Category: Understanding Men/Women

When Men Quickly “Replace” After Separation or Divorce

Posted by Delaine - November 11, 2013 - Dealing with the ex, Fears & Challenges, Grief/ Anger, Loving & Trusting, Relationships, Surviving, Understanding Men/Women
men replace quickly after divorce  When Men Quickly “Replace” After Separation or Divorce

When Barb contacted me via email last week, she was clearly very upset.  Only six months into her divorce, she’d discovered that her separated husband had a new serious girlfriend; they were even making plans to move in together.  “It’s not that I want him back,” she wrote.  “But it’s such a slap in the face – […]

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8 Flashing Warning Signs: Dating The Separated Man

Posted by Delaine - April 30, 2013 - Concerns & Fears, Cougars & Single Moms, Dating & Sex, Phases/ Stages, Understanding Men/Women
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He says his marriage is long over.  He says he’s ready to date again.  But would it be wise for you – a woman who is ultimately seeking a serious relationship – to throw caution to the wind and dive right in? I’d definitely say, “No way.” Getting involved with a separated man usually comes […]

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Living Vacariously: Dating & Sex Books for the Divorced

Posted by Delaine - January 30, 2013 - Between the Sheets, Concerns & Fears, Cougars & Single Moms, Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches, Internet Dating, Longing...and Learning, On Writing My Book, Relationships, Sexual Issues & Kinks, Understanding Men/Women, Women's Sexuality
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Done With Fifty Shades of Grey….NOW What? By Zlata Faerman A good friend of mine recently told me, “Reading Fifty Shades of Grey literally changed my sex life.” When I asked her to explain further (even though, duh, I’m reading it too, so I get it), she said that she’s hasn’t felt so sexually charged […]

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Is Your Dating Mindset SMART or Self-Sabotaging?

Posted by Delaine - February 27, 2012 - Between the Sheets, Concerns & Fears, Cougars & Single Moms, Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches, Internet Dating, Longing...and Learning, Phases/ Stages, slideshow, Support & Girlfriends, Understanding Men/Women, Women's Sexuality dating help after divorce women
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On the heels of recent  letters I’ve received from divorced women –  many who’d just finished reading my memoir –  it really struck me how we all share many of the same fears and challenges as we attempt to date after divorce:  How do I know I’m ready, how do I handle rejection, how do […]

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10 Online Dating Profile Turn-offs to Women

Posted by Delaine - January 6, 2012 - Dating & Sex, Internet Dating, Understanding Men/Women
online dating mistakes men  10 Online Dating Profile Turn-offs to Women

For those of you men reading, who are single and internet dating, I need to ask: Do most women not respond to your emails? Are you attracting the “wrong kind” of woman? Are you scratching your head, wishing you understood what the heck women online are looking for? If you answered “yes” to any of […]

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He said: “Why have a girlfriend when I have a maid?”

Posted by Delaine - January 2, 2012 - Dating & Sex, Fears & Challenges, Grief/ Anger, Relationships, Understanding Men/Women
divorced man needs maid not girlfriend delaine moore  He said: “Why have a girlfriend when I have a maid?”

Though I don’t know my friend Tim really well, I’ve always held him in high regard.   He’s smart, he’s personable and he’s also very kind: he’s rescued me numerous times when I was faced with household and car repairs! The other day, however, I got to thinking that it seemed strange  that he was still single.  I mean, I knew he was […]

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“I Don’t Need A Man” – I’m Calling BS On This Catch Phrase

Posted by Delaine - September 28, 2011 - Healing, On being alone, Phases/ Stages, Understanding Men/Women
divorced woman rejecting men  “I Don’t Need A Man” – I’m Calling BS On This Catch Phrase

Over the past three years since I got divorced, it is by far THE most popular statement I’ve heard from women: “I don’t need a man”.  And it’s been said with passion.  Power.  Ownership.  As if it’s been EARNED.   And I’ve heard it all over the place: from dinners with girlfriends…to dating sites…. to here […]

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Relationship Demand: “50% of my To-Do List is yours or I’m done”

Posted by Delaine - September 4, 2011 - Making It Work, Relationships, Understanding Men/Women
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Hmm – I bet the issue in this letter resonates with many of you.  Hi Delaine, I’ve been divorced a couple of times.  A recent acquaintance told me if we were to get serious, she expected me to complete her “To-Do List” every evening after work.  I am tired after work and just want to […]

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One-Night Stands & Selfish Men

Posted by Delaine - June 26, 2011 - Between the Sheets, Concerns & Fears, Dating & Sex, Understanding Men/Women, Women's Sexuality
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Most women know – and men will even admit -  that a lot of men are selfish when it comes to one-night stands:  they’re in it only for their own sexual satisfaction and couldn’t care less about the woman’s. This unfortunate realization hit home hard for a client of mine last week.  She went over […]

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Scoring Points with Girlfriends/Wives: Giant Mistake #1

Posted by Delaine - May 10, 2011 - Making It Work, Relationships, Understanding Men/Women
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So you took your lady out for a lovely evening.  It included the works: her favorite restaurant, a film or performance she was dying to see,  romance to the n’th degree, and maybe even a surprise gift of flowers or a piece of jewelery. You could tell by the smile on her face and the […]

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Your New Guy Behaved Like A Complete Jerk. But How ‘Bout YOU?

Posted by Delaine - February 25, 2011 - Dating & Sex, Making It Work, Relationships, Understanding Men/Women
relationships divorce pissed off fight  Your New Guy Behaved Like A Complete Jerk. But How ‘Bout YOU?

Oh, those first relationships we have after divorce can be tricky.  If only they came with the promise of never having to deal with same kinds of the infuriating fights we had while married. You know -  the kind where he has the BALLS  to sum up your points as being ‘over reactive’ and ‘melodramatic’…and then walks out.  But right now, […]

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My Admiration and Appreciation of Men

Posted by Delaine - February 16, 2011 - Healing, Phases/ Stages, Understanding Men/Women
divorced woman melting heart open to live  My Admiration and Appreciation of Men

It’s happening; I’ve reached a point where I no longer wish to block it.  The ice around my heart is melting…and I’mfeeling my ‘need’ for a man again. It has taken four years of being single to arrive at this place.  It has required I first learn how to be happy on my own.  But now I want […]

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Is Sex The Most Important Part of a Relationship or Marriage?

Posted by Delaine - December 20, 2010 - Relationships, Sex, Sexual Issues & Kinks, Understanding Men/Women
happy husband wife sex marriage  Is Sex The Most Important Part of a Relationship or Marriage?

Not long ago, a girlfriend of mine had a conversation with her husband that went like this: “So…did you have fun with the guys playing poker last night?” “Yup.” She sat there waiting…finally : “So what do you guys talk about when you meet up?” He looked at her like she was green. “What do […]

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They Just Weren’t That Into Me!

Posted by Delaine - December 16, 2010 - Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches, Understanding Men/Women
not that into me  They Just Weren’t That Into Me!

I read the book and last night, I saw the movie. And “He’s Just Not That Into You” clearly revealed how I’d kept my head WAYYYYY up in the clouds when it came to men – my ex-husband included. Time and time and time again, throughout my dating and married life, I have made excuse after […]

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