Tag: single mom dating

Good-bye Husband, Hello G-SPOT!

Posted by Delaine - June 12, 2012 - Between the Sheets, Dating & Sex, Women's Sexuality
G spot orgasm divorce  Good-bye Husband, Hello G-SPOT!

FROM THE ARCHIVES – 2008 By the end of her marriage, she’d given up trying to have a G-spot orgasm; she thought maybe anatomically she wasn’t capable of one.  But one night post divorce, that G-bomb came out of nowhere: KA-POWEE.  It was a back-arching, sould-screaming, ‘Hallelujah!’   Afterwards however, she was freaked out – […]

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My Next Partner Will Lie Beside Me & Discuss a Good Book

Posted by Delaine - March 25, 2011 - Longing...and Learning, Loving & Trusting, Relationships
divorce mom reading relationship partner  My Next Partner Will Lie Beside Me & Discuss a Good Book

I’ve always yearned to lie beside the man I love and discuss a good book.  To me, the mere idea of it feels romantic.  Intimate.   Even arousing. No man I’ve cared for thus far, my ex-husband included, enjoyed reading books.  Sure, they’d scour over a newspaper or the odd motorcycle  or hunting magazine.  But when it came right down […]

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A Smart, Savy, No BS Girlfriend:We All Need One During Divorce

Posted by Delaine - February 28, 2011 - Legal Matters, Support & Girlfriends, Surviving
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Smart.  Well-informed.  A ’no- BS’ kind of dame.  This is the type of  girlfriend I think every divorcing woman needs in her corner as she navigates divorce.  Especially if the divorce has gotten tense…and the ex is a dirty fighter. I don’t think it’s the only kind of friend or support we need; there are those whose primarily listen, those who make us forget, those […]

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Mr Right Will Be a Man Who ‘Earns’ Me

Posted by Delaine - November 19, 2009 - Dating & Sex, Longing...and Learning, Loving & Trusting, Relationships, Understanding Men/Women
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Recently I wrote an article about how the phrase ,”I need a man who challenges me’, carried negative imagery and feelings for me.  It reminded me of my younger-day yearnings for Bad Boys (who did me no good) and,  as a few girlfriends pointed out,  had a tone of  ‘relationship management’ around it. Soon after writing […]

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She’s Has Multiple Lovers – But No Guilt

Posted by Delaine - September 2, 2009 - Between the Sheets, Dating & Sex, Healing, Phases/ Stages, Women's Sexuality
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A divorcing girlfriend was updating me on her dating life over the phone.  She’d just flown back from spending a fun-filled weekend with a new man she’d met online.  She said, “I don’t think he’s Mr Right, but he does have some wonderful qualities.  And man – was he ever something in bed!  Really aggressive.  […]

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Examining The “Buy-Her-A-Drink” Pick-Up Method

Posted by Delaine - August 18, 2009 - Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches
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What woman hasn’t found herself in this scenario?  You’re at a bar, chatting with a girlfriend, when all of a sudden, the bartender or waitress suddenly puts an unordered drink in front of you.  “It’s from that man over there,” she says, pointing across the room.  You look over, only to see a man you aren’t […]

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Men Are Confused Too: Trying To Understand Their ‘Wound’

Posted by Delaine - August 14, 2009 - Dating & Sex, Single Dads, Understanding Men/Women
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So I’m becoming less judgmental and more open to men. That’s a broad statement, I know. But ever since I watched the movie, The Ugly Truth, and saw how underneath Gerard’s Butler piggish character was a wounded man with a big heart, the more sympathetic AND curious I’ve become about what makes men the way […]

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Another ‘First’ – A BIG Stretch of Time Without Kids

Posted by Delaine - July 31, 2009 - On being alone, Parenting, Time Without Kids
divorced mom time alone  Another ‘First’ – A BIG Stretch of Time Without Kids

This here divorced mom is sitting here wearing her SuperGirl jammies, with freshly painted toenails and a white skin mask on. Yes, I’m having an evening of self-pampering.  But tonight feels different than other ‘grooming’  nights – it’s the kick-off to my 10-day ‘vacation’ without my three kids. This is the first time since I had kids, […]

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BIG STEP:Introducing A New Man to the Kids

Posted by Delaine - June 30, 2009 - Concerns & Fears, Longing...and Learning, Parenting, Relationships, Single Dads, Single Moms
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I introduced him to my children.  Not as my partner.  Not as a close friend.  But as a ‘friend of a friend’ who needed a place to stay as he passed through town. This was a big step for me.  I’ve never done this before – never even considered it in the two years I’ve […]

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Internet Dating:Can Too Much Pre-Talk Wreck the In-Person Meeting?

Posted by Delaine - May 22, 2009 - Dating & Sex, Internet Dating
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A friend of mine recently asked me this question, and I’m curious as to what you think: If you talk to a prospective online date a lot by phone or IM, can it spoil the in-person meeting? My personal opinion?  Yes, it can.    Now don’t get me wrong – I always pre-screen a man once or twice by phone or through […]

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Do Men Belittle Each Other for Penis Size?

Posted by Delaine - May 17, 2009 - Dating & Sex, Understanding Men/Women
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A divorced male friend and I were recently discussing the matter of penis-size…not just actual numbers and pros and cons, but the social pressures men face to ‘measure up’.  I told him I think it’s OK for women to have preferences in penis size and to know what they like.  But of course, I would NEVER […]

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Dating After Divorce: Is a ‘Spark” Necessary?

Posted by Delaine - April 27, 2009 - Cougars & Single Moms, Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches
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He was sooooo nice.  So very, very nice.  Well-spoken… mature… a fun personality.  And I really did enjoy talking to him.  But I felt no spark;  I just wasn’t attracted to him.  Not just physically, but energetically. He wanted to meet me for a second date.  I really didnt want to…but again, I went over his very nice qualities.  “He’s […]

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