Tag: DATING & SEX After Divorce

Mr Right Will Be a Man Who ‘Earns’ Me

Posted by Delaine - November 19, 2009 - Dating & Sex, Longing...and Learning, Loving & Trusting, Relationships, Understanding Men/Women
earn divorced woman 200x300  Mr Right Will Be a Man Who ‘Earns’ Me

Recently I wrote an article about how the phrase ,”I need a man who challenges me’, carried negative imagery and feelings for me.  It reminded me of my younger-day yearnings for Bad Boys (who did me no good) and,  as a few girlfriends pointed out,  had a tone of  ‘relationship management’ around it. Soon after writing [...]

Read More

Dating After Divorce: When You’re A Chameleon, How Do You Know What ‘Type’ You Like?

Posted by Delaine - October 13, 2009 - Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches, Internet Dating, Longing...and Learning
chameleon woman divorced  Dating After Divorce: When You’re A Chameleon, How Do You Know What ‘Type’ You Like?

As I continue to wade through the vast sea of online dating, I find myself feeling impatient with myself.  Not because I want a man pronto, but because I’m STILL not sure what ‘type’ of man I like.  And I wonder, Did I get a chameleon chromosone at birth?  Or do I simply have no idea what [...]

Read More

Simple-Minded, Piggish Men Aren’t Born That Way?

Posted by Delaine - August 7, 2009 - Dating & Sex, Understanding Men/Women
men acting like a jerk towards women  Simple-Minded, Piggish Men Aren’t Born That Way?

I’ve heard it said that most men are ‘simple’ creatures.  They love ‘T’ and ‘A’ and think about women’s orifices many times a day.  They don’t like drama queens or control freaks.  They want women to laugh at their jokes.  And NOTHING, I mean NOTHING brings them greater joy than a great blow job first thing in [...]

Read More

Did My Date Just Stare at the Server’s Butt?

Posted by Delaine - May 19, 2009 - Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches
6a010536f43000970c011570939478970b 800wi  Did My Date Just Stare at the Server’s Butt?

When I’m out on a first date with a man, I pay attention to how my date treats the server.  I notice: Is he friendly? Does he use good manners? And, if the server is grumpy, how does he deal with it?

Read More

How Long Could You/ Should You Go Without Sex After Divorce?

Posted by Delaine - May 13, 2009 - Dating & Sex, Sexual Issues & Kinks, Women's Sexuality
divorced woman no sex too long  How Long Could You/ Should You Go Without Sex After Divorce?

  My divorced friend and I were standing side-by-side, watching our kids play soccer in the field.  Out of nowhere, she suddenly blurted:  “Can you believe I haven’t had sex in over two years?”  My mouth flew open.  “You can not be serious!”    She laughed and shook her head.  “Yes, I’m afraid I am.  Since [...]

Read More

Loving…Without Attachment: A Prescription for Hurting Hearts?

Posted by Delaine - May 8, 2009 - Dating & Sex, Healing, Longing...and Learning, Wisdom Gained
love without attach 199x300  Loving…Without Attachment: A Prescription for Hurting Hearts?

Laughing. Making love. Holding. Pillow talking…   No, I’m not fantasizing about falling in love again.   I’m imagining what it would be like to experience a weekend of ‘love without attachment.’ 

Read More