Tag: Delaine Moore

The Many Degrees of ‘Man Craziness': Is It time to Break the Habit?

Posted by Delaine - November 3, 2014 - Concerns & Fears, Dating & Sex, Longing...and Learning, Phases/ Stages
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A lot of divorced women – myself included – go through a ‘man crazy’ phase in the aftermath of divorce. By ‘man-crazy’ I mean some part of them is always thinking about, worried about, or eagerly daydreaming about some guy they plan to meet, want to meet, or hope to meet. There are many different…

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Dating Advice: You Are Not Your Story

Posted by Delaine - May 27, 2014 - Advice, Concerns & Fears, Dating & Sex, Healing, Wisdom Gained
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FROM THE ARCHIVES MAY 2009 A divorced girlfriend of mine was going out on a date – a third date, which rarely happened with her. And as we talked over the phone beforehand, she was almost panicked.“I actually like this man, Delaine. But the timing couldn’t be worse – my life is such a mess,…

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Talking Dating & Sex After Divorce on CTV's The Social

Posted by Delaine - April 3, 2014 - Between the Sheets, Concerns & Fears, Cougars & Single Moms, Dating & Sex, Internet Dating, Longing...and Learning, Women's Sexuality
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I had the amazing opportunity on April 2 to go on CTV’s daytime talk show, The Social, to talk about the challenging world of dating and sex after divorce. I can’t embed it yet here, cause it’s not yet uploaded to YouTube. But at the very least, I want to provide you with the link…

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The Cheater & His Self-Loathing

Posted by Delaine - March 22, 2014 - Healing, Infidelity, Surviving, Wisdom Gained
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FROM THE ARCHIVES 2009 You my not see it.   But it’s there… deep within him. It is beyond his admission, beyond his self-awareness. But it’s there,  eating away at his soul… His self-loathing. He may seem all blissfully happy-in-love with her; look at that skip in his step. That skips says that he wants nothing…

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Thoughts on the “Next Serious Relationship” After Divorce

Posted by Delaine - January 10, 2014 - Blended & Changing Families, Fears & Challenges, Loving & Trusting, Making It Work, Relationships
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The title of this blog may be a bit misleading.  Cause I don’t want to talk in a professional  tone or way about the “next serious relationship” after divorce.  I want to talk about mine. That’s right.  MY next serious relationship.  I had one for over 20 months.  And I never told you anything about…

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When Men Quickly “Replace” After Separation or Divorce

Posted by Delaine - September 11, 2013 - Dealing with the ex, Fears & Challenges, Grief/ Anger, Loving & Trusting, Relationships, Surviving, Understanding Men/Women
men replace quickly after divorce  When Men Quickly “Replace” After Separation or Divorce

When Barb contacted me via email last week, she was clearly very upset.  Only six months into her divorce, she’d discovered that her separated husband had a new serious girlfriend; they were even making plans to move in together.  “It’s not that I want him back,” she wrote.  “But it’s such a slap in the face –…

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Living Vacariously: Dating & Sex Books for the Divorced

Posted by Delaine - January 30, 2013 - Between the Sheets, Concerns & Fears, Cougars & Single Moms, Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches, Internet Dating, Longing...and Learning, On Writing My Book, Relationships, Sexual Issues & Kinks, Understanding Men/Women, Women's Sexuality
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Done With Fifty Shades of Grey….NOW What? By Zlata Faerman A good friend of mine recently told me, “Reading Fifty Shades of Grey literally changed my sex life.” When I asked her to explain further (even though, duh, I’m reading it too, so I get it), she said that she’s hasn’t felt so sexually charged…

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“The Secret Sex Life of a Single Mom” in the UK

Posted by Delaine - July 27, 2012 - On Writing My Book, slideshow united_kingdom_bristol The Secret Sex Life of a SIngle Mom1
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Ever since my memoir The Secret Sex Life of a Single Mom was released I’ve avoided reading reviews.  I figured I’ve done my job to the best of my ability…and the book will find its way into the right people’s hands if it’s meant to be… Tonight, however, I stumbled upon this one, written by…

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Sharing the Fun: A Video of my Book Signing

Posted by Delaine - June 27, 2012 - On Writing My Book
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This past Father’s Day I did a book signing at Chinook Chapters in Calgary and wow, what an amazing experience!   I got to connect with dozens of my readers, married, single or divorced, and a few were even in tears, expressing how deeply they related to my memoir, The Secret Sex Life of a…

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Is Your Dating Mindset SMART or Self-Sabotaging?

