Tag: divorce grief

When Men Quickly “Replace” After Separation or Divorce

Posted by Delaine - September 11, 2013 - Dealing with the ex, Fears & Challenges, Grief/ Anger, Loving & Trusting, Relationships, Surviving, Understanding Men/Women
men replace quickly after divorce  When Men Quickly “Replace” After Separation or Divorce

When Barb contacted me via email last week, she was clearly very upset.  Only six months into her divorce, she’d discovered that her separated husband had a new serious girlfriend; they were even making plans to move in together.  “It’s not that I want him back,” she wrote.  “But it’s such a slap in the face – […]

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The #1 Thing I Wish Someone Had Told Me about Divorce

Posted by Delaine - February 1, 2011 - Children, Dealing with the ex, Grief/ Anger
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Don’t expect to be friends with your ex.  Not at the start anyways.  This is what I wish someone, or many people, had told me at the beginning of my divorce. I’m not saying you should expect to be enemies; no, not at all.  I’m saying you should aim for something in the middle – like a […]

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True Love…What it is – REALLY?

Posted by Delaine - January 25, 2011 - Longing...and Learning, Loving & Trusting, Relationships, Social Barriers & Change
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What is true love?  This is a question I bet millions of divorcing people ask themselves, myself included.  After all, we all thought we had it…yet it slipped away. Ever since I was little girl this concept of true love was sold to me everywhere: the movies, TV, church, within my family.  It seemed the most magical thing,  the perfect […]

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Survival Mode: “Existing” Post Infidelity & Divorce

Posted by Delaine - January 19, 2011 - Grief/ Anger, Infidelity, Surviving
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“Hang tough Delaine – things are going to better.   You really are better without him…” Many, many times I heard these words from girlfriends when I found out my ex was cheating.  I knew they were right, that at some point things HAD to get better.  But while in the throes of my grief, those words felt […]

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Loving…Without Attachment: A Prescription for Hurting Hearts?

Posted by Delaine - May 8, 2009 - Dating & Sex, Healing, Longing...and Learning, Wisdom Gained
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Laughing. Making love. Holding. Pillow talking…   No, I’m not fantasizing about falling in love again.   I’m imagining what it would be like to experience a weekend of ‘love without attachment.’ 

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My Anger Towards Men Speaks: Second Year into my Divorce

Posted by Delaine - March 3, 2009 - Dating & Sex, Healing, Internet Dating, Phases/ Stages
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Over the past couple of months, men from the dating site, Lavalife, have started asking me the above question. The question comes in various renditions, from a simple “STILL on here, eh?” to “I can’t believe you still haven’t been snatched up!” Time and time again though, my reaction has been the same: to roll […]

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Why Must She Doubt Herself Throughout Her Divorce?

Posted by Delaine - February 27, 2009 - Abuse, Dealing with the ex, Surviving
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Lena, 32,  is grappling right now; her head is swimming, her stomach’s in a knot.  She’s scared, she’s angry with her ex, but above all, she’s frustrated with HERSELF.  Why?  Because she’s still have trouble saying/admitting that her ex-husband behaves like a selfish, immature bully, even though that’s exactly what he is.   She can’t stand thinking this way about anyone; it seems […]

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Communicating with the Ex: Learn to Bite Your Tongue

Posted by Delaine - February 17, 2009 - Dealing with the ex, Surviving
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You’re on the phone with your ex, courteously discussing a pending issue related to your kids or your divorce.  Suddenly, ‘it’ happens – his voice turns whiney and he starts singing the ‘poor-me’ blues. Or maybe he throws in an unexpected mean remark.  Or maybe, just maybe, he decides to start venting – and you find you and your character […]

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Divorce Pain: Alone Without Kids for the First Time

Posted by Delaine - December 22, 2008 - Children, Grief/ Anger, Surviving
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“My ex-husband took the kids for the first time this weekend. And my heart is so heavy.”   This message awaited me from a newly-divorcing friend on Facebook this morning.  She was floundering, her free time only reminding her how empty and confused she felt.    I read her message with a tight chest:  I […]

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