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"Friends With Benefits" – A Myth, A Rarity, or A Matter of Luck?

Posted by Delaine - May 18, 2015 - Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches
friends with benefits  "Friends With Benefits" – A Myth, A Rarity, or A Matter of Luck?

From Year Two Post-Divorce When my best friend Hali and I found ourselves newly separated and back out in the dating trenches, we kept hearing the term “Friends With Benefits.”   We both liked the sound of it and decided it was something we wanted.  After all, we weren’t ready for serious, but we wanted to have sex.  Thus a sexual…

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The Many Degrees of ‘Man Craziness': Is It time to Break the Habit?

Posted by Delaine - November 3, 2014 - Concerns & Fears, Dating & Sex, Longing...and Learning, Phases/ Stages
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A lot of divorced women – myself included – go through a ‘man crazy’ phase in the aftermath of divorce. By ‘man-crazy’ I mean some part of them is always thinking about, worried about, or eagerly daydreaming about some guy they plan to meet, want to meet, or hope to meet. There are many different…

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Dating Advice: You Are Not Your Story

Posted by Delaine - May 27, 2014 - Advice, Concerns & Fears, Dating & Sex, Healing, Wisdom Gained
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FROM THE ARCHIVES MAY 2009 A divorced girlfriend of mine was going out on a date – a third date, which rarely happened with her. And as we talked over the phone beforehand, she was almost panicked.“I actually like this man, Delaine. But the timing couldn’t be worse – my life is such a mess,…

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Loving Again After Divorce: I Admit It – I’m Afraid

Posted by Delaine - March 25, 2014 - Dating & Sex, Fears & Challenges, Healing, Longing...and Learning, Loving & Trusting, Phases/ Stages, Relationships
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From year two post-divorce… A close male friend of mine, one whose opinion I value greatly, keeps telling me:  Gypsy (his nickname for me), you are so afraid to fall in love.  You’ve built walls to protect yourself and keep men out, but you must be careful not to become your own prisoner. Immediately I…

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The Cheater & His Self-Loathing

Posted by Delaine - March 22, 2014 - Healing, Infidelity, Surviving, Wisdom Gained
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FROM THE ARCHIVES 2009 You my not see it.   But it’s there… deep within him. It is beyond his admission, beyond his self-awareness. But it’s there,  eating away at his soul… His self-loathing. He may seem all blissfully happy-in-love with her; look at that skip in his step. That skips says that he wants nothing…

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Not Just A ‘Divorcee': I’m a Magnficient Women with A Past

Posted by Delaine - December 23, 2013 - Healing, On being alone, Strong Mind & Spirit, Wisdom Gained
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FROM THE ARCHIVES 2011 There is a feeling under my skin – one that has risen to the surface over the past few years since my divorce. It tells of love, despair, renewal, and adventure. It comes from marrying, birthing, falling, bleeding, daring, reaching and celebrating. It’s a story – a hard-earned one – that is me, but not all of me:…

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This Fiery Divorced Mom Got Burnt Big Time

Posted by Delaine - November 16, 2011 - Single Moms
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Ohhhhh the irony. Over the past few years since divorcing I’ve dug deep and worked hard to rediscover my passion and ‘fire.’  And I have said countless times, both to my myself and others, that “sometimes playing with fire doesn’t burn us, it awakens us.”  A nice play on a metaphor I’d always thought… But this…

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“I Don’t Need A Man” – I’m Calling BS On This Catch Phrase

Posted by Delaine - September 28, 2011 - Healing, On being alone, Phases/ Stages, Understanding Men/Women
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Over the past three years since I got divorced, it is by far THE most popular statement I’ve heard from women: “I don’t need a man”.  And it’s been said with passion.  Power.  Ownership.  As if it’s been EARNED.   And I’ve heard it all over the place: from dinners with girlfriends…to dating sites…. to here…

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Divorced Women: Do You Have a Role Model From A Different Generation?

Posted by Delaine - September 25, 2011 - Midlife Divorce, Social Barriers & Change, Support & Girlfriends
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At 66 years old, my mom is a real firecracker. This woman has so much energy, she makes 20 year olds look like slugs.  But much more than that, mom is confident.  She’s generous beyond belief.  She’s sexy.  Has taken great care of herself.  And she spends her days either working 10 hour shifts in the hospital or…

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Beware the Loose, Wrinkly, Lopsided Vulva!

