(From July, 2010. Year Two post-divorce) The topic of men’s penis size was brought to my attention YET AGAIN this morning in an article on Fox.com: A new study revealed that French men need the largest condoms in Europe while Greeks get by on the small ones. This study by a German consultancy asked 10,500 men […]
Tag: DATING & SEX After Divorce
FROM THE ARCHIVES – 2008 By the end of her marriage, she’d given up trying to have a G-spot orgasm; she thought maybe anatomically she wasn’t capable of one. But one night post divorce, that G-bomb came out of nowhere: KA-POWEE. It was a back-arching, sould-screaming, ‘Hallelujah!’ Afterwards however, she was freaked out – […]
So apparently the look and feel of our vulvas/vaginas are one more thing we’re to concern ouserlves with as we reconstruct our lives and selves after divorce. Haven’t you heard? We’re supposed to be as pretty and symmetrical as a text-book drawing. Are you a little one-sided? Stretched out? Perhaps a little dangly?
Without a doubt, making a first time phone call to a woman ( or man) can be somewhat of a nerve-wracking experience. Especially if we get his/her voicemail when we call. Should we/shouldn’t we leave a voicemail? What if we get tongue-tied or stutter? What if he/she doesn’t call us back – should we try again? A […]
When I was younger (and thought I knew it all), I found it a total turn-off if a man told me he was divorced. Immediately, I thought “failure”, “tainted,” and “person-with-luggage.” But today, as I wade through the sea of men on dating sites, I find I’ve done a 360 – I actually gravitate more […]
Two years into Sam’s seven-year marriage, she started hating having sex with her now-ex-husband. Sex became something she ‘got over with’ to keep the peace and keep him happy. And he wanted it a lot – every day, if not twice, even though she was oftentimes pregnant, nursing, or up at night with babies/toddlers. On […]
My head is off is left field this morning, pondering women’s sexuality. I know – a complicated topic. But this is what I’m trying to figure out: Does a woman’s sexuality ripple into other areas of her life? Is her sexuality, in fact, a metaphor in motion for her behaviour and conduct in her work […]
Since becoming single again this past year, I’ve been called a ‘Cougar’ – which I hate, and a MILF. When I discovered MILF stood for “Mother I’d Like to F***”, I laughed. Though some might find it offensive, I found it rather endearing: I imagined these luscious, muscley young men looking at me with awe and […]
Recently I wrote an article about how the phrase ,”I need a man who challenges me’, carried negative imagery and feelings for me. It reminded me of my younger-day yearnings for Bad Boys (who did me no good) and, as a few girlfriends pointed out, had a tone of ‘relationship management’ around it. Soon after writing […]
As I continue to wade through the vast sea of online dating, I find myself feeling impatient with myself. Not because I want a man pronto, but because I’m STILL not sure what ‘type’ of man I like. And I wonder, Did I get a chameleon chromosone at birth? Or do I simply have no idea what […]
I’ve heard it said that most men are ‘simple’ creatures. They love ‘T’ and ‘A’ and think about women’s orifices many times a day. They don’t like drama queens or control freaks. They want women to laugh at their jokes. And NOTHING, I mean NOTHING brings them greater joy than a great blow job first thing in […]
When I’m out on a first date with a man, I pay attention to how my date treats the server. I notice: Is he friendly? Does he use good manners? And, if the server is grumpy, how does he deal with it?
My divorced friend and I were standing side-by-side, watching our kids play soccer in the field. Out of nowhere, she suddenly blurted: “Can you believe I haven’t had sex in over two years?” My mouth flew open. “You can not be serious!” She laughed and shook her head. “Yes, I’m afraid I am. Since […]
Laughing. Making love. Holding. Pillow talking… No, I’m not fantasizing about falling in love again. I’m imagining what it would be like to experience a weekend of ‘love without attachment.’