We’ve all heard the expression being thrown around in the dating realm: “He/she needs a challenge.”  Maybe it’s even something you’ve said aloud yourself.  But recent conversations I’ve shared with various girlfriends has me wondering: Do we need to thoughtfully consider what this expression really means to us, especially now that we’re starting over?  Does ‘needing a challenge’ look different in our relationships at different stages of our lives?  And is it something we need to be cautious of?

My married and longtime girlfriend Tory threw my ponderings into motion when, as I described to her the kind of man I envision being with in future (intelligent, gentle, a wonderful step-father figure etc), she tacked on: “AND he has to be a challenge.  You need that, Delaine.  You need all these other qualilties too.  BUT – he needs to be a challenge.” (read more here)

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