshow, Women's Sexuality alex c3
alex c4  The Duke:  Questions & Cautions around Doms and D/s Relationships

The Duke, The Duke, The Duke — without a doubt, he’s a big character in my book/movie that captures women’s attention.  He is a sexual Dominant after all; a grown-up and much more believable “Christian Grey”. Alex Carter plays “The Duke” in my Lifetime movie – and dang…he is some convincing as a Dom, too (smiles).  Anyhow — I want to…

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Dating Advice: You Are Not Your Story

Posted by Delaine - May 27, 2014 - Advice, Concerns & Fears, Dating & Sex, Healing, Wisdom Gained
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FROM THE ARCHIVES MAY 2009 A divorced girlfriend of mine was going out on a date – a third date, which rarely happened with her. And as we talked over the phone beforehand, she was almost panicked.“I actually like this man, Delaine. But the timing couldn’t be worse – my life is such a mess,…

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Helicopter Single Parents: Will You Give Your Kids Freer Range?

Posted by Delaine - April 9, 2011 - Co-Parenting, Parenting, Single Dads, Single Moms
young boys on bicycles  Helicopter Single Parents:  Will You Give Your Kids Freer Range?

It happened last weekend.   My eight-year-old son asked if he could bike over to his friend’s place two blocks away. Right away I said no.   What if they got hit by a car?  What if some predator chased them down the residential streets?  I wanted him within eye/ear sight.  Just in case. But when I opened…

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Is Part-Time Employment Right for You?

Posted by Delaine - February 10, 2011 - Career & Money, Career Growth & Change
divorced mom looking part time work  Is Part-Time Employment Right for You?

Contributed by Certified Credit Counsellor Suzanne Cramer. Divorce is difficult on so many levels and can definitely leave a strain on your finances. Your once “dual” income is now a single income or maybe you stayed home with the kids and have been out of the workforce for several years. How do you ease your…

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Rocky Balboa’s Got Nothing On Single Moms!

Posted by Delaine - June 29, 2010 - Parenting, Single Moms
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I’m writing this article with the theme song of the movie Rocky playing in my mind.  For at this very moment, I don’t just feel like Delaine The Divorced Mother who raises her three kids 95% of the time on her own with no help.  No no –  I am a champion; my feet are dancing…

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Women’s Sexuality: A Starting Point or End Point for Learning?

Posted by Delaine - June 22, 2010 - Dating & Sex, Longing...and Learning, Women's Sexuality
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My head is off is left field this morning, pondering women’s sexuality. I know – a complicated topic. But this is what I’m trying to figure out: Does a woman’s sexuality ripple into other areas of her life? Is her sexuality, in fact, a metaphor in motion for her behaviour and conduct in her work…

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“I Grew Balls”: How One Wife Confronted The ‘Other Woman’ To Find The Truth

Posted by Delaine - March 9, 2010 - Deciding to Stay or Go, Infidelity, Support & Girlfriends, Surviving
divorced woman balls courage  “I Grew Balls”: How One Wife Confronted The ‘Other Woman’ To Find The Truth

It wasn’t until ’she’ phoned in the middle of the night that Pam became suspicious.  The woman was obviously drunk, her voice a string of slurs.  And when Pam asked, “Who is this?”, all she got heard was “(Giggles) Just a friend…(click).” The next day, Pam confronted her husband.  Completely taken off guard, he insisted they were “only friends.” …

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Divorce & the Transformational Power of Emotional Pain

Posted by Delaine - February 8, 2010 - Grief/ Anger, Healing, Phases/ Stages, Surviving, Wisdom Gained
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By Guest Writer, Malou I have been living a life short of a fairy tale until that fateful day last year. A job, a wonderful husband, a delightful daughter, a big house complete with a garden, a whole room dedicated just for my clothes and shoes….I was a princess!! The only thing missing was a…

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Choices or Sacrifices? Which Do Divorced Moms Make?

Posted by Delaine - December 10, 2009 - Career & Money, Career Growth & Change, Parenting, Single Dads, Single Moms, Social Barriers & Change
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Many months ago,  during a deep conversation with my Good Man – a handsome, young widower who continues to restore my faith in men –  we began talking about ’sacrifices’ and ‘choices.’  Or rather, I was rambling on about how I think women make sacrifices when they become wives and mothers – when he cut me off.  “Do you really think of…

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Divorced Mom Has The S-E-X Talk With Her Sons

Posted by Delaine - August 20, 2009 - Parenting, Single Moms
mom son talking bonding  Divorced Mom Has The S-E-X Talk With Her Sons

I know that parents – divorced or not – can have very different opinions about talking to their kids about sex. Not just over who should do the explaining (ie: school board vs same sex parent vs a book), but at what age the initial conversation should take place and how much info should be given.…

