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I’m no divorce expert; there’s no law degree or special accreditation following my name. But now that I’m two years into my divorce, there’s one golden nugget of advice I’d like to pass onto those newly divorcing: Get EVERYTHING down in writing - signed, sealed and wrapped up – otherwise, there’s a good chance you’ll be postponing the inevitable.
There are many valid reasons why we don’t hammer it all down properly right away. We’re grieving, we’re coping, we’re scared, we don’t want our lives to into a nasty episode of Law & Order. We don’t want to expose our kids to any drama or nastiness…and God knows, we don’t want our exes coming after us with fire in their eyes. It all just seems like too much. (read more here)
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Yesterday, I received a letter from a newly-separated woman who’d recently signed up on a dating site. She wrote:
Then one day, in January 2008, I decided to use my writing to free me from my past; I started writing my memoir. I had no idea how to do it, nor did I have any idea if one day I’d sell it. I just needed to write, to figure out the insanity of my life, and FINISH something; something that was all about me.