So apparently the look and feel of our vulvas/vaginas are one more thing we’re to concern ouserlves with as we reconstruct our lives and selves after divorce. Haven’t you heard? We’re supposed to be as pretty and symmetrical as a text-book drawing. Are you a little one-sided? Stretched out? Perhaps a little dangly?
You my not see it. But it’s there… deep within him. It is beyond his admission, beyond his self-awareness. But it’s there, eating away at his soul… His self-loathing. He may seem all blissfully happy-in-love with her; look at that skip in his step. That skips says that he wants nothing more than to ‘get […]
It hit her light a lightning bolt. Within seconds of their meeting, she felt attracted to him. And over the course of the next two hours, as they sat talking and getting to know one another, their chemistry was so intense, she found herself unable to concentrate: her thoughts were roaming under his clothes…tracing up and down his magnificently athletic body… […]
His comments caught me totally off guard: We were out on our second date – me and this handsome, charming, 42-year-old divorced businessman. The Indian food we’d eaten was excellent, as was the conversation we’d shared: satisfying…delicious…with just enough ’spice.’ And as we sat there finishing up the last drops of our red wine, I couldn’t help but think, “DAAhmn – […]
Do you ever wonder if divorce and/or infidelity have ‘hardened’ you? I don’t mean ‘hardened’ as in “made you stronger.” I mean as in, “encased you in a shell of mistrust and bitterness towards the opposite sex.” Cause that’s what happened to me; I wasn’t even conscious of it at the time. Truth is, to this day, I still sometimes struggle with […]
Back when I first got separated and started online dating, I was insulted if any younger man called me a COUGAR. In my mind, ‘cougar’ meant older woman in leopard-skin leotards, teased hair and fake nails that wouldn’t quit. I might be in my late thirties, but excuse me, I wasn’t desperate, skanky, OR a […]
Studies have shown that it’s the ongoing hostilities between divorcing parents that really emotionally damage and traumatize children. So how do you protect your children’s emotional well-being if divorce matters are in the Red Zone, the two of you aren’t speaking, and you can’t even stand being in the same building as him/her? You may ‘know’ you should smile and talk civilly and put […]
I just finished tucking my three children into bed this fine, Christmas Eve. They protested the entire time that they’d be awake “all night” cause they’re so excited. But right now I’m just so happy we shared a lovely evening together. More than happy, I am relieved.
I read the book and last night, I saw the movie. And “He’s Just Not That Into You” clearly revealed how I’d kept my head WAYYYYY up in the clouds when it came to men – my ex-husband included. Time and time and time again, throughout my dating and married life, I have made excuse after […]
This afternoon, my former husband picked up our three kids for the weekend. And as they drove away, I shut my front door and smiled. ‘It’s ME time,” I thought contently. “For the next 48 hours, this full-time divorced mom is officially ‘off-duty’ and free as a bird. Whoopee!” I could have gone out with […]
This past weekend, a very close friend of mine, Darlene, phoned me in a tizzy. Out of the blue, she had been accused by a girlfriend of having an affair with her husband. And since I’d recently been accused of the same by a neighbor, she wanted help sorting through the drama. Now I believe […]
We enjoyed each other for hours. And it was as wonderful as the other four times we’d been together. Passionate. Intense. Deep. Stress-relieving. But as I lay snuggled against him in the aftermath, eyes closed, brain off in Post-Orgasmic Wonderland, I suddenly heard: “I love you, Delaine.” My eyes flew open. Did I imagine that? Oh God, on no, he actually […]
The most dangerous time for a woman in an abusive marriage is when she tries to leave him - that’s when close to 50% of violent crimes are committed, including homocide. And to drive this point home, American rapper Eminem (with Rihanna) doesn’t mix words in his dramatic new release, Love The Way You Lie. The rage, the regret, the control […]
So I spent the wee hours of last Monday night having a ‘private party’ with just me, a bottle of wine, and Alanis Morrisette. Of course, she was just playing on youtube… but I’ll tell you, the music from her album, Jagged Little Pill, sure did hit the spot – especially the song, Ironic. For you see, further […]