Tag: cougar town

Good-bye Husband, Hello G-SPOT!

Posted by Delaine - June 12, 2012 - Between the Sheets, Dating & Sex, Women's Sexuality
G spot orgasm divorce  Good-bye Husband, Hello G-SPOT!

FROM THE ARCHIVES – 2008 By the end of her marriage, she’d given up trying to have a G-spot orgasm; she thought maybe anatomically she wasn’t capable of one.  But one night post divorce, that G-bomb came out of nowhere: KA-POWEE.  It was a back-arching, sould-screaming, ‘Hallelujah!’   Afterwards however, she was freaked out – […]

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Dating Someone Who Lives Out of Town – Worth The Time & Effort?

Posted by ekzact_team - February 1, 2011 - Dating & Sex, Fears & Challenges, From the Dating Trenches, Relationships
long distance  Dating Someone Who Lives Out of Town – Worth The Time & Effort?

Since divorcing, I’ve dated a few out-of-town men. These men were whirlwind romances that I KNEW would go nowhere – our geographical distance was too great. Nonetheless, these relationships were exactly what I needed at that time to help me find my bearings in the dating trenches soon after separating from my former husband. Recently, […]

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“Bad Men” Bring Us Tremendous Gifts

Posted by Delaine - January 24, 2011 - Fears & Challenges, Healing, Longing...and Learning, Relationships, Wisdom Gained
bad boy small  “Bad Men” Bring Us Tremendous Gifts

Almost all women at some point in their lives attract a ‘bad man’; some of us marry him. And by ‘bad,’ I’m not simply referring to men who are drug lords, pimps, or wife abusers. No, “bad men” are men who don’ treat us and love us as wonderfully as we deserve. They are, as […]

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Seven Reasons Why I Like To Date Divorced Men

Posted by Delaine - January 16, 2011 - Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches
cute divorced dad with son  Seven Reasons Why I Like To Date Divorced Men

When I was younger (and thought I knew it all), I found it a total turn-off if a man told me he was divorced.  Immediately, I thought “failure”, “tainted,” and “person-with-luggage.” But today, as I wade through the sea of men on dating sites, I find I’ve done a 360 – I actually gravitate more […]

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Divorced Ladies: Is It Time To Unleash YOUR Cougar?

Posted by Delaine - January 1, 2011 - Cougars & Single Moms, Dating & Sex
uncage the cougar divorced  Divorced Ladies: Is It Time To Unleash YOUR Cougar?

Back when I first got separated and started online dating, I was insulted if any younger man called me a COUGAR. In my mind, ‘cougar’ meant older woman in leopard-skin leotards, teased hair and fake nails that wouldn’t quit. I might be in my late thirties, but excuse me, I wasn’t desperate, skanky, OR a […]

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Women’s Sexuality: A Starting Point or End Point for Learning?

Posted by Delaine - June 22, 2010 - Dating & Sex, Longing...and Learning, Women's Sexuality
naked back womens sexuality  Women’s Sexuality: A Starting Point or End Point for Learning?

My head is off is left field this morning, pondering women’s sexuality. I know – a complicated topic. But this is what I’m trying to figure out: Does a woman’s sexuality ripple into other areas of her life? Is her sexuality, in fact, a metaphor in motion for her behaviour and conduct in her work […]

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Dear Younger Men: I’m no “MILF”. You’re the “SMILF!”

Posted by Delaine - January 30, 2010 - Cougars & Single Moms, Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches
young man yum small  Dear Younger Men: I’m no “MILF”. You’re the “SMILF!”

Since becoming single again this past year, I’ve been called a ‘Cougar’ – which I hate, and a MILF.  When I discovered MILF stood for “Mother I’d Like to F***”, I laughed.  Though some might find it offensive, I found it rather endearing:  I imagined these luscious, muscley young men looking at me with awe and […]

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Dating Younger Men – Would You? Could You? Dare Ya!

Posted by Delaine - October 21, 2009 - Cougars & Single Moms, Dating & Sex
younger man older woman divorce  Dating Younger Men – Would You? Could You? Dare Ya!

When I first started dating after divorce, I felt like I’d arrived on another planet.  Not just cause I had no idea how to date again, but because it quickly became apparent that a new ‘phenomena’ had come to town since I’d last visited:  Young Men Seeking Older Women.  And oh yeah -  their holsters were […]

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Examining The “Buy-Her-A-Drink” Pick-Up Method

Posted by Delaine - August 18, 2009 - Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches
rejecting man bar divorced  Examining The “Buy-Her-A-Drink” Pick-Up Method

What woman hasn’t found herself in this scenario?  You’re at a bar, chatting with a girlfriend, when all of a sudden, the bartender or waitress suddenly puts an unordered drink in front of you.  “It’s from that man over there,” she says, pointing across the room.  You look over, only to see a man you aren’t […]

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Would YOU Go Out To A Bar/Lounge/Dancing By Yourself?

Posted by Delaine - August 11, 2009 - Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches, Social Barriers & Change, Time Without Kids, Understanding Men/Women
divorced woman alone bar1 200x300  Would YOU Go Out To A Bar/Lounge/Dancing By Yourself?

This past Saturday night, I found myself wanting to get dressed up and go out, but all of my girlfriends were busy.  I was frustrated; I didn’t want to spend my limited time off without kids watching a movie at home.  But what was the alternative?  Go to a bar lounge by myself?  No way! […]

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Simple-Minded, Piggish Men Aren’t Born That Way?

Posted by Delaine - August 7, 2009 - Dating & Sex, Understanding Men/Women
men acting like a jerk towards women  Simple-Minded, Piggish Men Aren’t Born That Way?

I’ve heard it said that most men are ‘simple’ creatures.  They love ‘T’ and ‘A’ and think about women’s orifices many times a day.  They don’t like drama queens or control freaks.  They want women to laugh at their jokes.  And NOTHING, I mean NOTHING brings them greater joy than a great blow job first thing in […]

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Sleeping With A Man After Divorce

Posted by Delaine - July 2, 2009 - Between the Sheets, Dating & Sex
snoring man sleeping1  Sleeping With A Man After Divorce

Since separating from my ex-husband two years ago, I haven’t slept with many men; in fact, less than a handful. Oh – let me clarify:  I mean actually sleeping with men.  This has been the case for two reasons.  One, I haven’t wanted to sleep beside most of them.  And two, I usually have my kids at home and […]

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New Relationship Consideration: Would You Have Another Baby?

Posted by Delaine - June 6, 2009 - Fears & Challenges, Relationships
divorced mom pregnant  New Relationship Consideration: Would You Have Another Baby?

I gave birth to three kids in three years and I can honestly say their early years were a blur to me; life was INSANE.  And since divorcing I’ve sworn I wouldn’t have another child.  “This body now belongs to ME,” I’ve joked with my girlfriends.  The other day, however, a girlfriend asked me, “Then […]

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Did My Date Just Stare at the Server’s Butt?

Posted by Delaine - May 19, 2009 - Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches
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When I’m out on a first date with a man, I pay attention to how my date treats the server.  I notice: Is he friendly? Does he use good manners? And, if the server is grumpy, how does he deal with it?

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