Tag: sex after divorce

Are you often drawn to a certain kind of man/woman because of certain physical qualities?  Guys, we often hear about your common love of  curves.  And ladies, what about the lure of tall, dark and handsome?  (I’m waving my hand here – I’m a sucker for that dark mystique!) According to evolutionary biologist Sharon Moalem, author of [...]

We had just started chatting via Instant Messenger. Conversation was flowing nicely. Friendly, polite, he had good spelling (which I look for) .  And THEN… Then I told him I have three kids. A pause. A really long pause. Then his ‘probing’ began.

He was sooooo nice.  So very, very nice.  Well-spoken… mature… a fun personality.  And I really did enjoy talking to him.  But I felt no spark;  I just wasn’t attracted to him.  Not just physically, but energetically. He wanted to meet me for a second date.  I really didnt want to…but again, I went over his very nice qualities.  “He’s [...]

I recently received a letter from a woman in doldrums over this situation.  She’d dated a man a few times and their mutual attraction was nearing detonation.  But the ‘first-time’ hurdle still lay on her horizon – she hadn’t slept with anyone since she got separated.  Anxiety, excitement, fear… the next step would be a BIG one.  But low and behold, [...]

Recently I wrote an article about the concept of  ‘friends with benefits,” and how, even though it sounded good in theory, I was skeptical if  could translate into real life for most people.   This past weekend, however, I think I got a few steps closer to having such a relationship. How?  It was simple actually: I just came right out [...]

When my best friend Hali and I found ourselves newly separated and back out in the dating trenches, we kept hearing the term “Friends With Benefits.”   We both liked the sound of it and decided it was something we wanted.  After all, we weren’t ready for serious, but we wanted to have sex.  Thus a sexual ‘friendship’ verses a love [...]