Posted by Delaine - March 24, 2012 - Between the Sheets, Concerns & Fears, Cougars & Single Moms, Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches, Single Moms, Social Barriers & Change, Women's Sexuality
Oh my God, I am so paranoid. I just can’t seem to escape it. Might as well go ahead and write on my tombstone: Loving mom,dedicated friend, Had sex with two different men in one weekend, Devoted her life to worrying about it. But now that a few days had past since last weekend’s promiscuity, [...]
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Posted by Delaine - February 27, 2012 - Between the Sheets, Concerns & Fears, Cougars & Single Moms, Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches, Internet Dating, Longing...and Learning, Phases/ Stages, slideshow, Support & Girlfriends, Understanding Men/Women, Women's Sexuality
On the heels of recent letters I’ve received from divorced women – many who’d just finished reading my memoir – it really struck me how we all share many of the same fears and challenges as we attempt to date after divorce: How do I know I’m ready, how do I handle rejection, how do [...]
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Posted by Delaine - January 24, 2012 - Fears & Challenges, Longing...and Learning, Loving & Trusting, Phases/ Stages, Relationships
Thinking back to my twenties, I remember I said the words “I love you” very soon in my relationships with men. The “love feelings” would overwhelm me: the closeness, the intimacy, the peace of feeling cared for and apart from the rest of the world. The warmth and power of these feelings would fill my chest, sometimes to the [...]
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Posted by Delaine - January 23, 2012 - Healing, On being alone, Strong Mind & Spirit, Wisdom Gained
There is a feeling under my skin - one that has risen to the surface over the past few years since my divorce. It tells of love, despair, renewal, and adventure. It comes from marrying, birthing, falling, bleeding, daring, reaching and celebrating. It’s a story – a hard-earned one – that is me, but not all of me: I am becoming a “A [...]
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Posted by Delaine - January 16, 2012 - Relationships, Sex
It’s a taboo subject in our culture: Married women, who dislike — even hate — having sex with their husbands. It’s a subject usually held in silence, behind embarrassment, confusion, sometimes even apathy. It’s consoled with inner placations, like “There’s more important things in a marriage than sex”, or “This is just a phase” or [...]
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Posted by Delaine - January 15, 2012 - Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches, slideshow
I’ve grown accustomed these past years since divorcing to creating dinner menus suitable for young kids – that is, not too fancy, easy to make, and rarely ethnic. Cause whenever I’ve veered off this menu plan, little noses would turn up and I’d hear, “Can I have a bowl of cereal instead?” (Frustrating!!!!) When we’re dating after [...]
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