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What I Think of Lifetime’s Adaptation of my Memoir

Posted by Delaine - May 30, 2014 - On My Book Becoming A Movie, On Writing My Book, slideshow kids and ashley3
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Ever since the premiere date of The Secret Sex Life of a Single Mom was announced, I’ve been inundated with the same questions by people:  Have you seen the movie and what was it like to watch it?  What do I, as the author of the book, think of the movie? Yes, I’ve seen the movie already — […]

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Is Women’s Sexual Desire Wired For Monogamy?

Posted by Delaine - July 27, 2013 - Between the Sheets, Dating & Sex, Relationships, Sex
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I sometimes worried there was something *wrong* with me – sexually, that is. Cause at some point, during every healthy serious relationship I was involved in, my sexual desire levels severely plummeted. And try as I did to restore them, using all the expert advice I could get my hands on through books, my efforts proved as futile as […]

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10 Online Dating Profile Turn-offs to Women

Posted by Delaine - July 6, 2013 - Dating & Sex, Internet Dating, Understanding Men/Women
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For those of you men reading, who are single and internet dating, I need to ask: Do most women not respond to your emails? Are you attracting the “wrong kind” of woman? Are you scratching your head, wishing you understood what the heck women online are looking for? If you answered “yes” to any of […]

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Seven Reasons Why I Like To Date Divorced Men

Posted by Delaine - January 16, 2011 - Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches
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When I was younger (and thought I knew it all), I found it a total turn-off if a man told me he was divorced.  Immediately, I thought “failure”, “tainted,” and “person-with-luggage.” But today, as I wade through the sea of men on dating sites, I find I’ve done a 360 – I actually gravitate more […]

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I’m The Primary Shareholder of my Heart

Posted by Delaine - December 21, 2010 - Dating & Sex, Healing, Phases/ Stages, Wisdom Gained, Women's Sexuality
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When it comes to my dating and sex life, my BRAIN now sits in the driver’s seat, NOT my heart. Sound cold? Perhaps. Self-defensive? Could be. But to me, not only does it feel right, it feels empowering. And sometimes I swear I’ve heard my angels say, “Thank GOD she finally got it!” Ever since […]

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Is It WRONG For A Man’s Wallet Size To Matter?

Posted by Delaine - February 18, 2010 - Dating & Sex, Fears & Challenges, From the Dating Trenches, Relationships
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No doubt today’s subject is controversial and uncomfortable for some…but I’m fielding these questions anyway:  Does how much a man earns at his job affect your decision to date him or continue dating him?  Or do you find such a concept offensive, shallow, and/or insulting to the meaning of  True Love? After asking a few divorcing girlfriends for their honest […]

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“My New Girlfriend Doesn’t Like Oral Sex Or Cuddling”

Posted by Delaine - January 24, 2010 - Dating & Sex, Relationships, Sex, Sexual Issues & Kinks, Women's Sexuality
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Do you ever wonder if staying in an unhappy marriage for years has made you blind to warning signs as you date again?  Are you so accustomed to  ‘dealing with’ relationship issues and compromising who you are/what you need, that you continue dating someone who’s already bringing you down? Take Chuck for example, a man who recently wrote […]

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Stop, Hey – What’s That Sound? Unresolved Legal Issues Pulling You Down…

Posted by Delaine - December 24, 2009 - Children, Legal Matters, Surviving
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I’m not a divorce lawyer.  But I’m a divorce expert in my own rite.  And now that I’m two years into my divorce, there’s one golden nugget of advice I’d like to pass onto those newly divorcing:  Get EVERYTHING down in writing - signed, sealed and wrapped up – otherwise, there’s a good chance you’ll be postponing the inevitable […]

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The Dating Gloom & Doom Bandwagon

Posted by Delaine - October 6, 2009 - Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches, Longing...and Learning, Support & Girlfriends
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During a 24-hour period last week, I heard three gloomy outlooks on dating from three different women in their late thirties or early forties. The first was a doctor, never married, no kids.  She said the men in her age bracket all seemed to want a woman to “look after them.”  And male doctors and successful […]

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Examining The “Buy-Her-A-Drink” Pick-Up Method

Posted by Delaine - August 18, 2009 - Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches
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What woman hasn’t found herself in this scenario?  You’re at a bar, chatting with a girlfriend, when all of a sudden, the bartender or waitress suddenly puts an unordered drink in front of you.  “It’s from that man over there,” she says, pointing across the room.  You look over, only to see a man you aren’t […]

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When’s the Best Time to Meet an Online Date?

Posted by Delaine - May 29, 2009 - Concerns & Fears, Dating & Sex, Internet Dating
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Yesterday, I received an email from a newly-separated woman who’d recently signed up on a dating site.  She wrote:   “I read your article that said you don’t spend a lot of time talking to prospective dates on the phone or IM because you find it sets up false expectations.   My concern is that I’m going to meet […]

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"Friends With Benefits" – A Myth, A Rarity, or A Matter of Luck?

Posted by Delaine - March 18, 2009 - Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches
friends with benefits  "Friends With Benefits" – A Myth, A Rarity, or A Matter of Luck?

When my best friend Hali and I found ourselves newly separated and back out in the dating trenches, we kept hearing the term “Friends With Benefits.”   We both liked the sound of it and decided it was something we wanted.  After all, we weren’t ready for serious, but we wanted to have sex.  Thus a sexual ‘friendship’ verses a love […]

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