Tag: newly separated woman

FROM THE ARCHIVES: Does Penis Size Matter?

Posted by ekzact_team - February 13, 2014 - Dating & Sex, Sex
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(From July, 2010.  Year Two post-divorce) The topic of men’s penis size was brought to my attention YET AGAIN this morning in an article on Fox.com: A new study revealed that French men need the largest condoms in Europe while Greeks get by on the small ones. This study by a German consultancy asked 10,500 men […]

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When’s the Best Time to Meet an Online Date?

Posted by Delaine - May 29, 2009 - Concerns & Fears, Dating & Sex, Internet Dating
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Yesterday, I received an email from a newly-separated woman who’d recently signed up on a dating site.  She wrote:   “I read your article that said you don’t spend a lot of time talking to prospective dates on the phone or IM because you find it sets up false expectations.   My concern is that I’m going to meet […]

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DANGER: Five Kinds of Separated Men to Avoid

Posted by Delaine - May 1, 2009 - Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches
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“Should I avoid dating separated men?”  This is a valid question many women have asked me since divorcing.  After all, what if these guys are rebounding?  What if they still have heavy emotional issues to work through?   At the end of the day, do these guys pose a greater risk to a woman’s heart? I personally think  every man […]

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Dating After Divorce: Is a ‘Spark” Necessary?

Posted by Delaine - April 27, 2009 - Cougars & Single Moms, Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches
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He was sooooo nice.  So very, very nice.  Well-spoken… mature… a fun personality.  And I really did enjoy talking to him.  But I felt no spark;  I just wasn’t attracted to him.  Not just physically, but energetically. He wanted to meet me for a second date.  I really didnt want to…but again, I went over his very nice qualities.  “He’s […]

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"Friends With Benefits" – A Myth, A Rarity, or A Matter of Luck?

Posted by Delaine - March 18, 2009 - Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches
friends with benefits  "Friends With Benefits" – A Myth, A Rarity, or A Matter of Luck?

When my best friend Hali and I found ourselves newly separated and back out in the dating trenches, we kept hearing the term “Friends With Benefits.”   We both liked the sound of it and decided it was something we wanted.  After all, we weren’t ready for serious, but we wanted to have sex.  Thus a sexual ‘friendship’ verses a love […]

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My Anger Towards Men Speaks: Second Year into my Divorce

Posted by Delaine - March 3, 2009 - Dating & Sex, Healing, Internet Dating, Phases/ Stages
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Over the past couple of months, men from the dating site, Lavalife, have started asking me the above question. The question comes in various renditions, from a simple “STILL on here, eh?” to “I can’t believe you still haven’t been snatched up!” Time and time again though, my reaction has been the same: to roll […]

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Cheating Husband in the Public Swimming Pool

Posted by Delaine - February 28, 2009 - Infidelity
cheating husband divorce1  Cheating Husband in the Public Swimming Pool

I was at a public swimming pool with my three kids, playing in the toddler section.  A great big bucket of water above us was almost full and teetering to tip.  My kids squealed and we all huddled in, arms entwined, heads down…till finally, the much-anticipated water crashed over our heads and backs. Laughing, I scooted back […]

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From Little Girl…to Wife…to Divorced Single Mom

Posted by Delaine - January 5, 2009 - Grief/ Anger, Phases/ Stages, Surviving
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 Out of the blue, my aunt emailed me this photo tonight.  I’m not posting it because I want you say I look cute.  I’m showing it because it made me burst out crying.     Look at how innocent I was.  My God, the face of an angel with hair so white.  I keep wondering what I was like back then…but I […]

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Divorce Pain: Alone Without Kids for the First Time

Posted by Delaine - December 22, 2008 - Children, Grief/ Anger, Surviving
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“My ex-husband took the kids for the first time this weekend. And my heart is so heavy.”   This message awaited me from a newly-divorcing friend on Facebook this morning.  She was floundering, her free time only reminding her how empty and confused she felt.    I read her message with a tight chest:  I […]

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