Tag: children

Parenting After Divorce: Do You Have A Plan for Emergencies?

Posted by Delaine - February 3, 2011 - Co-Parenting, Parenting, Single Dads, Single Moms
little girl hurt1  Parenting After Divorce: Do You Have A Plan for Emergencies?

I was at home working when my phone rang – my ex-husband’s number popped up.  Thinking it was my children, I quickly answered. Instead it was my ex. I heard, “We’ve had a bit of an accident.  We’re on our way to get stitches.” “Who’s hurt?”  I asked heart racing. “Janet.”  (My four-year-old daughter)  “She cut open her […]

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The #1 Thing I Wish Someone Had Told Me about Divorce

Posted by Delaine - February 1, 2011 - Children, Dealing with the ex, Grief/ Anger
divorce woman man not friends from start1 300x211  The #1 Thing I Wish Someone Had Told Me about Divorce

Don’t expect to be friends with your ex.  Not at the start anyways.  This is what I wish someone, or many people, had told me at the beginning of my divorce. I’m not saying you should expect to be enemies; no, not at all.  I’m saying you should aim for something in the middle – like a […]

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She’s Only Staying Married For the Kids

Posted by Delaine - June 15, 2009 - Deciding to Stay or Go, Support & Girlfriends, Surviving
unhappy married woman  She’s Only Staying Married For the Kids

  She’s one of my mom friends.  We aren’t close, but I see her almost everyday at our kids’ school.   This past weekend we bumped into each other at a nearby park.  And as we sat, watching our kids play soccer, I asked her where her husband was.   “Oh…I don’t know.  Probably doing something […]

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Hiding Tears from the Kids: Exhausting…but Necessary

Posted by Delaine - March 14, 2009 - Children, Grief/ Anger, Legal Matters, Single Moms, Surviving
single mom hiding tears1  Hiding Tears from the Kids: Exhausting…but Necessary

A couple of days ago was the perfect example.  I returned home from custody mediation with my ex with obviously red, puffy eyes.  I came inside my house and immediately went downstairs to my office – I didn’t want my preschool daughter to see my puffy face.  But once in the privacy of my office, I sat […]

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Cheating Husband in the Public Swimming Pool

Posted by Delaine - February 28, 2009 - Infidelity
cheating husband divorce1  Cheating Husband in the Public Swimming Pool

I was at a public swimming pool with my three kids, playing in the toddler section.  A great big bucket of water above us was almost full and teetering to tip.  My kids squealed and we all huddled in, arms entwined, heads down…till finally, the much-anticipated water crashed over our heads and backs. Laughing, I scooted back […]

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Overwhelmed by Single Parenting & Working Full-Time

Posted by Delaine - February 24, 2009 - Parenting, Single Dads, Single Moms
single mom losing it  Overwhelmed by Single Parenting & Working Full-Time

I feel like I’m going crazy; pushed and pulled in a hundred different directions.  I should have known today would be one of ’those days’ when at 6:30 a.m., the scream of one my boys getting hurt while wrestling launched me out of bed. Work deadlines loom, my nanny called in sick, my kids’ schedule today is more demanding than most, kripes – […]

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Fairytale Endings: Movies Are Programming My Daughter

Posted by Delaine - January 26, 2009 - Parenting, Single Moms, Social Barriers & Change
little girl eyes small  Fairytale Endings: Movies Are Programming My Daughter

My 4-year-old daughter grabbed my cheeks and put her face up to mine.  I was about to give her a quick kiss when she ordered:” NO mom.  You turn your head that way.”  Her hands were still on my cheeks.  Shocked, I sat there wide-eyed as she planted a VERY long kiss on my lips.  […]

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Reflections: I Felt Like a Single Mom While Married, Too

Posted by Delaine - December 20, 2008 - Children, Grief/ Anger, Surviving
winter fence 225x300  Reflections: I Felt Like a Single Mom While Married, Too

I’m not sure why the memories came at me tonight. Perhaps it was the fresh fallen snow and smell in the air that triggered them; Xmas is coming after all. Perhaps it was because my ex moved last weekend to a small town outside Calgary; I know he will now spend even less time with […]

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