Tag: DATING & SEX After Divorce

Beware the Loose, Wrinkly, Lopsided Vulva!

Posted by Delaine - September 5, 2011 - Career & Money, Concerns & Fears, Dating & Sex, Loving The Skin You're In, Women's Sexuality
wrinkly ugly unacceptable vagina vulva  Beware the Loose, Wrinkly, Lopsided Vulva!

So apparently the look and feel of our vulvas/vaginas are one more thing we’re to concern ouserlves with as we reconstruct our lives and selves after divorce. Haven’t you heard?  We’re supposed to be as pretty and symmetrical as a text-book drawing.  Are you a little one-sided?  Stretched out?  Perhaps a little dangly?

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Seven Reasons Why I Like To Date Divorced Men

Posted by Delaine - January 16, 2011 - Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches
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When I was younger (and thought I knew it all), I found it a total turn-off if a man told me he was divorced.  Immediately, I thought “failure”, “tainted,” and “person-with-luggage.” But today, as I wade through the sea of men on dating sites, I find I’ve done a 360 – I actually gravitate more […]

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Women’s Sexuality: A Starting Point or End Point for Learning?

Posted by Delaine - June 22, 2010 - Dating & Sex, Longing...and Learning, Women's Sexuality
naked back womens sexuality  Women’s Sexuality: A Starting Point or End Point for Learning?

My head is off is left field this morning, pondering women’s sexuality. I know – a complicated topic. But this is what I’m trying to figure out: Does a woman’s sexuality ripple into other areas of her life? Is her sexuality, in fact, a metaphor in motion for her behaviour and conduct in her work […]

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Mr Right Will Be a Man Who ‘Earns’ Me

Posted by Delaine - November 19, 2009 - Dating & Sex, Longing...and Learning, Loving & Trusting, Relationships, Understanding Men/Women
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Recently I wrote an article about how the phrase ,”I need a man who challenges me’, carried negative imagery and feelings for me.  It reminded me of my younger-day yearnings for Bad Boys (who did me no good) and,  as a few girlfriends pointed out,  had a tone of  ‘relationship management’ around it. Soon after writing […]

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Dating After Divorce: When You’re A Chameleon, How Do You Know What ‘Type’ You Like?

Posted by Delaine - October 13, 2009 - Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches, Internet Dating, Longing...and Learning
chameleon woman divorced  Dating After Divorce: When You’re A Chameleon, How Do You Know What ‘Type’ You Like?

As I continue to wade through the vast sea of online dating, I find myself feeling impatient with myself.  Not because I want a man pronto, but because I’m STILL not sure what ‘type’ of man I like.  And I wonder, Did I get a chameleon chromosone at birth?  Or do I simply have no idea what […]

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Simple-Minded, Piggish Men Aren’t Born That Way?

Posted by Delaine - August 7, 2009 - Dating & Sex, Understanding Men/Women
men acting like a jerk towards women  Simple-Minded, Piggish Men Aren’t Born That Way?

I’ve heard it said that most men are ‘simple’ creatures.  They love ‘T’ and ‘A’ and think about women’s orifices many times a day.  They don’t like drama queens or control freaks.  They want women to laugh at their jokes.  And NOTHING, I mean NOTHING brings them greater joy than a great blow job first thing in […]

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Did My Date Just Stare at the Server’s Butt?

Posted by Delaine - May 19, 2009 - Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches
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When I’m out on a first date with a man, I pay attention to how my date treats the server.  I notice: Is he friendly? Does he use good manners? And, if the server is grumpy, how does he deal with it?

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Loving…Without Attachment: A Prescription for Hurting Hearts?

Posted by Delaine - May 8, 2009 - Dating & Sex, Healing, Longing...and Learning, Wisdom Gained
love without attach 199x300  Loving…Without Attachment: A Prescription for Hurting Hearts?

Laughing. Making love. Holding. Pillow talking…   No, I’m not fantasizing about falling in love again.   I’m imagining what it would be like to experience a weekend of ‘love without attachment.’ 

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