Tag: DATING & SEX After Divorce

FROM THE ARCHIVES: Does Penis Size Matter?

Posted by ekzact_team - February 13, 2014 - Dating & Sex, slideshow dating after divorce, sex, penis size, size matter? what women think, french men big penises
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(From July, 2010.  Year Two post-divorce) The topic of men’s penis size was brought to my attention YET AGAIN this morning in an article on Fox.com: A new study revealed that French men need the largest condoms in Europe while Greeks get by on the small ones. This study by a German consultancy asked 10,500 men […]

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Good-bye Husband, Hello G-SPOT!

Posted by Delaine - June 12, 2012 - Between the Sheets, Dating & Sex, Women's Sexuality
G spot orgasm divorce  Good-bye Husband, Hello G-SPOT!

FROM THE ARCHIVES – 2008 By the end of her marriage, she’d given up trying to have a G-spot orgasm; she thought maybe anatomically she wasn’t capable of one.  But one night post divorce, that G-bomb came out of nowhere: KA-POWEE.  It was a back-arching, sould-screaming, ‘Hallelujah!’   Afterwards however, she was freaked out – […]

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Beware the Loose, Wrinkly, Lopsided Vulva!

Posted by Delaine - September 5, 2011 - Career & Money, Concerns & Fears, Dating & Sex, Loving The Skin You're In, Women's Sexuality
wrinkly ugly unacceptable vagina vulva  Beware the Loose, Wrinkly, Lopsided Vulva!

So apparently the look and feel of our vulvas/vaginas are one more thing we’re to concern ouserlves with as we reconstruct our lives and selves after divorce. Haven’t you heard?  We’re supposed to be as pretty and symmetrical as a text-book drawing.  Are you a little one-sided?  Stretched out?  Perhaps a little dangly?

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The ‘Dating Dance’: First Time Phone Calls & Leaving Voicemails

Posted by Delaine - March 22, 2011 - Concerns & Fears, Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches
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Without a doubt, making a first time phone call to a woman ( or man) can be somewhat of a nerve-wracking experience.  Especially if we get his/her voicemail when we call.  Should we/shouldn’t we leave a voicemail?  What if we get tongue-tied or stutter?  What if he/she doesn’t call us back – should we try again? A […]

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Seven Reasons Why I Like To Date Divorced Men

Posted by Delaine - January 16, 2011 - Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches
cute divorced dad with son  Seven Reasons Why I Like To Date Divorced Men

When I was younger (and thought I knew it all), I found it a total turn-off if a man told me he was divorced.  Immediately, I thought “failure”, “tainted,” and “person-with-luggage.” But today, as I wade through the sea of men on dating sites, I find I’ve done a 360 – I actually gravitate more […]

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Disempowering Marital Sex: Two Divorced Women Reawaken

Posted by Delaine - December 30, 2010 - Between the Sheets, Dating & Sex, Grief/ Anger, Healing, Infidelity, Phases/ Stages, Surviving, Women's Sexuality
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Two years into Sam’s seven-year marriage, she started hating having sex with her now-ex-husband. Sex became something she ‘got over with’ to keep the peace and keep him happy. And he wanted it a lot – every day, if not twice, even though she was oftentimes pregnant, nursing, or up at night with babies/toddlers. On […]

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Women’s Sexuality: A Starting Point or End Point for Learning?

Posted by Delaine - June 22, 2010 - Dating & Sex, Longing...and Learning, Women's Sexuality
naked back womens sexuality  Women’s Sexuality: A Starting Point or End Point for Learning?

My head is off is left field this morning, pondering women’s sexuality. I know – a complicated topic. But this is what I’m trying to figure out: Does a woman’s sexuality ripple into other areas of her life? Is her sexuality, in fact, a metaphor in motion for her behaviour and conduct in her work […]

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Dear Younger Men: I’m no “MILF”. You’re the “SMILF!”

Posted by Delaine - January 30, 2010 - Cougars & Single Moms, Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches
young man yum small  Dear Younger Men: I’m no “MILF”. You’re the “SMILF!”

Since becoming single again this past year, I’ve been called a ‘Cougar’ – which I hate, and a MILF.  When I discovered MILF stood for “Mother I’d Like to F***”, I laughed.  Though some might find it offensive, I found it rather endearing:  I imagined these luscious, muscley young men looking at me with awe and […]

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Mr Right Will Be a Man Who ‘Earns’ Me

Posted by Delaine - November 19, 2009 - Dating & Sex, Longing...and Learning, Loving & Trusting, Relationships, Understanding Men/Women
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Recently I wrote an article about how the phrase ,”I need a man who challenges me’, carried negative imagery and feelings for me.  It reminded me of my younger-day yearnings for Bad Boys (who did me no good) and,  as a few girlfriends pointed out,  had a tone of  ‘relationship management’ around it. Soon after writing […]

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Dating After Divorce: When You’re A Chameleon, How Do You Know What ‘Type’ You Like?

Posted by Delaine - October 13, 2009 - Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches, Internet Dating, Longing...and Learning
chameleon woman divorced  Dating After Divorce: When You’re A Chameleon, How Do You Know What ‘Type’ You Like?

As I continue to wade through the vast sea of online dating, I find myself feeling impatient with myself.  Not because I want a man pronto, but because I’m STILL not sure what ‘type’ of man I like.  And I wonder, Did I get a chameleon chromosone at birth?  Or do I simply have no idea what […]

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Simple-Minded, Piggish Men Aren’t Born That Way?

Posted by Delaine - August 7, 2009 - Dating & Sex, Understanding Men/Women
men acting like a jerk towards women  Simple-Minded, Piggish Men Aren’t Born That Way?

I’ve heard it said that most men are ‘simple’ creatures.  They love ‘T’ and ‘A’ and think about women’s orifices many times a day.  They don’t like drama queens or control freaks.  They want women to laugh at their jokes.  And NOTHING, I mean NOTHING brings them greater joy than a great blow job first thing in […]

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Did My Date Just Stare at the Server’s Butt?

Posted by Delaine - May 19, 2009 - Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches
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When I’m out on a first date with a man, I pay attention to how my date treats the server.  I notice: Is he friendly? Does he use good manners? And, if the server is grumpy, how does he deal with it?

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How Long Could You/ Should You Go Without Sex After Divorce?

Posted by Delaine - May 13, 2009 - Dating & Sex, Sexual Issues & Kinks, Women's Sexuality
divorced woman no sex too long  How Long Could You/ Should You Go Without Sex After Divorce?

  My divorced friend and I were standing side-by-side, watching our kids play soccer in the field.  Out of nowhere, she suddenly blurted:  “Can you believe I haven’t had sex in over two years?”  My mouth flew open.  “You can not be serious!”    She laughed and shook her head.  “Yes, I’m afraid I am.  Since […]

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Loving…Without Attachment: A Prescription for Hurting Hearts?

Posted by Delaine - May 8, 2009 - Dating & Sex, Healing, Longing...and Learning, Wisdom Gained
love without attach 199x300  Loving…Without Attachment: A Prescription for Hurting Hearts?

Laughing. Making love. Holding. Pillow talking…   No, I’m not fantasizing about falling in love again.   I’m imagining what it would be like to experience a weekend of ‘love without attachment.’ 

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