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Loving Again After Divorce: I Admit It – I’m Afraid

Posted by Delaine - March 25, 2014 - Dating & Sex, Fears & Challenges, Healing, Longing...and Learning, Loving & Trusting, Phases/ Stages, Relationships
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From year two post-divorce… A close male friend of mine, one whose opinion I value greatly, keeps telling me:  Gypsy (his nickname for me), you are so afraid to fall in love.  You’ve built walls to protect yourself and keep men out, but you must be careful not to become your own prisoner. Immediately I…

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When Divorced Girlfriends Offend: Too Quick to Criticize Love & Men?

Posted by Delaine - October 23, 2012 - Fears & Challenges, Loving & Trusting, Making It Work, Midlife Divorce, Relationships, Social Barriers & Change, Support & Girlfriends, Surviving
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Recently a divorced woman named Sue found herself in a “gross” conversation with her divorced griflriends.  Not “gross” as in the subject matter was lude or disgusting; rather, the conversation left her feeling gross.  For  somehow, her friends’ conversation had shifted to her relationship with her boyfriend —  and as she put it, “It was like…

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Divorced Women: Do You Have a Role Model From A Different Generation?

Posted by Delaine - September 25, 2011 - Midlife Divorce, Social Barriers & Change, Support & Girlfriends
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At 66 years old, my mom is a real firecracker. This woman has so much energy, she makes 20 year olds look like slugs.  But much more than that, mom is confident.  She’s generous beyond belief.  She’s sexy.  Has taken great care of herself.  And she spends her days either working 10 hour shifts in the hospital or…

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The “Good Life”: What Does it Mean to You Since Divorcing?

Posted by Delaine - May 17, 2011 - Career & Money, Managing Money, On being alone, Strong Mind & Spirit, Wisdom Gained
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Anyone looking in on my life when I was married would have thought, ‘Man, now she‘s living the Good Life.”  Cause in addition to having three beautiful children, a lovely home and lots of ‘toys’, we appeared to have a lot of love and wealth; the quintessential family dream come true. When I chose to file for divorce,…

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My Next Partner Will Lie Beside Me & Discuss a Good Book

Posted by Delaine - March 25, 2011 - Longing...and Learning, Loving & Trusting, Relationships
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I’ve always yearned to lie beside the man I love and discuss a good book.  To me, the mere idea of it feels romantic.  Intimate.   Even arousing. No man I’ve cared for thus far, my ex-husband included, enjoyed reading books.  Sure, they’d scour over a newspaper or the odd motorcycle  or hunting magazine.  But when it came right down…

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The Biggest Mistake I’ve Made Thus Far (Warning: A REAL Disaster!)

Posted by Delaine - March 11, 2011 - Parenting, Single Moms
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Ladies, over the past two years since I began blogging on this site, I’ve been upfront and candid about sharing my Self and life post divorce with you.  And as you well know, my ‘mistakes’ and challenges have traversed virtually every aspect of my life –  dating, sex, divorce legalities, career, single parenting… But today…today I feel compelled to share a biggie…

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A Smart, Savy, No BS Girlfriend:We All Need One During Divorce

Posted by Delaine - February 28, 2011 - Legal Matters, Support & Girlfriends, Surviving
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Smart.  Well-informed.  A ‘no- BS’ kind of dame.  This is the type of  girlfriend I think every divorcing woman needs in her corner as she navigates divorce.  Especially if the divorce has gotten tense…and the ex is a dirty fighter. I don’t think it’s the only kind of friend or support we need; there are those whose primarily listen, those who make us forget, those…

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True Love…What it is – REALLY?

Posted by Delaine - January 25, 2011 - Longing...and Learning, Loving & Trusting, Relationships, Social Barriers & Change
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What is true love?  This is a question I bet millions of divorcing people ask themselves, myself included.  After all, we all thought we had it…yet it slipped away. Ever since I was little girl this concept of true love was sold to me everywhere: the movies, TV, church, within my family.  It seemed the most magical thing,  the perfect…

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I Smell A Cheating Husband…You?

