Tag: sex after divorce

Good-bye Husband, Hello G-SPOT!

Posted by Delaine - June 12, 2012 - Between the Sheets, Dating & Sex, Women's Sexuality
G spot orgasm divorce  Good-bye Husband, Hello G-SPOT!

FROM THE ARCHIVES – 2008 By the end of her marriage, she’d given up trying to have a G-spot orgasm; she thought maybe anatomically she wasn’t capable of one.  But one night post divorce, that G-bomb came out of nowhere: KA-POWEE.  It was a back-arching, sould-screaming, ‘Hallelujah!’   Afterwards however, she was freaked out – […]

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Answering the Question: “When Did You Last Have Sex?”

Posted by Delaine - August 20, 2011 - Between the Sheets, Dating & Sex
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It’s a question many ladies get asked by a sexual partner, either prior to having sex, or immediately afterwards: “When was the last time you had sex?” And though your partner has a right to be curious, it may not be a question you want to answer.  Maybe you had sex only a few weeks […]

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“Mommy” vs “Woman Entitled”: Juggling Identities After Divorce

Posted by Delaine - May 21, 2011 - Between the Sheets, Cougars & Single Moms, Dating & Sex, Time Without Kids, Women's Sexuality
divorced mom seductress lover sex after divorce  “Mommy” vs “Woman Entitled”: Juggling Identities After Divorce

The other day a client and I shared a good belly laugh over a recent ‘event’ in her life.   For the first time since divorcing (over a year ago), she’d brought a man back to her house and taken him as her lover; a memorable event in any divorced person’s history book, I know! But […]

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The Greatest Male Lovers Open Their Hearts, Not Just Their Zippers – EVEN During First Times

Posted by Delaine - February 21, 2011 - Between the Sheets, Dating & Sex
great lover man divorce dating  The Greatest Male Lovers Open Their Hearts, Not Just Their Zippers – EVEN During First Times

It hit her light a lightning bolt.  Within seconds of their meeting, she felt attracted to him.   And over the course of the next two hours, as they sat talking and getting to know one another, their chemistry was so intense, she found herself unable to concentrate: her thoughts were roaming under his clothes…tracing up and down his magnificently athletic body… […]

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Role Reversal: “Honey…this is sex not love”

Posted by Delaine - October 7, 2010 - Between the Sheets, Dating & Sex, Women's Sexuality
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We enjoyed each other for hours.  And it was as wonderful as the other four times we’d been together.  Passionate.  Intense. Deep.  Stress-relieving.  But as I lay snuggled against him in the aftermath,  eyes closed, brain off in Post-Orgasmic Wonderland,  I suddenly heard:   “I love you, Delaine.” My eyes flew open.  Did I imagine that?  Oh God, on no, he actually […]

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Women’s Sexuality: A Starting Point or End Point for Learning?

Posted by Delaine - June 22, 2010 - Dating & Sex, Longing...and Learning, Women's Sexuality
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My head is off is left field this morning, pondering women’s sexuality. I know – a complicated topic. But this is what I’m trying to figure out: Does a woman’s sexuality ripple into other areas of her life? Is her sexuality, in fact, a metaphor in motion for her behaviour and conduct in her work […]

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Post Divorce Sex: Less Than A Bump & A Grind

Posted by Delaine - January 2, 2010 - Between the Sheets, Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches
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Prior to that night, I’d met him three times for dinner. And even though mentally and physically he charged all my cylinders, I kept my foot on the brakes; I wasn’t just looking for ‘any’ lover, I wanted an ‘alpha’ lover – a man who was strong, passionate, and very much in control, both inwardly […]

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Why the Lure of Tall, Dark & Handsome?

Posted by Delaine - May 7, 2009 - Dating & Sex, Understanding Men/Women, Women's Sexuality
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Are you often drawn to a certain kind of man/woman because of certain physical qualities?  Guys, we often hear about your common love of  curves.  And ladies, what about the lure of tall, dark and handsome?  (I’m waving my hand here – I’m a sucker for that dark mystique!) According to evolutionary biologist Sharon Moalem, author of […]

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He Was “Concerned” About my Body Since I’m A Mom

Posted by Delaine - May 4, 2009 - Concerns & Fears, Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches, Internet Dating
divorced mom dating annoying men online  He Was “Concerned” About my Body Since I’m A Mom

We had just started chatting via Instant Messenger. Conversation was flowing nicely. Friendly, polite, he had good spelling (which I look for) .  And THEN… Then I told him I have three kids. A pause. A really long pause. Then his ‘probing’ began.

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Dating After Divorce: Is a ‘Spark” Necessary?

Posted by Delaine - April 27, 2009 - Cougars & Single Moms, Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches
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He was sooooo nice.  So very, very nice.  Well-spoken… mature… a fun personality.  And I really did enjoy talking to him.  But I felt no spark;  I just wasn’t attracted to him.  Not just physically, but energetically. He wanted to meet me for a second date.  I really didnt want to…but again, I went over his very nice qualities.  “He’s […]

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Should a first-time sexual encounter proceed if you have your period?

Posted by Delaine - April 25, 2009 - Concerns & Fears, Dating & Sex, Women's Sexuality
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I recently received a letter from a woman in doldrums over this situation.  She’d dated a man a few times and their mutual attraction was nearing detonation.  But the ‘first-time’ hurdle still lay on her horizon – she hadn’t slept with anyone since she got separated.  Anxiety, excitement, fear… the next step would be a BIG one.  But low and behold, […]

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Friends with Benefits: One Step Closer

Posted by Delaine - April 6, 2009 - Between the Sheets, Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches
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Recently I wrote an article about the concept of  ‘friends with benefits,” and how, even though it sounded good in theory, I was skeptical if  could translate into real life for most people.   This past weekend, however, I think I got a few steps closer to having such a relationship. How?  It was simple actually: I just came right out […]

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"Friends With Benefits" – A Myth, A Rarity, or A Matter of Luck?

Posted by Delaine - March 18, 2009 - Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches
friends with benefits  "Friends With Benefits" – A Myth, A Rarity, or A Matter of Luck?

When my best friend Hali and I found ourselves newly separated and back out in the dating trenches, we kept hearing the term “Friends With Benefits.”   We both liked the sound of it and decided it was something we wanted.  After all, we weren’t ready for serious, but we wanted to have sex.  Thus a sexual ‘friendship’ verses a love […]

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My Anger Towards Men Speaks: Second Year into my Divorce

Posted by Delaine - March 3, 2009 - Dating & Sex, Healing, Internet Dating, Phases/ Stages
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Over the past couple of months, men from the dating site, Lavalife, have started asking me the above question. The question comes in various renditions, from a simple “STILL on here, eh?” to “I can’t believe you still haven’t been snatched up!” Time and time again though, my reaction has been the same: to roll […]

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