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"Friends With Benefits" – A Myth, A Rarity, or A Matter of Luck?

Posted by Delaine - May 18, 2015 - Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches
friends with benefits  "Friends With Benefits" – A Myth, A Rarity, or A Matter of Luck?

From Year Two Post-Divorce When my best friend Hali and I found ourselves newly separated and back out in the dating trenches, we kept hearing the term “Friends With Benefits.”   We both liked the sound of it and decided it was something we wanted.  After all, we weren’t ready for serious, but we wanted to have sex.  Thus a sexual…

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Loving Again After Divorce: I Admit It – I’m Afraid

Posted by Delaine - March 25, 2014 - Dating & Sex, Fears & Challenges, Healing, Longing...and Learning, Loving & Trusting, Phases/ Stages, Relationships
divorce fear of love1  Loving Again After Divorce: I Admit It – I’m Afraid

From year two post-divorce… A close male friend of mine, one whose opinion I value greatly, keeps telling me:  Gypsy (his nickname for me), you are so afraid to fall in love.  You’ve built walls to protect yourself and keep men out, but you must be careful not to become your own prisoner. Immediately I…

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Sleeping With A Man After Divorce

Posted by Delaine - July 2, 2011 - Between the Sheets, Dating & Sex
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Since separating from my ex-husband two years ago, I haven’t slept with many men; in fact, less than a handful. Oh – let me clarify:  I mean actually sleeping with men.  This has been the case for two reasons.  One, I haven’t wanted to sleep beside most of them.  And two, I usually have my kids at home and…

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“TigerText”- A Way For Cheaters to Cover Their Tracks

Posted by Delaine - December 27, 2010 - Infidelity, Surviving
tiger text cheaters  “TigerText”- A Way For Cheaters to Cover Their Tracks

It’s something I bet Tiger Woods wished he’d had – and something everyone, including cheaters, can now take advantage of.  It’s called TigerText.  And it can kill embarassing text messages or ‘evidence’ – forever. Released in February 2010 by California start-up, X Sigma Partners, TigerText is an iPhone application that enables users to set a lifespan on messages…

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“Ex” – An Ugly Little Word?

Posted by Delaine - October 6, 2010 - Dealing with the ex, Parenting, Single Dads, Single Moms, Social Barriers & Change, Surviving
ex huaband ex wife word ex divorce  “Ex” – An Ugly Little Word?

“EX-husband,”  “EX-wife,”  “The EX.”   The term “ex” is one we all use after divorce, in both our written and oral communications.  It’s something we don’t  give much thought to either – it’s just part of the English language, right?  But have you ever noticed how you feel when say it?   What about when someone ELSE uses it in conversation?  Cause…

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When Women Wear Blinders to the Truth

Posted by Delaine - September 16, 2010 - Infidelity, Loving & Trusting, Relationships, Surviving
liar manipulator ex husband  When Women Wear Blinders to the Truth

Have you ever observed a woman sinking deeper and deeper into a bad relationship and know that it is not your job to intervene? What if this woman was with your ex-husband? Take Carrie as an example. The relationship she is currently involved in has ‘Destructive’ written all over it –  but either she’s too naïve…

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“Love The Way You Lie” Spotlights Domestic Abuse

Posted by Delaine - August 11, 2010 - Abuse, Surviving
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The most dangerous time for a woman in an abusive marriage is when she tries to leave him – that’s when close to 50% of violent crimes are committed, including homocide.  And to drive this point home, American rapper Eminem (with Rihanna) doesn’t mix words in his dramatic new release, Love The Way You Lie.  The rage, the regret, the control…

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Dating Adventure: It really is ironic…don’t you think?

Posted by Delaine - August 9, 2010 - Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches, Internet Dating
irony amelia delayne1  Dating Adventure: It really is ironic…don’t you think?

So I spent the wee hours of last Monday night having a ‘private party’ with just me, a bottle of wine, and Alanis Morrisette.  Of course, she was just playing on youtube… but I’ll tell you, the music from her album, Jagged Little Pill, sure did hit the spot  – especially the song, Ironic.  For you see, further…

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Terrible Communication With The Ex: Do you ever wonder, Is It ME?

Posted by Delaine - August 3, 2010 - Dealing with the ex, Legal Matters, Surviving
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Have you ever a conversation with your ex where his position on issues seemed so blatantly wrong, his perception so skewed, that you sat there wondering, “Am I really off so off the mark on this?  Truly, am I too stupid to get it?   Is it ME?” Cause I have; or rather I am.  I think that overall…

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And JUST LIKE THAT, True Love Might Enter Your Life

Posted by Delaine - April 13, 2010 - Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches, Loving & Trusting, Relationships
unexpected love after divorce1  And JUST LIKE THAT, True Love Might Enter Your Life

Shannon’s day had been typical and ordinary; she’d had no ’signs’ or reasons to think it might be anything but.   At 5 o’clock, having finishing her nursing shift at the hospital, she decided to stop in at a trendy bistro for a drink;  having a drink alone was no big deal to her whatsoever.  She stomped out her cigarette…

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Unusual Bedroom Behavior: Signs A Spouse May Be Cheating

