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FROM THE ARCHIVES: Does Penis Size Matter?

Posted by ekzact_team - February 13, 2014 - Dating & Sex, slideshow dating after divorce, sex, penis size, size matter? what women think, french men big penises
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(From July, 2010.  Year Two post-divorce) The topic of men’s penis size was brought to my attention YET AGAIN this morning in an article on Fox.com: A new study revealed that French men need the largest condoms in Europe while Greeks get by on the small ones. This study by a German consultancy asked 10,500 men […]

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Good-bye Husband, Hello G-SPOT!

Posted by Delaine - June 12, 2012 - Between the Sheets, Dating & Sex, Women's Sexuality
G spot orgasm divorce  Good-bye Husband, Hello G-SPOT!

FROM THE ARCHIVES – 2008 By the end of her marriage, she’d given up trying to have a G-spot orgasm; she thought maybe anatomically she wasn’t capable of one.  But one night post divorce, that G-bomb came out of nowhere: KA-POWEE.  It was a back-arching, sould-screaming, ‘Hallelujah!’   Afterwards however, she was freaked out – […]

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Not Just A ‘Divorcee’: I’m a Magnficient Women with A Past

Posted by Delaine - January 23, 2012 - Healing, On being alone, Strong Mind & Spirit, Wisdom Gained
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There is a feeling under my skin - one that has risen to the surface over the past few years since my divorce. It tells of love, despair, renewal, and adventure. It comes from marrying, birthing, falling, bleeding, daring, reaching and celebrating. It’s a story – a hard-earned one – that is me, but not all of me: I am becoming a  “A […]

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A Smart, Savy, No BS Girlfriend:We All Need One During Divorce

Posted by Delaine - February 28, 2011 - Legal Matters, Support & Girlfriends, Surviving
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Smart.  Well-informed.  A ’no- BS’ kind of dame.  This is the type of  girlfriend I think every divorcing woman needs in her corner as she navigates divorce.  Especially if the divorce has gotten tense…and the ex is a dirty fighter. I don’t think it’s the only kind of friend or support we need; there are those whose primarily listen, those who make us forget, those […]

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“Bad Men” Bring Us Tremendous Gifts

Posted by Delaine - January 24, 2011 - Fears & Challenges, Healing, Longing...and Learning, Relationships, Wisdom Gained
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Almost all women at some point in their lives attract a ‘bad man’; some of us marry him. And by ‘bad,’ I’m not simply referring to men who are drug lords, pimps, or wife abusers. No, “bad men” are men who don’ treat us and love us as wonderfully as we deserve. They are, as […]

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Survival Mode: “Existing” Post Infidelity & Divorce

Posted by Delaine - January 19, 2011 - Grief/ Anger, Infidelity, Surviving
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“Hang tough Delaine – things are going to better.   You really are better without him…” Many, many times I heard these words from girlfriends when I found out my ex was cheating.  I knew they were right, that at some point things HAD to get better.  But while in the throes of my grief, those words felt […]

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Valentine’s Day Grump

Posted by Delaine - January 1, 2011 - Grief/ Anger, Surviving
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(A Divorced Reader’s ‘FIRST’ Valentine’s Day after divorce) I admit it. This Valentine’s Day thing has me rolling my eyes. I don’t want to say it aloud to all my happily married and in-love friends. But all the dreamy romanticism of this holiday makes me want to …well…spew. I know it’s cause I’m not ready for a […]

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Anger Phase: Men’s Neediness Makes My Bloodstream Turn Cold

Posted by Delaine - December 9, 2009 - Dating & Sex, Grief/ Anger, Phases/ Stages, Surviving
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I’ve noticed a new tendency emerging in how I deal with men I date. And before I proceed, let me reiterate that I tell every man I date, straight out, that I’m NOT looking for serious; I’m NOT READY. So what happens is that when I’m having a conversation with a man and I perceive ‘neediness’ on […]

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Internet Dating:Can Too Much Pre-Talk Wreck the In-Person Meeting?

Posted by Delaine - May 22, 2009 - Dating & Sex, Internet Dating
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A friend of mine recently asked me this question, and I’m curious as to what you think: If you talk to a prospective online date a lot by phone or IM, can it spoil the in-person meeting? My personal opinion?  Yes, it can.    Now don’t get me wrong – I always pre-screen a man once or twice by phone or through […]

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Dating After Divorce: Is a ‘Spark” Necessary?

Posted by Delaine - April 27, 2009 - Cougars & Single Moms, Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches
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He was sooooo nice.  So very, very nice.  Well-spoken… mature… a fun personality.  And I really did enjoy talking to him.  But I felt no spark;  I just wasn’t attracted to him.  Not just physically, but energetically. He wanted to meet me for a second date.  I really didnt want to…but again, I went over his very nice qualities.  “He’s […]

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BALANCE – How Does a Full-Time Working Mom/Dad Measure It?

Posted by Delaine - April 21, 2009 - Parenting, Single Dads, Single Moms
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  We hear about it all the time – this thing called “balance.” We’re told it’s something we all need and should strive for.  And if we’d just get our acts together, devote the time to properly mastering the art of juggling, we’d acheive it too. But you know what I’ve never understood?  How it is […]

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This Divorced Mom Asks: “Do I Disqualify Men Too Quickly?”

Posted by Delaine - April 17, 2009 - Concerns & Fears, Cougars & Single Moms, Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches, Internet Dating
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According to my best friend Hali, I do.   Disqualify men too quickly, that is. Over drinks this past weekend, I was telling her about my dating life, when she quickly inserted: “Ummm Delaine…what dating life?” I laughed, rather taken aback. “What do you mean? You know I’m still on a couple of dating sites.”

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A Handsome ‘Good Man’ Helps Restore My Faith in Men

Posted by Delaine - April 14, 2009 - Dating & Sex, Healing, Longing...and Learning, Phases/ Stages, Wisdom Gained
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I wasn’t looking for him. He was totally unplanned. But our emails progressed so quickly – naturally – that now, one month into our daily correspondence, his purpose in my life has emerged:   The universe deliberately brought me a Good Man. Not to be my partner, nor champion of life dreams. But to help […]

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Would You/ Have You Tried Cyber Sex?

Posted by Delaine - April 12, 2009 - Concerns & Fears, Dating & Sex, Internet Dating
internet sex divorce  Would You/ Have You Tried Cyber Sex?

A newly-divorcing woman wrote me this weekend to say she’d begun internet dating after 10 years of marriage.  “But I don’t get this cyber sex thing,” she said.  “It seems like many men are looking for it.  And in all honesty, I’ve been tempted.  Have YOU had cyber sex Delaine?” Well (clearing throat), even though […]

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