Tag: DATING & SEX After Divorce

Beware the Loose, Wrinkly, Lopsided Vulva!

Posted by Delaine - September 5, 2011 - Career & Money, Concerns & Fears, Dating & Sex, Loving The Skin You're In, Women's Sexuality
wrinkly ugly unacceptable vagina vulva  Beware the Loose, Wrinkly, Lopsided Vulva!

So apparently the look and feel of our vulvas/vaginas are one more thing we’re to concern ouserlves with as we reconstruct our lives and selves after divorce. Haven’t you heard?  We’re supposed to be as pretty and symmetrical as a text-book drawing.  Are you a little one-sided?  Stretched out?  Perhaps a little dangly?

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The ‘Dating Dance’: First Time Phone Calls & Leaving Voicemails

Posted by Delaine - March 22, 2011 - Concerns & Fears, Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches
stud player dimitri 200x300  The ‘Dating Dance’: First Time Phone Calls & Leaving Voicemails

Without a doubt, making a first time phone call to a woman ( or man) can be somewhat of a nerve-wracking experience.  Especially if we get his/her voicemail when we call.  Should we/shouldn’t we leave a voicemail?  What if we get tongue-tied or stutter?  What if he/she doesn’t call us back – should we try again? A [...]

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Seven Reasons Why I Like To Date Divorced Men

Posted by Delaine - January 16, 2011 - Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches
cute divorced dad with son  Seven Reasons Why I Like To Date Divorced Men

When I was younger (and thought I knew it all), I found it a total turn-off if a man told me he was divorced.  Immediately, I thought “failure”, “tainted,” and “person-with-luggage.” But today, as I wade through the sea of men on dating sites, I find I’ve done a 360 – I actually gravitate more [...]

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Disempowering Marital Sex: Two Divorced Women Reawaken

Posted by Delaine - December 30, 2010 - Between the Sheets, Dating & Sex, Grief/ Anger, Healing, Infidelity, Phases/ Stages, Surviving, Women's Sexuality
chicken small  Disempowering Marital Sex: Two Divorced Women Reawaken

Two years into Sam’s seven-year marriage, she started hating having sex with her now-ex-husband. Sex became something she ‘got over with’ to keep the peace and keep him happy. And he wanted it a lot – every day, if not twice, even though she was oftentimes pregnant, nursing, or up at night with babies/toddlers. On [...]

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Women’s Sexuality: A Starting Point or End Point for Learning?

Posted by Delaine - June 22, 2010 - Dating & Sex, Longing...and Learning, Women's Sexuality
naked back womens sexuality  Women’s Sexuality: A Starting Point or End Point for Learning?

My head is off is left field this morning, pondering women’s sexuality. I know – a complicated topic. But this is what I’m trying to figure out: Does a woman’s sexuality ripple into other areas of her life? Is her sexuality, in fact, a metaphor in motion for her behaviour and conduct in her work [...]

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Dear Younger Men: I’m no “MILF”. You’re the “SMILF!”

Posted by Delaine - January 30, 2010 - Cougars & Single Moms, Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches
young man yum small  Dear Younger Men: I’m no “MILF”. You’re the “SMILF!”

Since becoming single again this past year, I’ve been called a ‘Cougar’ – which I hate, and a MILF.  When I discovered MILF stood for “Mother I’d Like to F***”, I laughed.  Though some might find it offensive, I found it rather endearing:  I imagined these luscious, muscley young men looking at me with awe and [...]

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