Tag: divorce survival

Divorced Women: Do You Have a Role Model From A Different Generation?

Posted by Delaine - September 25, 2011 - Midlife Divorce, Social Barriers & Change, Support & Girlfriends
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At 66 years old, my mom is a real firecracker. This woman has so much energy, she makes 20 year olds look like slugs.  But much more than that, mom is confident.  She’s generous beyond belief.  She’s sexy.  Has taken great care of herself.  And she spends her days either working 10 hour shifts in the hospital or […]

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Do We Falsely Idealize Lifetime Married Couples?

Posted by Delaine - July 30, 2011 - Deciding to Stay or Go, Making It Work, Relationships, slideshow, Social Barriers & Change, Surviving marriage lifetime happy or unhappy divorce
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Unexpected change is sweeping through the lives of some of my dearest girlfriends these days.  It has arrived wearing the face of divorce or break-up.  As a result, deep and complex conversations around the nature of love, secrecy, and commitment have ensued.  And now, for the first time in my life, I find myself seriously […]

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Out of the Divorce Tornado: Free Telesummit This Week

Posted by Delaine - March 23, 2011 - Advice
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I know that many of you, my readers, are new to divorce and feeling overwhelming by the Divorce Tornado, your minds swimming with questions around divorce and children, single parenting, how to date, and most importantly, how to move beyond the insanity. Thus, I wanted to let to let you know about a free, 2-day […]

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Are You & Casual Sex A Good Fit Right Now?

Posted by Delaine - March 21, 2011 - Between the Sheets, Dating & Sex, Women's Sexuality
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So today I want to talk about casual sex.  Not to promote it, but to get real around it – cause oftentimes after divorce, we know we aren’t ready for a serious relationship BUT…the bod screams, “I want some action, damnit!’  I know first-hand that being pent-up can lead us to feel irritable, unable to concentrate, and just plain […]

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Critical Guidelines for Divorced and/or Remarried Parents

Posted by Delaine - February 28, 2011 - Blended & Changing Families, Children, Co-Parenting, Dealing with the ex, Parenting, Trying to Get Along
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Written by blended family expert Shirley Cress Dudley. 1- Keep contact to a minimum. One phone call a day is excessive, several text messages a day is extremely excessive. If you have a subject related to the kids, speak briefly and clearly about your expectations. Emails are better than phone calls if your issue is […]

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The Greatest Male Lovers Open Their Hearts, Not Just Their Zippers – EVEN During First Times

Posted by Delaine - February 21, 2011 - Between the Sheets, Dating & Sex
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It hit her light a lightning bolt.  Within seconds of their meeting, she felt attracted to him.   And over the course of the next two hours, as they sat talking and getting to know one another, their chemistry was so intense, she found herself unable to concentrate: her thoughts were roaming under his clothes…tracing up and down his magnificently athletic body… […]

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“Bad Men” Bring Us Tremendous Gifts

Posted by Delaine - January 24, 2011 - Fears & Challenges, Healing, Longing...and Learning, Relationships, Wisdom Gained
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Almost all women at some point in their lives attract a ‘bad man’; some of us marry him. And by ‘bad,’ I’m not simply referring to men who are drug lords, pimps, or wife abusers. No, “bad men” are men who don’ treat us and love us as wonderfully as we deserve. They are, as […]

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Survival Mode: “Existing” Post Infidelity & Divorce

Posted by Delaine - January 19, 2011 - Grief/ Anger, Infidelity, Surviving
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“Hang tough Delaine – things are going to better.   You really are better without him…” Many, many times I heard these words from girlfriends when I found out my ex was cheating.  I knew they were right, that at some point things HAD to get better.  But while in the throes of my grief, those words felt […]

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Anger & Mistrust of Men: Have Your Walls Become Your Prison?

Posted by Delaine - January 9, 2011 - Fears & Challenges, Grief/ Anger, Healing, Infidelity, Relationships, Wisdom Gained
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Do you ever wonder if divorce and/or infidelity have ‘hardened’ you?  I don’t mean ‘hardened’ as in “made you stronger.”  I mean as in, “encased you in a shell of mistrust and bitterness towards the opposite sex.” Cause that’s what happened to me; I wasn’t even conscious of it at the time.  Truth is, to this day, I still sometimes struggle with […]

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Divorced Women: Sized Up & Judged by Married Women

Posted by Delaine - January 3, 2011 - Social Barriers & Change, Support & Girlfriends
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Sonya looks incredible at age 43.  Having recently become a marathon runner and dedicated herself to an intense training regime,  she has a figure – and a muscle/fat ratio -  most of us would give our eye-teeth  for. But Sonya is also divorced.  And just because of the ’D’ label, she has had to deal with something most divorced women […]

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Divorced Ladies: Is It Time To Unleash YOUR Cougar?

Posted by Delaine - January 1, 2011 - Cougars & Single Moms, Dating & Sex
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Back when I first got separated and started online dating, I was insulted if any younger man called me a COUGAR. In my mind, ‘cougar’ meant older woman in leopard-skin leotards, teased hair and fake nails that wouldn’t quit. I might be in my late thirties, but excuse me, I wasn’t desperate, skanky, OR a […]

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How Do You Spend Your Time Without Kids? Pity Party or Private Party?

Posted by Delaine - December 15, 2010 - Parenting, Time Without Kids
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This afternoon, my former husband picked up our three kids for the weekend. And as they drove away, I shut my front door and smiled. ‘It’s ME time,” I thought contently. “For the next 48 hours, this full-time divorced mom is officially ‘off-duty’ and free as a bird. Whoopee!” I could have gone out with […]

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“Time” – Can A Busy Divorced Mom Make it Her Friend?

Posted by Delaine - December 14, 2010 - Career & Money, Parenting, Single Moms
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“Even if the day was 36 hours long, I still couldn’t accomplish everything I need to do.” “I’m spread so thinly I feel like I’m sucking in every area of my life.” “With three young kids AND working full-time, I never get enough time for ME.”

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The Results of a Divorced Father’s Biting Words

Posted by Delaine - November 23, 2010 - Parenting, Single Dads
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Over the past couple of months, Shelia has been quietly optimistic around her ex-husband’s relationship with their children, particularly their 10-year-old son.  For you see, since this past September he has been taking their kids on sleepovers twice a month – a  HUGE improvement over his ‘maybe’ once- every-four-to-six-weeks track record. He even began volunteering as an assistant coach for […]

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