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Divorced Mom Faces an Emergency

Posted by Delaine - July 28, 2009 - Co-Parenting, Parenting, Single Dads, Single Moms
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I’m writing this at 1 a.m.  and am completely exhausted.  Yesterday evening, the sound of my seven-year-old screaming outside launched me out my front door in my socks.  I ran towards him in the park, heart pounding. “I hit Kyle by accident!” he screamed.  “I hit him in the head with my golf club!” I kept running, my son…

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Relationship Patterns: I Don’t Want to Be a Man’s Psychologist

Posted by Delaine - June 27, 2009 - Fears & Challenges, Longing...and Learning, Loving & Trusting, Making It Work, Relationships, Understanding Men/Women
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Flash back a few years ago. Sitting on a park bench with a man I loved, a man I thought the greatest human being on earth. He was showing me old photos from his childhood, words, stories, spilling out of his mouth. I sat there listening, loving him, wanting to know more, wanting to help…

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A Gift For The Ex-Husband On Father’s Day?

Posted by Delaine - June 19, 2009 - Escaping: Books, Music, Films, Parenting, Trying to Get Along
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I was browsing around on various forums today to see what/if moms were buying for their ex-husbands for Father’s Day. No doubt, some moms couldn’t care less about the day. But the vast majority said they’d ensure dad received ‘something’ – it was definitely in the kids’ best interest. The question was What?

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BALANCE – How Does a Full-Time Working Mom/Dad Measure It?

Posted by Delaine - April 21, 2009 - Parenting, Single Dads, Single Moms
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  We hear about it all the time – this thing called “balance.” We’re told it’s something we all need and should strive for.  And if we’d just get our acts together, devote the time to properly mastering the art of juggling, we’d acheive it too. But you know what I’ve never understood?  How it is…

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My First Spring Break Without Kids Since Becoming A Parent

Posted by Delaine - March 30, 2009 - Parenting, Time Without Kids
divorced mom alone without kids time off  My First Spring Break Without Kids Since Becoming A Parent

To many parents, married or single, Spring Break can send a jolt of  anxiety through them.  Cause for many of us, it doesn’t involve a one-week trip to Jamaica; it involves extra planning and work while we simultaneously tend to our full-time jobs.   Myself being ever-the-organizer, I’ve always started planing well in advance for this holiday in past…

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Hiding Tears from the Kids: Exhausting…but Necessary

Posted by Delaine - March 14, 2009 - Children, Grief/ Anger, Legal Matters, Single Moms, Surviving
single mom hiding tears1  Hiding Tears from the Kids: Exhausting…but Necessary

A couple of days ago was the perfect example.  I returned home from custody mediation with my ex with obviously red, puffy eyes.  I came inside my house and immediately went downstairs to my office – I didn’t want my preschool daughter to see my puffy face.  But once in the privacy of my office, I sat…

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Cheating Husband in the Public Swimming Pool

Posted by Delaine - February 28, 2009 - Infidelity
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I was at a public swimming pool with my three kids, playing in the toddler section.  A great big bucket of water above us was almost full and teetering to tip.  My kids squealed and we all huddled in, arms entwined, heads down…till finally, the much-anticipated water crashed over our heads and backs. Laughing, I scooted back…

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Communicating with the Ex: Learn to Bite Your Tongue

Posted by Delaine - February 17, 2009 - Dealing with the ex, Surviving
silence anger divorce  Communicating with the Ex: Learn to Bite Your Tongue

You’re on the phone with your ex, courteously discussing a pending issue related to your kids or your divorce.  Suddenly, ‘it’ happens – his voice turns whiney and he starts singing the ‘poor-me’ blues. Or maybe he throws in an unexpected mean remark.  Or maybe, just maybe, he decides to start venting – and you find you and your character…

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From Little Girl…to Wife…to Divorced Single Mom

Posted by Delaine - January 5, 2009 - Grief/ Anger, Phases/ Stages, Surviving
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 Out of the blue, my aunt emailed me this photo tonight.  I’m not posting it because I want you say I look cute.  I’m showing it because it made me burst out crying.     Look at how innocent I was.  My God, the face of an angel with hair so white.  I keep wondering what I was like back then…but I…

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Reflections: I Felt Like a Single Mom While Married, Too

Posted by Delaine - December 20, 2008 - Children, Grief/ Anger, Surviving
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I’m not sure why the memories came at me tonight. Perhaps it was the fresh fallen snow and smell in the air that triggered them; Xmas is coming after all. Perhaps it was because my ex moved last weekend to a small town outside Calgary; I know he will now spend even less time with…

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