Tag: how to date again

When I first started dating after divorce, I felt like I’d arrived on another planet.  Not just cause I had no idea how to date again, but because it quickly became apparent that a new ‘phenomena’ had come to town since I’d last visited:  Young Men Seeking Older Women.  And oh yeah -  their holsters were [...]

My girlfriend’s dating life is VERY busy. And I salute her for that. Almost two years out of an emotionally abusive marriage, we concurred that her rushing into a committed relationship would be dangerous: she’d probably end up with a bully again and/or losing herself in another man instead of exploring and discovering her own [...]

Recently I wrote an article about the concept of  ‘friends with benefits,” and how, even though it sounded good in theory, I was skeptical if  could translate into real life for most people.   This past weekend, however, I think I got a few steps closer to having such a relationship. How?  It was simple actually: I just came right out [...]

When my best friend Hali and I found ourselves newly separated and back out in the dating trenches, we kept hearing the term “Friends With Benefits.”   We both liked the sound of it and decided it was something we wanted.  After all, we weren’t ready for serious, but we wanted to have sex.  Thus a sexual ‘friendship’ verses a love [...]

Over the past couple of months, men from the dating site, Lavalife, have started asking me the above question. The question comes in various renditions, from a simple “STILL on here, eh?” to “I can’t believe you still haven’t been snatched up!” Time and time again though, my reaction has been the same: to roll [...]

Goddarnit the excuses roll in sometimes when it’s time to go out.  I mean OUT out – like dancing, having fun, having a few drinks.   “I’m so tired,” is usually my number one bail-out; single parenting and working full-time leave me spent.  Feeling “fat and ugly” is usually excuse number two.  “It’s too much effort to [...]