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The #1 Thing I Wish Someone Had Told Me about Divorce

Posted by Delaine - February 1, 2011 - Children, Dealing with the ex, Grief/ Anger
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Don’t expect to be friends with your ex.  Not at the start anyways.  This is what I wish someone, or many people, had told me at the beginning of my divorce. I’m not saying you should expect to be enemies; no, not at all.  I’m saying you should aim for something in the middle – like a [...]

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Valentine’s Day Grump

Posted by Delaine - January 1, 2011 - Grief/ Anger, Surviving
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(A Divorced Reader’s ‘FIRST’ Valentine’s Day after divorce) I admit it. This Valentine’s Day thing has me rolling my eyes. I don’t want to say it aloud to all my happily married and in-love friends. But all the dreamy romanticism of this holiday makes me want to …well…spew. I know it’s cause I’m not ready for a [...]

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Hiding Tears from the Kids: Exhausting…but Necessary

Posted by Delaine - March 14, 2009 - Children, Grief/ Anger, Legal Matters, Single Moms, Surviving
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A couple of days ago was the perfect example.  I returned home from custody mediation with my ex with obviously red, puffy eyes.  I came inside my house and immediately went downstairs to my office – I didn’t want my preschool daughter to see my puffy face.  But once in the privacy of my office, I sat [...]

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Divorce Pain: Alone Without Kids for the First Time

Posted by Delaine - December 22, 2008 - Children, Grief/ Anger, Surviving
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“My ex-husband took the kids for the first time this weekend. And my heart is so heavy.”   This message awaited me from a newly-divorcing friend on Facebook this morning.  She was floundering, her free time only reminding her how empty and confused she felt.    I read her message with a tight chest:  I [...]

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