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Good-bye Husband, Hello G-SPOT!

Posted by Delaine - June 12, 2012 - Between the Sheets, Dating & Sex, Women's Sexuality
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FROM THE ARCHIVES – 2008 By the end of her marriage, she’d given up trying to have a G-spot orgasm; she thought maybe anatomically she wasn’t capable of one.  But one night post divorce, that G-bomb came out of nowhere: KA-POWEE.  It was a back-arching, sould-screaming, ‘Hallelujah!’   Afterwards however, she was freaked out – […]

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“Bad Men” Bring Us Tremendous Gifts

Posted by Delaine - January 24, 2011 - Fears & Challenges, Healing, Longing...and Learning, Relationships, Wisdom Gained
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Almost all women at some point in their lives attract a ‘bad man’; some of us marry him. And by ‘bad,’ I’m not simply referring to men who are drug lords, pimps, or wife abusers. No, “bad men” are men who don’ treat us and love us as wonderfully as we deserve. They are, as […]

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Women’s Sexuality: A Starting Point or End Point for Learning?

Posted by Delaine - June 22, 2010 - Dating & Sex, Longing...and Learning, Women's Sexuality
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My head is off is left field this morning, pondering women’s sexuality. I know – a complicated topic. But this is what I’m trying to figure out: Does a woman’s sexuality ripple into other areas of her life? Is her sexuality, in fact, a metaphor in motion for her behaviour and conduct in her work […]

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Dear Younger Men: I’m no “MILF”. You’re the “SMILF!”

Posted by Delaine - January 30, 2010 - Cougars & Single Moms, Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches
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Since becoming single again this past year, I’ve been called a ‘Cougar’ – which I hate, and a MILF.  When I discovered MILF stood for “Mother I’d Like to F***”, I laughed.  Though some might find it offensive, I found it rather endearing:  I imagined these luscious, muscley young men looking at me with awe and […]

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She’s Has Multiple Lovers – But No Guilt

Posted by Delaine - September 2, 2009 - Between the Sheets, Dating & Sex, Healing, Phases/ Stages, Women's Sexuality
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A divorcing girlfriend was updating me on her dating life over the phone.  She’d just flown back from spending a fun-filled weekend with a new man she’d met online.  She said, “I don’t think he’s Mr Right, but he does have some wonderful qualities.  And man – was he ever something in bed!  Really aggressive.  […]

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Did My Date Just Stare at the Server’s Butt?

Posted by Delaine - May 19, 2009 - Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches
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When I’m out on a first date with a man, I pay attention to how my date treats the server.  I notice: Is he friendly? Does he use good manners? And, if the server is grumpy, how does he deal with it?

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How Long Could You/ Should You Go Without Sex After Divorce?

Posted by Delaine - May 13, 2009 - Dating & Sex, Sexual Issues & Kinks, Women's Sexuality
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  My divorced friend and I were standing side-by-side, watching our kids play soccer in the field.  Out of nowhere, she suddenly blurted:  “Can you believe I haven’t had sex in over two years?”  My mouth flew open.  “You can not be serious!”    She laughed and shook her head.  “Yes, I’m afraid I am.  Since […]

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Dating After Divorce: Is a ‘Spark” Necessary?

Posted by Delaine - April 27, 2009 - Cougars & Single Moms, Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches
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He was sooooo nice.  So very, very nice.  Well-spoken… mature… a fun personality.  And I really did enjoy talking to him.  But I felt no spark;  I just wasn’t attracted to him.  Not just physically, but energetically. He wanted to meet me for a second date.  I really didnt want to…but again, I went over his very nice qualities.  “He’s […]

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This Divorced Mom Asks: “Do I Disqualify Men Too Quickly?”

Posted by Delaine - April 17, 2009 - Concerns & Fears, Cougars & Single Moms, Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches, Internet Dating
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According to my best friend Hali, I do.   Disqualify men too quickly, that is. Over drinks this past weekend, I was telling her about my dating life, when she quickly inserted: “Ummm Delaine…what dating life?” I laughed, rather taken aback. “What do you mean? You know I’m still on a couple of dating sites.”

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Would You/ Have You Tried Cyber Sex?

Posted by Delaine - April 12, 2009 - Concerns & Fears, Dating & Sex, Internet Dating
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A newly-divorcing woman wrote me this weekend to say she’d begun internet dating after 10 years of marriage.  “But I don’t get this cyber sex thing,” she said.  “It seems like many men are looking for it.  And in all honesty, I’ve been tempted.  Have YOU had cyber sex Delaine?” Well (clearing throat), even though […]

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Friends with Benefits: One Step Closer

Posted by Delaine - April 6, 2009 - Between the Sheets, Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches
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Recently I wrote an article about the concept of  ‘friends with benefits,” and how, even though it sounded good in theory, I was skeptical if  could translate into real life for most people.   This past weekend, however, I think I got a few steps closer to having such a relationship. How?  It was simple actually: I just came right out […]

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You’ve PROVEN You Don’t “Need” A Man – NOW what?

Posted by Delaine - March 26, 2009 - Fears & Challenges, Loving & Trusting, Relationships, Support & Girlfriends
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“You’ve proven you don’t need a man, Delaine.”   My best friend Hali then put her wine glass down on the restaurant table and continued: “So when are you going to stop proving it and move BEYOND it?” I looked at her confused. “What are you talking about?” “You’ve done it Delaine.  You’ve shown everyone that you can […]

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Passion, Anger & A BeeBopping Minivan

Posted by Delaine - March 5, 2009 - Grief/ Anger, Surviving
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Wow. OK. So get this:  I’d just spent a half-hour talking to my lawyer around a flaming issue between me and my ex. Under her counsel, I then wrote my ex an email (with shaking hands), and fired it off just in time to race out the door: I had to pick up my daughter […]

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