Tag: divorced woman

When Divorced Girlfriends Offend: Too Quick to Criticize Love & Men?

Posted by Delaine - October 23, 2012 - Fears & Challenges, Loving & Trusting, Making It Work, Midlife Divorce, Relationships, Social Barriers & Change, Support & Girlfriends, Surviving
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Recently a divorced woman named Sue found herself in a “gross” conversation with her divorced griflriends.  Not “gross” as in the subject matter was lude or disgusting; rather, the conversation left her feeling gross.  For  somehow, her friends’ conversation had shifted to her relationship with her boyfriend –  and as she put it, “It was like […]

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Divorced Women: Do You Have a Role Model From A Different Generation?

Posted by Delaine - September 25, 2011 - Midlife Divorce, Social Barriers & Change, Support & Girlfriends
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At 66 years old, my mom is a real firecracker. This woman has so much energy, she makes 20 year olds look like slugs.  But much more than that, mom is confident.  She’s generous beyond belief.  She’s sexy.  Has taken great care of herself.  And she spends her days either working 10 hour shifts in the hospital or […]

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The “Good Life”: What Does it Mean to You Since Divorcing?

Posted by Delaine - May 17, 2011 - Career & Money, Managing Money, On being alone, Strong Mind & Spirit, Wisdom Gained
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Anyone looking in on my life when I was married would have thought, ‘Man, now she‘s living the Good Life.”  Cause in addition to having three beautiful children, a lovely home and lots of ‘toys’, we appeared to have a lot of love and wealth; the quintessential family dream come true. When I chose to file for divorce, […]

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My Next Partner Will Lie Beside Me & Discuss a Good Book

Posted by Delaine - March 25, 2011 - Longing...and Learning, Loving & Trusting, Relationships
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I’ve always yearned to lie beside the man I love and discuss a good book.  To me, the mere idea of it feels romantic.  Intimate.   Even arousing. No man I’ve cared for thus far, my ex-husband included, enjoyed reading books.  Sure, they’d scour over a newspaper or the odd motorcycle  or hunting magazine.  But when it came right down […]

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The Biggest Mistake I’ve Made Thus Far (Warning: A REAL Disaster!)

Posted by Delaine - March 11, 2011 - Parenting, Single Moms
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Ladies, over the past two years since I began blogging on this site, I’ve been upfront and candid about sharing my Self and life post divorce with you.  And as you well know, my ‘mistakes’ and challenges have traversed virtually every aspect of my life -  dating, sex, divorce legalities, career, single parenting… But today…today I feel compelled to share a biggie […]

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A Smart, Savy, No BS Girlfriend:We All Need One During Divorce

Posted by Delaine - February 28, 2011 - Legal Matters, Support & Girlfriends, Surviving
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Smart.  Well-informed.  A ’no- BS’ kind of dame.  This is the type of  girlfriend I think every divorcing woman needs in her corner as she navigates divorce.  Especially if the divorce has gotten tense…and the ex is a dirty fighter. I don’t think it’s the only kind of friend or support we need; there are those whose primarily listen, those who make us forget, those […]

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True Love…What it is – REALLY?

Posted by Delaine - January 25, 2011 - Longing...and Learning, Loving & Trusting, Relationships, Social Barriers & Change
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What is true love?  This is a question I bet millions of divorcing people ask themselves, myself included.  After all, we all thought we had it…yet it slipped away. Ever since I was little girl this concept of true love was sold to me everywhere: the movies, TV, church, within my family.  It seemed the most magical thing,  the perfect […]

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I Smell A Cheating Husband…You?

Posted by Delaine - November 3, 2010 - Infidelity, Social Barriers & Change, Support & Girlfriends, Surviving
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This past weekend, a very close friend of mine, Darlene, phoned me in a tizzy. Out of the blue, she had been accused by a girlfriend of having an affair with her husband. And since I’d recently been accused of the same by a neighbor, she wanted help sorting through the drama. Now I believe […]

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Another Big Life Passage Is Upon This Full-time Divorced Mom

Posted by Delaine - September 28, 2010 - Career & Money, Career Growth & Change, Healing, Identity, Parenting, Phases/ Stages, Single Moms, Strong Mind & Spirit, Time Without Kids
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Three weeks ago, the youngest of my three children started school full time.  And as she disappeared into the school with a brave look on her face, I stood in the school yard waiting for ‘it’ to hit me: sadness…or at least nostalgia.  I’ve been a stay-at-home mom for ten years after all… But I had tears.  No […]

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LUST: Damned if you give into it, damned if you don’t

Posted by Delaine - June 30, 2010 - Dating & Sex, Internet Dating, Sexual Issues & Kinks, Women's Sexuality
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As my divorced girlfriend Amy told me about a recent first date she went on, she was practically squealing.  For not only was her date smart, funny and gentlemanly, she was very sexually attracted to him.  “I kept having to tell myself to stop staring at his lips,” she laughed.  “My mind kept flashing with scenes of us getting naked!”  So at […]

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What Kind Of Man Wants ‘Serious’ With A Single Mom?

Posted by Delaine - June 16, 2010 - Dating & Sex, Fears & Challenges, Longing...and Learning, On being alone, Relationships, Single Moms
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So I broke up with someone last week – a single dad of two.   He’s the first man I’ve gone out with since divorcing that I contemplated getting serious with whatsoever.  But even though we got along brilliantly, even though he said he was crazy about me, one main thing deterred his interest: the fact that I […]

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How To Meet Men After Divorce: Maybe Rent A Fancy Car?

Posted by Delaine - June 1, 2010 - Concerns & Fears, Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches, Time Without Kids, Understanding Men/Women
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Women often ask what the best place are for them to meet men.  The gym, a dog part, Home Depot, or a great steak house – people always have one idea or another to offer up.  But today, just for fun,  I want to top it off with one more – one that was inspired by a little story […]

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Escaping Divorce With “Edward”

Posted by Delaine - February 2, 2010 - Escaping: Books, Music, Films, Healing, On being alone
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Since separating almost three years ago, my leisurely reading has been very limited and very serious. We’re talking non-fiction and self-help only.   This was for a couple of reasons.  First,  the idea of anything make-believe or romantic repulsed me (I guess experiencing infidelity can have that effect).  Secondly, I had work to do – not only in terms of piecing […]

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A Shocking Confrontation Proves That The ‘Divorcee’ Stereotype Is Alive & Well

Posted by Delaine - October 8, 2009 - Social Barriers & Change, Support & Girlfriends, Surviving
confrontational woman divorcee  A Shocking Confrontation Proves That The ‘Divorcee’ Stereotype Is Alive & Well

I was standing behind my kids’ elementary school, watching my daughter play on the monkey bars, when a neighbor friend suddenly marched up to me. “I need to talk to you, Delaine,” she said seriously. “Sure,” I said concerned; I could tell something was wrong. “What’s up Lori?” “My back is up and I’m feeling […]

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