Tag: date after divorce

First Date Cooking: Awesome Recipe for the Culinary-Challenged

Posted by Delaine - January 15, 2012 - Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches, slideshow
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I’ve grown accustomed these past years since divorcing to creating dinner menus suitable for young kids – that is, not too fancy, easy to make, and rarely ethnic.  Cause whenever I’ve veered off this menu plan, little noses would turn up and I’d hear, “Can I have a bowl of cereal instead?”  (Frustrating!!!!) When we’re dating after […]

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Dating Older Men: Can Older Feel Plain Old?

Posted by Delaine - February 10, 2011 - Concerns & Fears, Dating & Sex
dating older man after divorce  Dating Older Men: Can Older Feel Plain Old?

I”m writing this entry in a delicate tone today - after all, any topic that deals with age can be a sensitive one.  But I’m curious if others have a preference - or perhaps even ‘rules’ –  around what age of men (or women) they’ll date now that they’re divorced.  More specifically, is there a point where dating […]

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Mr Right Will Be a Man Who ‘Earns’ Me

Posted by Delaine - November 19, 2009 - Dating & Sex, Longing...and Learning, Loving & Trusting, Relationships, Understanding Men/Women
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Recently I wrote an article about how the phrase ,”I need a man who challenges me’, carried negative imagery and feelings for me.  It reminded me of my younger-day yearnings for Bad Boys (who did me no good) and,  as a few girlfriends pointed out,  had a tone of  ‘relationship management’ around it. Soon after writing […]

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Dating Advice: You Are Not Your Story

Posted by Delaine - May 27, 2009 - Advice, Concerns & Fears, Dating & Sex, Healing, Wisdom Gained
story  Dating Advice: You Are Not Your Story

A divorced girlfriend of mine was going out on a date – a third date, which rarely happened with her. And as we talked over the phone beforehand, she was almost panicked.“I actually like this man, Delaine. But the timing couldn’t be worse – my life is such a mess, and I don’t want to […]

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Dating After Divorce: Is a ‘Spark” Necessary?

Posted by Delaine - April 27, 2009 - Cougars & Single Moms, Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches
spark nice guy dating2  Dating After Divorce: Is a ‘Spark” Necessary?

He was sooooo nice.  So very, very nice.  Well-spoken… mature… a fun personality.  And I really did enjoy talking to him.  But I felt no spark;  I just wasn’t attracted to him.  Not just physically, but energetically. He wanted to meet me for a second date.  I really didnt want to…but again, I went over his very nice qualities.  “He’s […]

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"Friends With Benefits" – A Myth, A Rarity, or A Matter of Luck?

Posted by Delaine - March 18, 2009 - Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches
friends with benefits  "Friends With Benefits" – A Myth, A Rarity, or A Matter of Luck?

When my best friend Hali and I found ourselves newly separated and back out in the dating trenches, we kept hearing the term “Friends With Benefits.”   We both liked the sound of it and decided it was something we wanted.  After all, we weren’t ready for serious, but we wanted to have sex.  Thus a sexual ‘friendship’ verses a love […]

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My Anger Towards Men Speaks: Second Year into my Divorce

Posted by Delaine - March 3, 2009 - Dating & Sex, Healing, Internet Dating, Phases/ Stages
gross guy online divorce 300x251  My Anger Towards Men Speaks: Second Year into my Divorce

Over the past couple of months, men from the dating site, Lavalife, have started asking me the above question. The question comes in various renditions, from a simple “STILL on here, eh?” to “I can’t believe you still haven’t been snatched up!” Time and time again though, my reaction has been the same: to roll […]

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Internet Dating: 10 Expert Tips From A Divorced Mom to Get You Started

Posted by Delaine - January 23, 2009 - Dating & Sex, Internet Dating
date  Internet Dating: 10 Expert Tips From A Divorced Mom to Get You Started

When a friend of mine first recommended I try internet dating, a social avenue that hadn’t even existed the last time I was single,I scoffed.  I mean, I’d heard of it, but I assumed it was full of weirdos and creeps.  Nonetheless, curiosity got the better of me – after all, how else was I ever […]

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