The ‘Dating Dance’: First Time Phone Calls & Leaving Voicemails
Without a doubt, making a first time phone call to a woman ( or man) can be somewhat of a nerve-wracking experience. Especially if we get his/her voicemail when we call. Should we/shouldn’t we leave a voicemail? What if we get tongue-tied or stutter? What if he/she doesn’t call us back – should we try again?
A couple of pointers here: First, the bottom line is that people are adept at using their phone systems. Moreover, if he/she is really wanting to hear from you, he/ she will be waiting for your call and eager to call you back. My point is: Don’t get carried away making excuses for anyone as to why they haven’t called back. If your call isn’t returned, it’s probably because of lack of interest, period. If you want to make absolute sure and leave ONE MORE message, that’s fine (give the benefit of the doubt), but truly, after that, if you hear nothing, that silence speaks volumes; leave it alone.
As for telephone etiquette, the key to leaving voicemails is to keep your tone friendly and positive but keep the message short and simple; less chance of rambling that way or saying something that will turn him/her off. Remember, the majority of the Dating Dance is about ‘first impressions’. And one stupid/inappropriate or dumb move during this time can kill the other’s interest - even though you may be the greatest person ever, even though you know she’d like you if she just gave you a chance, and yes, even though first impressions can be way off, misleading and unfair. It’s a delicate thing this dating dance…one that has been written about, studied, tested and even sung about over the ages…. so veer on the side of keeping things short and sweet with those phone messages. And don’t let your imagination get too far ahead of you.
But if, by chance, you screw it up somehow or maybe just don’t hear back for whatever reason, have heart my friend. NO ONE, and I mean NO ONE can screw things up as badly as ‘Dimitri the Stud’ did in the clip below. Here’s the background: Apparently a few ladies went out one night in the San Fransisco Marina district and were hanging around outside of the bar trying to hail a cab. One of the ladies – Olga – was approached by this Dimitri fellow and he wouldn’t leave her alone, saying over and over how cute she was. Finally, she gave in and handed him her business card to get rid of him. THIS clip is of the messages he left her. You’ll understand why she never called him back – and instead, gave it to the local station radio to air!
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Hello:
What a coincidence! I actually know the person that left those voicemails. I’m a member of the “Toronto Real Men”, the world’s only anti-metrosexual organization, run by “Dimitri The Lover”, aka “The Prophet”. In the same way that John Connor fights the machines for survival of humanity in “The Terminator”, The Prophet has dedicated his life to fight “Metrosexuality” for the survival of masculinity. He is a modern-day Rasputin … a real-life Tyler Durden.
Here is the web site for the “Toronto Real Men”: TORONTO REAL MEN … if you go to the section in the menu on the left titled “Meeting Announcements”, then click on “August”, you will understand everything he is trying to do. Also, if you click on the link on the left titled “Media Centre”, there’s both a radio interview and an appearance in a documentary so you can hear The Prophet speak.
Also, everyone knows that women in Toronto are stuck up and play games. Here is how The Prophet deals with a single woman that likes him but still refuses to cough up her number … he hands her this flyer: DIMITRI THE LOVER’S FLYER
Here is a link to some animations that have been banned by YouTube but give you a great indication of The Prophet’s philosophy: DIMITRI THE LOVER’S BANNED ANIMATIONS … the “Crucifixion of Dimitri” represents how he has suffered for all men.
Finally, here is The Prophet’s main web site: DIMITRI THE LOVER’S WEB SITE
We heard at the last meeting that his Hollywood film (the one that the producers of Borat and Bruno created) is completed and should be released in the next few months. Then the world will know the truth about what The Prophet is doing to rid the world of feminism once and for all.
WORSHIP THE COCK !!!
J.
Well, whoever you are Real Man, this Dimitri guy’s antics are completely ridiculous and pathetic. Definitely worth a good laugh though!
I’m torn, I don’t know which is more hilarious…Dimitri the Stud or Demitri the Lover.
Also, I find it comical how some men use the term, “real man” so loosely. All I can say is they give it a whole new definition!
LMAO OMG
Helloooo ladies, what is wrong with you guys. He said he is a complete catch, he is good in bed……girl why didnt you throw your panties after him huh??? Cause in reality that is what men expect. We are waiting for Dimitri to come along so we can drop our panties…..oh wait look I’m not even wearing any!!!
Men like Dimitri is hilarious, I def had a good laugh, thanks Delaine!
LOL
I’m sorry I had to listen to the clip again……….is this guy even for real?
OMG that is hilarious…
I had one guy call me, tell me what was wrong with my lifestyle, how I have no excuse for wanting to go out with the girls at my age. Oh, and he never been married and no kids at 40.
Anyway, I said, obviously we had different interest. Good luck. Weeks later he pops up on chat, which I had deleted his username. Again, spouting about how wrong my lifestyle was…Ugh. It is certainly not an easy dance this dating.
Dawn – And yet he probably can’t ‘get’ why he’s still single at 40. ayayayaya When guys come out and actually start PONTIFICATING about a woman’s lifestyle, that’s high sign to run the other way – spells ‘control issues’. The good news is that it’s obvious to us ladies:)
Ohh COME ONNNN !!!! LOL is this for real !!! honestly?? Dimitri the Stud ?? Stud ?? LOL
> insert tons of laughter-snickers &snorts here< I honestly can't take what real man said above seriously neither, but if on the off chance that it is serious then well; all that I can compare it to is blokes bragging about their cyber inches. lol ya know what I mean.
I hope that this Dimitri thing is not a Greek man. Ohh the humanity, shakes head.
Because my ancestors came from Greece, 3rd or so generation passionate spartan.
Its things like that above that make it very difficult for me to even approach or even ask a lady out.
Its a real pisser. Oh well heh. Its not so bad being a 44 yr old impoverished monk anyways lol.
But, honestly to all the ladies here, don't give up or worry.
This is what my grandfather told me once. " life can be like a dirty ocean, but just remember that sh@$ always floats to the surface".
Or was it this one? lol I forgot…
"Takes many days to dig a ton of useless rock in order to find that diamond in the rough."