Tag: The Secret Life of A Newly Single Mom: A One-Year Memoir of Finding Sex & Satisfaction after Divorce

Why Women Get Divorced!

Posted by Delaine - May 8, 2011 - Deciding to Stay or Go, Support & Girlfriends, Surviving
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At some in a relationship or marriage, we sit across from our partner and wonder where the romance and passion went… Remember back when he’d wine and dine you and go the extra mile just to see you smile? How he was keen to only put that best foot forward, and how special you felt […]

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Divorced Ladies: Is It Time To Unleash YOUR Cougar?

Posted by Delaine - January 1, 2011 - Cougars & Single Moms, Dating & Sex
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Back when I first got separated and started online dating, I was insulted if any younger man called me a COUGAR. In my mind, ‘cougar’ meant older woman in leopard-skin leotards, teased hair and fake nails that wouldn’t quit. I might be in my late thirties, but excuse me, I wasn’t desperate, skanky, OR a […]

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Shielding Your Kids From “The Heat” of Divorce

Posted by Delaine - December 28, 2010 - Children, Co-Parenting, Dealing with the ex, Parenting, Surviving, Trying to Get Along
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Studies have shown that it’s the ongoing hostilities between divorcing parents that really emotionally damage and traumatize children.   So how do you protect your children’s emotional well-being if divorce matters are in the Red Zone, the two of you aren’t speaking, and you can’t even stand being in the same building as him/her? You may ‘know’ you should smile and talk civilly and put […]

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Resentment: Molten Lava In One’s Bones

Posted by Delaine - December 1, 2010 - Advice, Grief/ Anger, Healing, Surviving
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At three and a half years into my divorce, I no longer feel like I’m mourning my marriage.  The grief, the fear, the heartache of betrayal  - they lie behind me now, serving as sources of strength and wisdom, not pain.  But getting over my marriage is one thing, getting over my ex’s behavior during our divorce is another.  […]

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My “Big Moment” – Signing My Publishing Contract!

Posted by Delaine - October 12, 2010 - Career & Money, Career Growth & Change
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This is such a huge moment for me, a personal milestone like no other, that I wanted to share it with all of you! Honestly, if someone had told me three years ago that I was going to not only write a book, but get a deal with a major publishing house, I’d have say, […]

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Role Reversal: “Honey…this is sex not love”

Posted by Delaine - October 7, 2010 - Between the Sheets, Dating & Sex, Women's Sexuality
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We enjoyed each other for hours.  And it was as wonderful as the other four times we’d been together.  Passionate.  Intense. Deep.  Stress-relieving.  But as I lay snuggled against him in the aftermath,  eyes closed, brain off in Post-Orgasmic Wonderland,  I suddenly heard:   “I love you, Delaine.” My eyes flew open.  Did I imagine that?  Oh God, on no, he actually […]

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“Ex” – An Ugly Little Word?

Posted by Delaine - October 6, 2010 - Dealing with the ex, Parenting, Single Dads, Single Moms, Social Barriers & Change, Surviving
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“EX-husband,”  “EX-wife,”  “The EX.”   The term “ex” is one we all use after divorce, in both our written and oral communications.  It’s something we don’t  give much thought to either – it’s just part of the English language, right?  But have you ever noticed how you feel when say it?   What about when someone ELSE uses it in conversation?  Cause […]

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Stop, Hey – What’s That Sound? Unresolved Legal Issues Pulling You Down…

Posted by Delaine - December 24, 2009 - Children, Legal Matters, Surviving
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I’m not a divorce lawyer.  But I’m a divorce expert in my own rite.  And now that I’m two years into my divorce, there’s one golden nugget of advice I’d like to pass onto those newly divorcing:  Get EVERYTHING down in writing - signed, sealed and wrapped up – otherwise, there’s a good chance you’ll be postponing the inevitable […]

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Choices or Sacrifices? Which Do Divorced Moms Make?

Posted by Delaine - December 10, 2009 - Career & Money, Career Growth & Change, Parenting, Single Dads, Single Moms, Social Barriers & Change
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Many months ago,  during a deep conversation with my Good Man - a handsome, young widower who continues to restore my faith in men -  we began talking about ’sacrifices’ and ‘choices.’  Or rather, I was rambling on about how I think women make sacrifices when they become wives and mothers – when he cut me off.  “Do you really think of […]

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Worries Of A Divorcing Mom: Am I Doing ‘Enough’?

Posted by ekzact_team - December 10, 2009 - Children, Parenting, Single Moms, Surviving
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Even when I was married, I sometimes worried that I wasn’t doing ‘enough’ for my kids: Should they be involved in more activities or less? Am I too strict or not strict enough? Am I doing, saying, showing my kids enough of whatever they need to feel loved and special? We only get one shot […]

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Needing To Date “Challenging” Men – “Good” or “Bad” Tendency?

Posted by Delaine - November 5, 2009 - Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches, Longing...and Learning, Support & Girlfriends
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We’ve all heard the expression being thrown around in the dating realm: “He/she needs a challenge.”  Maybe it’s even something you’ve said aloud yourself.  But recent conversations I’ve shared with various girlfriends has me wondering: Do we need to thoughtfully consider what this expression really means to us, especially now that we’re starting over?  Does ‘needing a challenge’ look […]

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The Ex-Husband May Not Be as Financially Destitute as he Laments…

Posted by Delaine - October 19, 2009 - Dealing with the ex, Legal Matters, Surviving
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They’ve been apart now for three years. Their divorce only became official a few months ago. And I swear to God, no word of a lie, he has lamented over how broke he is ever since they separated. But the other day, my best friend Hali, now his ex-wife, shocked me by blurting: “Guess who […]

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Her Ex-Husband is a Bully – and Her Kids Now Bear the Brunt End of It

Posted by Delaine - September 9, 2009 - Abuse, Children, Co-Parenting, Parenting, Single Dads, Surviving
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Her ex was at her house doing pick up of their kids the past weekend when it happened. She and her three kids were over at the school yard finishing a quick game of soccer in the snow. Suddenly, her eldest son, now eight, tripped her daughter by accident. “Kyle,” she said to him, “You have to avoid […]

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New Relationship Consideration: Would You Have Another Baby?

Posted by Delaine - June 6, 2009 - Fears & Challenges, Relationships
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I gave birth to three kids in three years and I can honestly say their early years were a blur to me; life was INSANE.  And since divorcing I’ve sworn I wouldn’t have another child.  “This body now belongs to ME,” I’ve joked with my girlfriends.  The other day, however, a girlfriend asked me, “Then […]

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