Posted by Delaine - February 27, 2012 - Between the Sheets, Concerns & Fears, Cougars & Single Moms, Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches, Internet Dating, Longing...and Learning, Phases/ Stages, slideshow, Support & Girlfriends, Understanding Men/Women, Women's Sexuality dating help after divorce women
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On the heels of recent  letters I’ve received from divorced women –  many who’d just finished reading my memoir –  it really struck me how we all share many of the same fears and challenges as we attempt to date after divorce:  How do I know I’m ready, how do I handle rejection, how do…

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The Frog & The Scorpion: A Fable that Stings

Posted by Delaine - February 13, 2012 - Dealing with the ex, Surviving
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A lone scorpion was travelling across the land when he came upon a river.  Seeing a Frog in the bulrushes nearby by, he  called out: “Hey you!  Frog!   I need to get across this river.  Let me jump on your back and you can carry me across it.” The Frog fervently shook her head: “Not a CHANCE.…

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“I Love You”: To Say or Not to Say

Posted by Delaine - January 24, 2012 - Fears & Challenges, Longing...and Learning, Loving & Trusting, Phases/ Stages, Relationships
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Thinking back to my twenties, I remember I said the words “I love you” very soon in my relationships with men.  The “love feelings” would overwhelm me: the closeness, the intimacy, the peace of feeling cared for and apart from the rest of the world.  The warmth and power of these feelings would fill my chest, sometimes to the…

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First Date Cooking: Awesome Recipe for the Culinary-Challenged

Posted by Delaine - January 15, 2012 - Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches, slideshow
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I’ve grown accustomed these past years since divorcing to creating dinner menus suitable for young kids – that is, not too fancy, easy to make, and rarely ethnic.  Cause whenever I’ve veered off this menu plan, little noses would turn up and I’d hear, “Can I have a bowl of cereal instead?”  (Frustrating!!!!) When we’re dating after…

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Coping Tips To Get Through Valentine’s Day

Posted by Delaine - January 15, 2012 - Advice, Grief/ Anger, Healing, Surviving
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I have been through four Valentine’s Days since I got divorced.  And I’ve been all over the map emotionally: sad.  Indifferent.  Self-pitying.  Grumpy (read this from the archives!).  At other times however, I was happy and excited, as I learned to cope with this season of love and romance in new and different ways. Thus…

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This Fiery Divorced Mom Got Burnt Big Time

Posted by Delaine - November 16, 2011 - Single Moms
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Ohhhhh the irony. Over the past few years since divorcing I’ve dug deep and worked hard to rediscover my passion and ‘fire.’  And I have said countless times, both to my myself and others, that “sometimes playing with fire doesn’t burn us, it awakens us.”  A nice play on a metaphor I’d always thought… But this…

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“I Don’t Need A Man” – I’m Calling BS On This Catch Phrase

Posted by Delaine - September 28, 2011 - Healing, On being alone, Phases/ Stages, Understanding Men/Women
divorced woman rejecting men  “I Don’t Need A Man” – I’m Calling BS On This Catch Phrase

Over the past three years since I got divorced, it is by far THE most popular statement I’ve heard from women: “I don’t need a man”.  And it’s been said with passion.  Power.  Ownership.  As if it’s been EARNED.   And I’ve heard it all over the place: from dinners with girlfriends…to dating sites…. to here…

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Divorced Women: Do You Have a Role Model From A Different Generation?

Posted by Delaine - September 25, 2011 - Midlife Divorce, Social Barriers & Change, Support & Girlfriends
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At 66 years old, my mom is a real firecracker. This woman has so much energy, she makes 20 year olds look like slugs.  But much more than that, mom is confident.  She’s generous beyond belief.  She’s sexy.  Has taken great care of herself.  And she spends her days either working 10 hour shifts in the hospital or…

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TIMING: Now Probably Isn’t The Best Time To Look For a Boyfriend

Posted by Delaine - September 7, 2011 - Dating & Sex, Fears & Challenges, Longing...and Learning, Relationships
divorced mom Delaine Moore boyfriend timing2  TIMING: Now Probably Isn’t The Best Time To Look For a Boyfriend

At various times since I got divorced, I’ve felt that life would be a heck of a lot better if I had another partner to share it with.  Especially when I was going through ‘dark phases’ – God, how I yearned to have a man to protect,comfort, and love me… But four years later, I fully believe  that when…

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“The Secret Sex Life of a Single Mom”

Posted by Delaine - September 6, 2011 - Between the Sheets, Concerns & Fears, Cougars & Single Moms, Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches, Infidelity, Internet Dating, Longing...and Learning, On Writing My Book, Sexual Issues & Kinks, Social Barriers & Change, Strong Mind & Spirit, Women's Sexuality
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So I’m knee-deep into the publishing process on my upcoming memoir, which is slated for release in Spring 2012. And my publisher, which is the feminist publisher Seal Press, has changed the title of it.  It’s now: The Secret Sex Life of a Single Mom. (gulp)….A little more in-your-face than its original title,  “A Woman’s…

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Relationship Demand: “50% of my To-Do List is yours or I’m done”

Posted by Delaine - September 4, 2011 - Making It Work, Relationships, Understanding Men/Women
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Hmm – I bet the issue in this letter resonates with many of you.  Hi Delaine, I’ve been divorced a couple of times.  A recent acquaintance told me if we were to get serious, she expected me to complete her “To-Do List” every evening after work.  I am tired after work and just want to…

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