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Drowning In Your Marital Home

Posted by Delaine - July 10, 2011 - Managing Money, slideshow
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By Certified Credit Counsellor, Suzanne Cramer I recently had lunch with a friend who has filed for divorce and is struggling with what to do with their marital home. Their situation is like many today who are faced with selling the marital home after a divorce and for various reasons, market conditions, location, and lack of…

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My Admiration and Appreciation of Men

Posted by Delaine - February 16, 2011 - Healing, Phases/ Stages, Understanding Men/Women
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It’s happening; I’ve reached a point where I no longer wish to block it.  The ice around my heart is melting…and I’mfeeling my ‘need’ for a man again. It has taken four years of being single to arrive at this place.  It has required I first learn how to be happy on my own.  But now I want…

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True Love…What it is – REALLY?

Posted by Delaine - January 25, 2011 - Longing...and Learning, Loving & Trusting, Relationships, Social Barriers & Change
true love what is it divorce women contemplate  True Love…What it is – REALLY?

What is true love?  This is a question I bet millions of divorcing people ask themselves, myself included.  After all, we all thought we had it…yet it slipped away. Ever since I was little girl this concept of true love was sold to me everywhere: the movies, TV, church, within my family.  It seemed the most magical thing,  the perfect…

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Blast From the Past: Reconnecting With A Long-Long-Ago Flame

Posted by Delaine - January 13, 2011 - Healing, Phases/ Stages, Wisdom Gained
divorced woman highschool college boyfriend  Blast From the Past: Reconnecting With A Long-Long-Ago Flame

Recently I flew to my former hometown of Ottawa, Ontario to visit my family.  And while  there, I experienced something that I bet happens to a lot of divorced women and men: I met up for drinks with an old flame – a boyfriend I hadn’t seen in some 15 years.   Meeting with him wasn’t something I’d…

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Anger & Mistrust of Men: Have Your Walls Become Your Prison?

Posted by Delaine - January 9, 2011 - Fears & Challenges, Grief/ Anger, Healing, Infidelity, Relationships, Wisdom Gained
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Do you ever wonder if divorce and/or infidelity have ‘hardened’ you?  I don’t mean ‘hardened’ as in “made you stronger.”  I mean as in, “encased you in a shell of mistrust and bitterness towards the opposite sex.” Cause that’s what happened to me; I wasn’t even conscious of it at the time.  Truth is, to this day, I still sometimes struggle with…

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Another Big Life Passage Is Upon This Full-time Divorced Mom

Posted by Delaine - September 28, 2010 - Career & Money, Career Growth & Change, Healing, Identity, Parenting, Phases/ Stages, Single Moms, Strong Mind & Spirit, Time Without Kids
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Three weeks ago, the youngest of my three children started school full time.  And as she disappeared into the school with a brave look on her face, I stood in the school yard waiting for ‘it’ to hit me: sadness…or at least nostalgia.  I’ve been a stay-at-home mom for ten years after all… But I had tears.  No…

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Dating Adventure: It really is ironic…don’t you think?

Posted by Delaine - August 9, 2010 - Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches, Internet Dating
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So I spent the wee hours of last Monday night having a ‘private party’ with just me, a bottle of wine, and Alanis Morrisette.  Of course, she was just playing on youtube… but I’ll tell you, the music from her album, Jagged Little Pill, sure did hit the spot  – especially the song, Ironic.  For you see, further…

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Rocky Balboa’s Got Nothing On Single Moms!

Posted by Delaine - June 29, 2010 - Parenting, Single Moms
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I’m writing this article with the theme song of the movie Rocky playing in my mind.  For at this very moment, I don’t just feel like Delaine The Divorced Mother who raises her three kids 95% of the time on her own with no help.  No no –  I am a champion; my feet are dancing…

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Unusual Bedroom Behavior: Signs A Spouse May Be Cheating

Posted by Delaine - March 14, 2010 - Infidelity, Surviving
cheating signs in bedroom  Unusual Bedroom Behavior: Signs A Spouse May Be Cheating

It was only in hindsight that Gail realized that signs of her husband’s cheating had been present for months: in the bedroom. “Out of blue, he kept trying a new sexual position,” said Gail.  “I thought maybe he’d seen it in a movie or something.  ‘C’mon,’ he’d say, ‘Just put these pillows under your hips, I know you’ll love it.’ …

