Tag: divorced women

The Cheater & His Self-Loathing

Posted by Delaine - March 22, 2014 - Healing, Infidelity, Surviving, Wisdom Gained
cheating man self hate loathing  The Cheater & His Self-Loathing

FROM THE ARCHIVES 2009 You my not see it.   But it’s there… deep within him. It is beyond his admission, beyond his self-awareness. But it’s there,  eating away at his soul… His self-loathing. He may seem all blissfully happy-in-love with her; look at that skip in his step. That skips says that he wants nothing […]

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When Divorced Girlfriends Offend: Too Quick to Criticize Love & Men?

Posted by Delaine - October 23, 2012 - Fears & Challenges, Loving & Trusting, Making It Work, Midlife Divorce, Relationships, Social Barriers & Change, Support & Girlfriends, Surviving
good intentions divorced girlfriends hurt  When Divorced Girlfriends Offend: Too Quick to Criticize Love & Men?

Recently a divorced woman named Sue found herself in a “gross” conversation with her divorced griflriends.  Not “gross” as in the subject matter was lude or disgusting; rather, the conversation left her feeling gross.  For  somehow, her friends’ conversation had shifted to her relationship with her boyfriend –  and as she put it, “It was like […]

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Is Your Dating Mindset SMART or Self-Sabotaging?

Posted by Delaine - February 27, 2012 - Between the Sheets, Concerns & Fears, Cougars & Single Moms, Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches, Internet Dating, Longing...and Learning, Phases/ Stages, slideshow, Support & Girlfriends, Understanding Men/Women, Women's Sexuality dating help after divorce women
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On the heels of recent  letters I’ve received from divorced women –  many who’d just finished reading my memoir –  it really struck me how we all share many of the same fears and challenges as we attempt to date after divorce:  How do I know I’m ready, how do I handle rejection, how do […]

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The Frog & The Scorpion: A Fable that Stings

Posted by Delaine - February 13, 2012 - Dealing with the ex, Surviving
scorpion bully ex  The Frog & The Scorpion: A Fable that Stings

A lone scorpion was travelling across the land when he came upon a river.  Seeing a Frog in the bulrushes nearby by, he  called out: “Hey you!  Frog!   I need to get across this river.  Let me jump on your back and you can carry me across it.” The Frog fervently shook her head: “Not a CHANCE. […]

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The “Good Life”: What Does it Mean to You Since Divorcing?

Posted by Delaine - May 17, 2011 - Career & Money, Managing Money, On being alone, Strong Mind & Spirit, Wisdom Gained
divorced woman good life wealth 300x137  The “Good Life”: What Does it Mean to You Since Divorcing?

Anyone looking in on my life when I was married would have thought, ‘Man, now she‘s living the Good Life.”  Cause in addition to having three beautiful children, a lovely home and lots of ‘toys’, we appeared to have a lot of love and wealth; the quintessential family dream come true. When I chose to file for divorce, […]

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Only Love Can Break Your Heart

Posted by Delaine - April 30, 2011 - From the Dating Trenches, Longing...and Learning
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Written by Peter Ehrlich. I remember the first time I heard Neil Young sing Only Love Can Break Your Heart, I was in my early twenties.  And I remember what I thought about the song.  “Nice little jingle, but I should get back to Keith Richards banging out his signature dirty riffs to All Down […]

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My Next Partner Will Lie Beside Me & Discuss a Good Book

Posted by Delaine - March 25, 2011 - Longing...and Learning, Loving & Trusting, Relationships
divorce mom reading relationship partner  My Next Partner Will Lie Beside Me & Discuss a Good Book

I’ve always yearned to lie beside the man I love and discuss a good book.  To me, the mere idea of it feels romantic.  Intimate.   Even arousing. No man I’ve cared for thus far, my ex-husband included, enjoyed reading books.  Sure, they’d scour over a newspaper or the odd motorcycle  or hunting magazine.  But when it came right down […]

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A Smart, Savy, No BS Girlfriend:We All Need One During Divorce

Posted by Delaine - February 28, 2011 - Legal Matters, Support & Girlfriends, Surviving
girlfriend tough smart divorce1  A Smart, Savy, No BS Girlfriend:We All Need One During Divorce

Smart.  Well-informed.  A ’no- BS’ kind of dame.  This is the type of  girlfriend I think every divorcing woman needs in her corner as she navigates divorce.  Especially if the divorce has gotten tense…and the ex is a dirty fighter. I don’t think it’s the only kind of friend or support we need; there are those whose primarily listen, those who make us forget, those […]

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