Do Men Belittle Each Other for Penis Size?
A divorced male friend and I were recently discussing the matter of penis-size…not just actual numbers and pros and cons, but the social pressures men face to ‘measure up’.
I told him I think it’s OK for women to have preferences in penis size and to know what they like. But of course, I would NEVER insult a man to his face if he were small. Besides, at the end of the day, I’m sure there’s a woman out there who he’s a perfect fit for.
He then said something that surprised me. “I don’t think men with small penises worry as much about WOMEN criticising them. They worry about MEN making fun of them.”
Huh? “What do you mean?” I asked.
“You women are very polite creatures and would spare his feelings and like and care for him for his other attributes. In the men’s locker room, however, guys aren’t so polite and are more apt to say something nasty; something totally demeaning that would mark him for life.”
I’d never thought of that before.
There again, since men having been vocal about what they like in women, for ages, I guess it makes sense they’d belittle each other as well.
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Yeah guys are mean. I had a situation like that arise when I was young and it certainly undermined my confidence.
As for when I’m women, I think it’s made me into a better lover because I’m more attentive and want to ensure she is happy.
Yeah guys are mean. I had a situation like that arise when I was young and it certainly undermined my confidence.
As for when I’m women, I think it’s made me into a better lover because I’m more attentive and want to ensure she is happy.
Agreed…men can be very mean…I know that if I knew one of my friends had a small penis, and they pissed me off, I would make fun of them for it.
Women can be even meaner though…check out my last blog entry:
What Women REALLY Think of a Man with a Small Penis
I think guys joke around with each other but I’ve never heard anything vicious.
Towards women it’s another story – she’s too fat, too old, too short, no boobs. I can’t imagine what it’s like to date a man who’s like that.
I din’t find your other penis blog offensive, I found it funny! Say what you like girl! Nothing wrong with having an opinion.
I think guys joke around with each other but I’ve never heard anything vicious.
Towards women it’s another story – she’s too fat, too old, too short, no boobs. I can’t imagine what it’s like to date a man who’s like that.
I din’t find your other penis blog offensive, I found it funny! Say what you like girl! Nothing wrong with having an opinion.
Great post. It is odd but as a man I can tell you that your friend is right. Even though I ‘think’ I am …..singnificant enough, I have had those days of being in a locker room and after seeing a guy with a huge package…started womdering if I was actually on the small side. It is more of an ego thing with guys. With women…it is more about knowing that you can please her and FILL her needs.
Great post. It is odd but as a man I can tell you that your friend is right. Even though I ‘think’ I am …..singnificant enough, I have had those days of being in a locker room and after seeing a guy with a huge package…started womdering if I was actually on the small side. It is more of an ego thing with guys. With women…it is more about knowing that you can please her and FILL her needs.
I don’t know that guys worry too much in a locker room, because a shriveled tool is absolutely no indication of a man’s potential size.
Women like girth more than length, but really it’s how a guy is in bed that makes the difference. Right? A guy with a big tool can suck as a lover. And a guy who is smaller can be great in bed.
I don’t know that guys worry too much in a locker room, because a shriveled tool is absolutely no indication of a man’s potential size.
Women like girth more than length, but really it’s how a guy is in bed that makes the difference. Right? A guy with a big tool can suck as a lover. And a guy who is smaller can be great in bed.
But if men know that a (ahem) “shriveled tool” is not indicative of true size, why the heck would any make comments?
I’ve heard men say they don’t look at other guys, but c’mon, I think it’s totally normal to – I mean, I look at women. I’d NEVER make a comment unless they were asking me to, of course! But it makes sense for a person to zone in on areas on other people’s bodies where they feel insecure. So for example, if a woman dislikes her stomach after childbirth, she’ll be more inclined to notice the tummies of other women in the locker room.
Yeah, great lovers come in all shapes and sizes. Still, I think it’s OK to have preferences.
I just don’t get why it’s OK for men to say they like boobs a certain size etc but women can’t say the same about a penis. After all, most of us are mature enough to know it’s all just packaging and not indicative of how wonderful the person may or may not be. It’s like we’ve lost our sense of humor!
This is incredibly interesting. I actually picked between two men to be my hubby – and I did not use size as a factor. There are so many other things that matter more. Plus the way a tool is used can be far more important
But, I have asked hubby about men scoping men in the locker room … a place I wouldn’t want to have to be
It doesn’t surprise me to hear that men are cruel to each other about penis size. Size is obviously a point of insecurity for a lot of guys and what better way to make yourself feel better than to cut someone else down or draw attention to someone else’s failings/limitations?
It’s not nice or kind or mature, but it is human nature, and how a lot of people deal with their own insecurities.
In junior high and high school showers we all looked pretty much the same. Plus, no one would be caught dead “sizing” up the other men to compare himself to, as this would have made him a target for humiliation about his sexual preference.
Maybe guys in junior high and high school don’t get ‘caught’ sizing each other up but from what I’ve heard from guys, it doesn’t stop them from comparing themselves. I guess all it takes is one obnoxious loudmouth in the lockerroom to do some serious damage to a young man’s self-esteem. There always seems to be a few of those guys around – you know, the ones whose ‘humor’ is always at some one’s (man’s or woman’s) expense – NASTY.
I’m 44 years old, straight. Never in my life has any man ever made a comment about the size of my penis (except in jest and while we were fully clothed, as teenagers do).
I was in a fraternity in college, on several sports teams, had health club and spa memberships, etc.
I really don’t think this teasing happens much, except perhaps in some men’s minds.