Recently I wrote an article about how the phrase ,”I need a man who challenges me’, carried some negative imagery and feelings around it for me. It reminded me of my younger-day yearnings for Bad Boys (who did me no good) and - as a few girlfriends pointed out - it had a tone of unsettledness and ‘relationship management’ around it.
Soon after writing it, I had a conversation on the subject with my handsome Good Man, the young widower that I’ve become close e-friends with, who has also restored my faith in men. And his response to my ponderings were : “You don’t want a man who challenges you, Delaine. You want a man who will EARN you.” (Read more here)
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As I continue to wade through the vast sea of online dating, I find myself feeling impatient with myself. Not because I want a man pronto, but because I’m STILL not sure what ‘type’ of man I like. And I wonder, Did I get a chameleon chromosone at birth? Or do I simply have no idea what I’m attracted to in a man?
So a friend of mine received a proposition this week from a man online. We’re still trying to figure out if it’s indecent. Is it different? Yes. Freaky? Borderline. Is she considering it? Kind of.
When I was younger (and thought I knew it all), I found it a total turn-off if a man told me he was divorced. Immediately, I thought “failure”, “tainted,” and “person-with-luggage.”
I’ve heard it said that most men are ’simple’ creatures. They love ‘T’ and ‘A’ and think about women’s orifices many times a day. They don’t like drama queens or control freaks. They want women to laugh at their jokes. And NOTHING, I mean NOTHING brings them greater joy than a great blow job first thing in the morning.
My divorced friend and I were standing together watching our kids play ball in the field.
Laughing.
Well, apparently the look and feel of our vaginas are one more thing we’re suppose to be concerned about as we rebuild our lives from scratch.