Category: Sexual Issues & Kinks

The Grand SLAM: *Sex *Like *A *Man

Posted by Delaine - January 31, 2015 - Concerns & Fears, Cougars & Single Moms, Dating & Sex, Sexual Issues & Kinks, Women's Sexuality
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You’ve probably heard women refer to it – this concept of having sex like a man.  But what exactly does that mean?  Why is it challenging for women to do?  Yet why are more women doing it? Leaving judgements aside, let’s take a closer look: Meaning of SLAM: Some women think that having sex like…

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The Truth About Female Desire

Posted by Delaine - January 26, 2015 - Dating & Sex, Sexual Issues & Kinks, slideshow, Women's Sexuality passionate sex ex divorce
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Seven years ago, when I went through my divorce, I was overwhelmed by the mere idea of dating again — especially as a single mom of three in my late thirties.  During that first year post-divorce, however, I ended up going through a period of self and sexual exploration that shocked no one more than…

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The Duke: Questions & Cautions around Doms and D/s Relationships

Posted by Delaine - May 30, 2014 - Concerns & Fears, Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches, Internet Dating, Loving & Trusting, On My Book Becoming A Movie, Sexual Issues & Kinks, slideshow, Women's Sexuality alex c3
alex c4  The Duke:  Questions & Cautions around Doms and D/s Relationships

The Duke, The Duke, The Duke — without a doubt, he’s a big character in my book/movie that captures women’s attention.  He is a sexual Dominant after all; a grown-up and much more believable “Christian Grey”. Alex Carter plays “The Duke” in my Lifetime movie – and dang…he is some convincing as a Dom, too (smiles).  Anyhow — I want to…

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Financial Domination: An Unusual Fetish on the Fringes of BDSM

Posted by Delaine - August 30, 2013 - Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches, Sexual Issues & Kinks
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My girlfriend Deanne was messaging a younger man from a dating website this week, when out of the blue, he hit her with an “unusual” request: “Every month I’d like to give you money,“ he wrote.  “You can spend it on yourself or any way you want.  We can start out with small sums but maybe eventually get…

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Qualities To Look For In A REAL Dominant

Posted by Delaine - May 31, 2013 - Concerns & Fears, Dating & Sex, Internet Dating, Sexual Issues & Kinks
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Many women are actively seeking a Dominant in their private lives as a result of having read Fifty Shades of Grey or The Secret Sex Life of a Single Mom.   But ladies, beware:  ANY man can sport black leather and  a flogger and call himself a Dom.  You need to know how to distinguish the…

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Living Vacariously: Dating & Sex Books for the Divorced

Posted by Delaine - January 30, 2013 - Between the Sheets, Concerns & Fears, Cougars & Single Moms, Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches, Internet Dating, Longing...and Learning, On Writing My Book, Relationships, Sexual Issues & Kinks, Understanding Men/Women, Women's Sexuality
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Done With Fifty Shades of Grey….NOW What? By Zlata Faerman A good friend of mine recently told me, “Reading Fifty Shades of Grey literally changed my sex life.” When I asked her to explain further (even though, duh, I’m reading it too, so I get it), she said that she’s hasn’t felt so sexually charged…

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Shhh…This Single Mom Went to a Sex Club

Posted by Delaine - April 30, 2012 - Cougars & Single Moms, Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches, Longing...and Learning, Sexual Issues & Kinks
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It happened years ago when I first got divorced: I was 37 years old, trying to re-acclimatize to singlehood and the dating trenches when – (blush) I went to a sex club. Now before going any further, let me just say that I am not some nympho or slut or kinky sex goddess; I’m just a…

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“The Secret Sex Life of a Single Mom”

Posted by Delaine - September 6, 2011 - Between the Sheets, Concerns & Fears, Cougars & Single Moms, Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches, Infidelity, Internet Dating, Longing...and Learning, On Writing My Book, Sexual Issues & Kinks, Social Barriers & Change, Strong Mind & Spirit, Women's Sexuality
secret life of a newly single mother delaine moore mars venus coach calgary 300x258  “The Secret Sex Life of a Single Mom”

So I’m knee-deep into the publishing process on my upcoming memoir, which is slated for release in Spring 2012. And my publisher, which is the feminist publisher Seal Press, has changed the title of it.  It’s now: The Secret Sex Life of a Single Mom. (gulp)….A little more in-your-face than its original title,  “A Woman’s…

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Is Sex The Most Important Part of a Relationship or Marriage?

Posted by Delaine - December 20, 2010 - Relationships, Sex, Sexual Issues & Kinks, Understanding Men/Women
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Not long ago, a girlfriend of mine had a conversation with her husband that went like this: “So…did you have fun with the guys playing poker last night?” “Yup.” She sat there waiting…finally : “So what do you guys talk about when you meet up?” He looked at her like she was green. “What do…

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Dating After Divorce: An Indecent, Freaky Or Attractive Proposition

Posted by Delaine - December 16, 2010 - Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches, Sexual Issues & Kinks
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So a woman I know received a proposition this week from a man online.  We’re still trying to figure out if we think it’s indecent.  Is it different?  Yes.  Freaky?  Borderline.  Is she considering it?  Hmmmm…kind of. First I should mention, she’s met him in person already.  He apparently seemed totally normal.  He even seemed smart…

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