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“I Grew Balls”: How One Wife Confronted The ‘Other Woman’ To Find The Truth

Posted by Delaine - March 9, 2010 - Deciding to Stay or Go, Infidelity, Support & Girlfriends, Surviving
divorced woman balls courage  “I Grew Balls”: How One Wife Confronted The ‘Other Woman’ To Find The Truth

It wasn’t until ’she’ phoned in the middle of the night that Pam became suspicious.  The woman was obviously drunk, her voice a string of slurs.  And when Pam asked, “Who is this?”, all she got heard was “(Giggles) Just a friend…(click).” The next day, Pam confronted her husband.  Completely taken off guard, he insisted they were “only friends.” …

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Redo and Reclaim The Master Bedroom After Divorce – Why & How

Posted by Delaine - January 12, 2010 - Advice, Healing, On being alone, Phases/ Stages
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Within months of separating from my ex two years ago, I suddenly felt an incredible need to redecorate the master bedroom.   I’m not sure if I did it more as a mental distraction at the time, or if some unconscious part of me knew I needed  to ‘get him out of there” and make a new space…

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Dating After Divorce: When You’re A Chameleon, How Do You Know What ‘Type’ You Like?

Posted by Delaine - October 13, 2009 - Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches, Internet Dating, Longing...and Learning
chameleon woman divorced  Dating After Divorce: When You’re A Chameleon, How Do You Know What ‘Type’ You Like?

As I continue to wade through the vast sea of online dating, I find myself feeling impatient with myself.  Not because I want a man pronto, but because I’m STILL not sure what ‘type’ of man I like.  And I wonder, Did I get a chameleon chromosone at birth?  Or do I simply have no idea what…

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Would YOU Go Out To A Bar/Lounge/Dancing By Yourself?

Posted by Delaine - August 11, 2009 - Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches, Social Barriers & Change, Time Without Kids, Understanding Men/Women
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This past Saturday night, I found myself wanting to get dressed up and go out, but all of my girlfriends were busy.  I was frustrated; I didn’t want to spend my limited time off without kids watching a movie at home.  But what was the alternative?  Go to a bar lounge by myself?  No way!…

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Does Your Ex Have A Problem With You Online Dating?

Posted by Delaine - July 23, 2009 - Dating & Sex, Dealing with the ex, Internet Dating
ex tracking spouse online  Does Your Ex Have A Problem With You Online Dating?

I started online dating about six months into my separation. And when my ex-husband found out, it was an ‘awkward’ moment: He was in my office and asked me which site I was on (he knew all the site names, for whatever reason).  He then told me to pull up my profile, (which I did,…

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Sometimes It Sucks Being A Divorced Mom With No Family Support in Town

Posted by Delaine - July 22, 2009 - Parenting, Single Moms
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I’ve put off and put off and put off writing this blog because I was worried about coming across as a whiner.  But as a good friend recently reminded me once again, I’m not SuperWoman.  And so I confess:  I sometimes find it really hard being a divorced mom with no family support here in town.…

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Is It Wrong to Slam Deadbeat Dads on TV?

Posted by Delaine - June 11, 2009 - Children, Parenting, Single Dads, Social Barriers & Change
deadbeat dad effect kids11  Is It Wrong to Slam Deadbeat Dads on TV?

What do you think of the idea of a reality show that exposes fathers who refuse to pay child support?   This is what divorced dad and author Joel Schwartzberg opined on a few days ago in his article, “Is it Wrong to Slam Deadbeat Dads on TV?”  Cause apparently Lifetime TV has announced their intention…

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Overwhelmed by Single Parenting & Working Full-Time

Posted by Delaine - February 24, 2009 - Parenting, Single Dads, Single Moms
single mom losing it  Overwhelmed by Single Parenting & Working Full-Time

I feel like I’m going crazy; pushed and pulled in a hundred different directions.  I should have known today would be one of ‘those days’ when at 6:30 a.m., the scream of one my boys getting hurt while wrestling launched me out of bed. Work deadlines loom, my nanny called in sick, my kids’ schedule today is more demanding than most, kripes –…

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