Posted by Delaine - March 14, 2010 - Infidelity, Surviving
cheating signs in bedroom  Unusual Bedroom Behavior: Signs A Spouse May Be Cheating

It was only in hindsight that Gail realized that signs of her husband’s cheating had been present for months: in the bedroom. “Out of blue, he kept trying a new sexual position,” said Gail.  “I thought maybe he’d seen it in a movie or something.  ‘C’mon,’ he’d say, ‘Just put these pillows under your hips, I know you’ll love it.’ …

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“I Grew Balls”: How One Wife Confronted The ‘Other Woman’ To Find The Truth

Posted by Delaine - March 9, 2010 - Deciding to Stay or Go, Infidelity, Support & Girlfriends, Surviving
divorced woman balls courage  “I Grew Balls”: How One Wife Confronted The ‘Other Woman’ To Find The Truth

It wasn’t until ’she’ phoned in the middle of the night that Pam became suspicious.  The woman was obviously drunk, her voice a string of slurs.  And when Pam asked, “Who is this?”, all she got heard was “(Giggles) Just a friend…(click).” The next day, Pam confronted her husband.  Completely taken off guard, he insisted they were “only friends.” …

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Legal Action Can Help Mold A Child-Like Ex Into A “Better Man”

Posted by Delaine - March 2, 2010 - Dealing with the ex, Legal Matters, Surviving
divorced dad immature  Legal Action Can Help Mold A Child-Like Ex Into A “Better Man”

Sometimes dealing with an ex can feel like you’re dealing with a child:  you give and give and give….you kindly explain the same thing over and over and over again …yet still they don’t ‘get it.’ And though it’s sad to say – and painful to have to do – sometimes we have to take legal action to…

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To Change Or Not To Change The LOCKS After Separating

Posted by Delaine - February 3, 2010 - Advice, Dealing with the ex, On being alone, Support & Girlfriends, Surviving
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Two months into his divorce, Mike returned home early from work one afternoon to a big surprise:  his ex-wife had let herself in and was standing in his living room.   “I needed to come by and pick up a few things,” she said casually.  “I tried calling you earlier.  Didn’t you get my message?  I didn’t think you’d mind…”…

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Serving It Up Cold To That Lying, Cheating Bastard

Posted by Delaine - January 26, 2010 - Escaping: Books, Music, Films, Grief/ Anger, Infidelity, Surviving
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When you found out your spouse was cheating, were you obsessed with thoughts of revenge?  Throwing all his clothes in a heap on the lawn…slashing his tires…or forwarding copies of his cyber sex sessions to his entire address book?   Maybe your fantasies were more devious – perhaps they involved some Superglue and the bathroom throne.  Or maybe…

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Redo and Reclaim The Master Bedroom After Divorce – Why & How

Posted by Delaine - January 12, 2010 - Advice, Healing, On being alone, Phases/ Stages
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Within months of separating from my ex two years ago, I suddenly felt an incredible need to redecorate the master bedroom.   I’m not sure if I did it more as a mental distraction at the time, or if some unconscious part of me knew I needed  to ‘get him out of there” and make a new space…

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Improve Communication With Your Ex-Spouse (BONUS: Avoid Seeing His/Her Face)

Posted by Delaine - January 8, 2010 - Co-Parenting, Dealing with the ex, Parenting, Surviving, Trying to Get Along
impossible ex1  Improve Communication With Your Ex-Spouse (BONUS: Avoid Seeing His/Her Face)

This past week, a divorcing girlfriend told me about ’collaborative software’, something her divorce mediator had recommended. Her and her ex’s parenting schedules are hectic and becoming a source of contention because of miscommunication. Moreover, she’s at the point where she really doesn’t want to see his face or talk to him if she doesn’t…

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Stop, Hey – What’s That Sound? Unresolved Legal Issues Pulling You Down…

Posted by Delaine - December 24, 2009 - Children, Legal Matters, Surviving
divorce affidavit1  Stop, Hey – What’s That Sound? Unresolved Legal Issues Pulling You Down…

I’m not a divorce lawyer.  But I’m a divorce expert in my own rite.  And now that I’m two years into my divorce, there’s one golden nugget of advice I’d like to pass onto those newly divorcing:  Get EVERYTHING down in writing – signed, sealed and wrapped up – otherwise, there’s a good chance you’ll be postponing the inevitable…

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Nothing Says “Merry Christmas” Like A Divorce Voucher

Posted by Delaine - December 22, 2009 - Deciding to Stay or Go, Support & Girlfriends, Surviving
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These days you name it and you can find it in gift certificate form – spa treatments, movies, furniture…  But what do you think of the idea of a ‘Divorce Voucher’ as a Christmas gift?’ A few weeks ago, a law firm in England named Lloyd Platt and Company began offering such vouchers as gifts for the…

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When the Ex Treats “Favors” Like Demands

Posted by Delaine - December 1, 2009 - Children, Dealing with the ex, Surviving
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I’ve seen it happen on too many occasions to count : ex-partners making demands of their former spouses instead of treating them as the ‘favors’ they truly are.  Is their attitude in part caused by ignorance of the law and parenting?  Perhaps.  Could their demands, in part, be a control tactic?  That’s possible too; an attitude of ‘entitlement’…

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