Posted by Delaine - February 1, 2011 - Children, Dealing with the ex, Grief/ Anger
Don’t expect to be friends with your ex. Not at the start anyways. This is what I wish someone, or many people, had told me at the beginning of my divorce. I’m not saying you should expect to be enemies; no, not at all. I’m saying you should aim for something in the middle – like a [...]
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Posted by Delaine - January 19, 2011 - Grief/ Anger, Infidelity, Surviving
“Hang tough Delaine – things are going to better. You really are better without him…” Many, many times I heard these words from girlfriends when I found out my ex was cheating. I knew they were right, that at some point things HAD to get better. But while in the throes of my grief, those words felt [...]
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Posted by Delaine - January 1, 2011 - Grief/ Anger, Surviving
(A Divorced Reader’s ‘FIRST’ Valentine’s Day after divorce) I admit it. This Valentine’s Day thing has me rolling my eyes. I don’t want to say it aloud to all my happily married and in-love friends. But all the dreamy romanticism of this holiday makes me want to …well…spew. I know it’s cause I’m not ready for a [...]
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Posted by Delaine - March 3, 2009 - Dating & Sex, Healing, Internet Dating, Phases/ Stages
Over the past couple of months, men from the dating site, Lavalife, have started asking me the above question. The question comes in various renditions, from a simple “STILL on here, eh?” to “I can’t believe you still haven’t been snatched up!” Time and time again though, my reaction has been the same: to roll [...]
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Posted by Delaine - December 22, 2008 - Children, Grief/ Anger, Surviving
“My ex-husband took the kids for the first time this weekend. And my heart is so heavy.” This message awaited me from a newly-divorcing friend on Facebook this morning. She was floundering, her free time only reminding her how empty and confused she felt. I read her message with a tight chest: I [...]
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