Posted by Delaine - November 3, 2010 - Infidelity, Social Barriers & Change, Support & Girlfriends, Surviving
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This past weekend, a very close friend of mine, Darlene, phoned me in a tizzy. Out of the blue, she had been accused by a girlfriend of having an affair with her husband. And since I’d recently been accused of the same by a neighbor, she wanted help sorting through the drama. Now I believe…

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Another Big Life Passage Is Upon This Full-time Divorced Mom

Posted by Delaine - September 28, 2010 - Career & Money, Career Growth & Change, Healing, Identity, Parenting, Phases/ Stages, Single Moms, Strong Mind & Spirit, Time Without Kids
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Three weeks ago, the youngest of my three children started school full time.  And as she disappeared into the school with a brave look on her face, I stood in the school yard waiting for ‘it’ to hit me: sadness…or at least nostalgia.  I’ve been a stay-at-home mom for ten years after all… But I had tears.  No…

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What Kind Of Man Wants ‘Serious’ With A Single Mom?

Posted by Delaine - June 16, 2010 - Dating & Sex, Fears & Challenges, Longing...and Learning, On being alone, Relationships, Single Moms
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So I broke up with someone last week – a single dad of two.   He’s the first man I’ve gone out with since divorcing that I contemplated getting serious with whatsoever.  But even though we got along brilliantly, even though he said he was crazy about me, one main thing deterred his interest: the fact that I…

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A Shocking Confrontation Proves That The ‘Divorcee’ Stereotype Is Alive & Well

Posted by Delaine - October 8, 2009 - Social Barriers & Change, Support & Girlfriends, Surviving
confrontational woman divorcee  A Shocking Confrontation Proves That The ‘Divorcee’ Stereotype Is Alive & Well

I was standing behind my kids’ elementary school, watching my daughter play on the monkey bars, when a neighbor friend suddenly marched up to me. “I need to talk to you, Delaine,” she said seriously. “Sure,” I said concerned; I could tell something was wrong. “What’s up Lori?” “My back is up and I’m feeling…

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Is It Wrong to Slam Deadbeat Dads on TV?

Posted by Delaine - June 11, 2009 - Children, Parenting, Single Dads, Social Barriers & Change
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What do you think of the idea of a reality show that exposes fathers who refuse to pay child support?   This is what divorced dad and author Joel Schwartzberg opined on a few days ago in his article, “Is it Wrong to Slam Deadbeat Dads on TV?”  Cause apparently Lifetime TV has announced their intention…

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The Fake Smiles We Give Our Kids During Divorce – Are We REALLY Fooling Them?

Posted by Delaine - June 3, 2009 - Children, Parenting, Single Dads, Single Moms, Surviving
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I love my kids more than life itself.  And since getting divorced, I’ve worked hard to ensure they not only adjusted, but thrived.    But sometimes life circumstances have beaten me down.  And my kids have seen me cry.  They’ve seen me stare out the window.  They’ve seen the shell of a woman named mom…

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Passion, Anger & A BeeBopping Minivan

Posted by Delaine - March 5, 2009 - Grief/ Anger, Surviving
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Wow. OK. So get this:  I’d just spent a half-hour talking to my lawyer around a flaming issue between me and my ex. Under her counsel, I then wrote my ex an email (with shaking hands), and fired it off just in time to race out the door: I had to pick up my daughter…

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Cheating Husband in the Public Swimming Pool

Posted by Delaine - February 28, 2009 - Infidelity
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I was at a public swimming pool with my three kids, playing in the toddler section.  A great big bucket of water above us was almost full and teetering to tip.  My kids squealed and we all huddled in, arms entwined, heads down…till finally, the much-anticipated water crashed over our heads and backs. Laughing, I scooted back…

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Psych Yourself Up and Go Out ANYWAY!

Posted by Delaine - January 30, 2009 - Parenting, Support & Girlfriends, Time Without Kids
go out divorced women  Psych Yourself Up and Go Out ANYWAY!

Goddarnit the excuses roll in sometimes when it’s time to go out.  I mean OUT out – like dancing, having fun, having a few drinks.   “I’m so tired,” is usually my number one bail-out; single parenting and working full-time leave me spent.  Feeling “fat and ugly” is usually excuse number two.  “It’s too much effort to…

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