When I’m out on a first date with a man, I pay attention to how my date treats the server. I notice: Is he friendly? Does he use good manners? And, if the server is grumpy, how does he deal with it?
Tag: DATING & SEX After Divorce
My divorced friend and I were standing side-by-side, watching our kids play soccer in the field. Out of nowhere, she suddenly blurted: “Can you believe I haven’t had sex in over two years?” My mouth flew open. “You can not be serious!” She laughed and shook her head. “Yes, I’m afraid I am. Since […]
Laughing. Making love. Holding. Pillow talking… No, I’m not fantasizing about falling in love again. I’m imagining what it would be like to experience a weekend of ‘love without attachment.’
We had just started chatting via Instant Messenger. Conversation was flowing nicely. Friendly, polite, he had good spelling (which I look for) . And THEN… Then I told him I have three kids. A pause. A really long pause. Then his ‘probing’ began.
“Should I avoid dating separated men?” This is a valid question many women have asked me since divorcing. After all, what if these guys are rebounding? What if they still have heavy emotional issues to work through? At the end of the day, do these guys pose a greater risk to a woman’s heart? I personally think every man […]
He was sooooo nice. So very, very nice. Well-spoken… mature… a fun personality. And I really did enjoy talking to him. But I felt no spark; I just wasn’t attracted to him. Not just physically, but energetically. He wanted to meet me for a second date. I really didnt want to…but again, I went over his very nice qualities. “He’s […]
According to my best friend Hali, I do. Disqualify men too quickly, that is. Over drinks this past weekend, I was telling her about my dating life, when she quickly inserted: “Ummm Delaine…what dating life?” I laughed, rather taken aback. “What do you mean? You know I’m still on a couple of dating sites.”
I wasn’t looking for him. He was totally unplanned. But our emails progressed so quickly – naturally – that now, one month into our daily correspondence, his purpose in my life has emerged: The universe deliberately brought me a Good Man. Not to be my partner, nor champion of life dreams. But to help […]
A newly-divorcing woman wrote me this weekend to say she’d begun internet dating after 10 years of marriage. “But I don’t get this cyber sex thing,” she said. “It seems like many men are looking for it. And in all honesty, I’ve been tempted. Have YOU had cyber sex Delaine?” Well (clearing throat), even though […]
Recently I wrote an article about the concept of ‘friends with benefits,” and how, even though it sounded good in theory, I was skeptical if could translate into real life for most people. This past weekend, however, I think I got a few steps closer to having such a relationship. How? It was simple actually: I just came right out […]