Tag: newly separated woman

Yesterday, I received an email from a newly-separated woman who’d recently signed up on a dating site.  She wrote:   “I read your article that said you don’t spend a lot of time talking to prospective dates on the phone or IM because you find it sets up false expectations.   My concern is that I’m going to meet [...]

“Should I avoid dating separated men?”  This is a valid question many women have asked me since divorcing.  After all, what if these guys are rebounding?  What if they still have heavy emotional issues to work through?   At the end of the day, do these guys pose a greater risk to a woman’s heart? I personally think  every man [...]

He was sooooo nice.  So very, very nice.  Well-spoken… mature… a fun personality.  And I really did enjoy talking to him.  But I felt no spark;  I just wasn’t attracted to him.  Not just physically, but energetically. He wanted to meet me for a second date.  I really didnt want to…but again, I went over his very nice qualities.  “He’s [...]

When my best friend Hali and I found ourselves newly separated and back out in the dating trenches, we kept hearing the term “Friends With Benefits.”   We both liked the sound of it and decided it was something we wanted.  After all, we weren’t ready for serious, but we wanted to have sex.  Thus a sexual ‘friendship’ verses a love [...]

Over the past couple of months, men from the dating site, Lavalife, have started asking me the above question. The question comes in various renditions, from a simple “STILL on here, eh?” to “I can’t believe you still haven’t been snatched up!” Time and time again though, my reaction has been the same: to roll [...]

I was at a public swimming pool with my three kids, playing in the toddler section.  A great big bucket of water above us was almost full and teetering to tip.  My kids squealed and we all huddled in, arms entwined, heads down…till finally, the much-anticipated water crashed over our heads and backs. Laughing, I scooted back [...]