Posted by Delaine - September 5, 2011 - Career & Money, Concerns & Fears, Dating & Sex, Loving The Skin You're In, Women's Sexuality
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So apparently the look and feel of our vulvas/vaginas are one more thing we’re to concern ouserlves with as we reconstruct our lives and selves after divorce. Haven’t you heard?  We’re supposed to be as pretty and symmetrical as a text-book drawing.  Are you a little one-sided?  Stretched out?  Perhaps a little dangly?

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Relationship Demand: “50% of my To-Do List is yours or I’m done”

Posted by Delaine - September 4, 2011 - Making It Work, Relationships, Understanding Men/Women
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Hmm – I bet the issue in this letter resonates with many of you.  Hi Delaine, I’ve been divorced a couple of times.  A recent acquaintance told me if we were to get serious, she expected me to complete her “To-Do List” every evening after work.  I am tired after work and just want to…

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Do We Falsely Idealize Lifetime Married Couples?

Posted by Delaine - July 30, 2011 - Deciding to Stay or Go, Making It Work, Relationships, slideshow, Social Barriers & Change, Surviving marriage lifetime happy or unhappy divorce
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Unexpected change is sweeping through the lives of some of my dearest girlfriends these days.  It has arrived wearing the face of divorce or break-up.  As a result, deep and complex conversations around the nature of love, secrecy, and commitment have ensued.  And now, for the first time in my life, I find myself seriously…

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Changing Your Name After Divorce

Posted by Delaine - July 10, 2011 - Career & Money, Career Growth & Change, Legal Matters, Midlife Divorce, Surviving
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By Certified Credit Counsellor, Suzanne Cramer While changing your name is often not a priority in the throws of a divorce, somewhere along the line you may find you want to change your name. Changing your name marks a new beginning or a return to the former you; it may not only make you feel better,…

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Drowning In Your Marital Home

Posted by Delaine - July 10, 2011 - Managing Money, slideshow
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By Certified Credit Counsellor, Suzanne Cramer I recently had lunch with a friend who has filed for divorce and is struggling with what to do with their marital home. Their situation is like many today who are faced with selling the marital home after a divorce and for various reasons, market conditions, location, and lack of…

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Sleeping With A Man After Divorce

Posted by Delaine - July 2, 2011 - Between the Sheets, Dating & Sex
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Since separating from my ex-husband two years ago, I haven’t slept with many men; in fact, less than a handful. Oh – let me clarify:  I mean actually sleeping with men.  This has been the case for two reasons.  One, I haven’t wanted to sleep beside most of them.  And two, I usually have my kids at home and…

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Fast or Slow: Consider All Options When It Comes to Divorce

Posted by Delaine - June 21, 2011 - Career & Money, Legal Matters, Managing Money
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By I Am Divorced Not Dead’s recommended Certified Credit Counsellor, Suzanne Cramer As I began the journey through my second divorce, I found myself older and wiser than the first time around. I did considerably more research, including knowing my options when it came to the proceedings. With our current economic conditions, everyone is looking to…

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Should the Kids’ Stepdad Be Honored on Father’s Day?

Posted by Delaine - May 26, 2011 - Blended & Changing Families, Relationships
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This is a question many divorced women ask after they’ve remarried – and one that can be source of stress and fear.  After all, they don’t want to wrongly steal the spotlight from the kids’ biological father, nor do they want to upset their kids.  At the same time, however,  it seems a slap in…

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7 Smart Financial Moves to Make Before Asking for a Divorce

Posted by Delaine - May 12, 2011 - Career & Money, Managing Money
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Contributed by Certified Credit Counsellor Suzanne Cramer. Planning for your divorce is important. After spending years with someone else, parts of your life become entwined with your significant other– finances, belongings, and children, not to mention your self. That being said, when you know it’s time to part ways for whatever reason, you should begin planning…

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Scoring Points with Girlfriends/Wives: Giant Mistake #1

Posted by Delaine - May 10, 2011 - Making It Work, Relationships, Understanding Men/Women
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So you took your lady out for a lovely evening.  It included the works: her favorite restaurant, a film or performance she was dying to see,  romance to the n’th degree, and maybe even a surprise gift of flowers or a piece of jewelery. You could tell by the smile on her face and the…

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Why Women Get Divorced!

Posted by Delaine - May 8, 2011 - Deciding to Stay or Go, Support & Girlfriends, Surviving
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At some in a relationship or marriage, we sit across from our partner and wonder where the romance and passion went… Remember back when he’d wine and dine you and go the extra mile just to see you smile? How he was keen to only put that best foot forward, and how special you felt…

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