Category: Sexual Issues & Kinks

Be SMART: Qualities to Look For in a REAL Dominant

Posted by Delaine - August 30, 2013 - Dating & Sex, Loving & Trusting, Relationships, Sex, Sexual Issues & Kinks
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Ever since Fifty Shades of Grey became so popular, many women — single, separated and divorced — have decided they want to find their own sexual Dominant or “Christian Grey”. But as most of you know, I’ve had first-hand experience with Dominants and D/s –  and I want you all to know that if this is […]

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Financial Domination: An Unusual Fetish on the Fringes of BDSM

Posted by Delaine - August 30, 2013 - Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches, Sexual Issues & Kinks
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My girlfriend Deanne was messaging a younger man from a dating website this week, when out of the blue, he hit her with an “unusual” request: “Every month I’d like to give you money,“ he wrote.  “You can spend it on yourself or any way you want.  We can start out with small sums but maybe eventually get […]

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Are You And Casual Sex A Good Fit Right Now?

Posted by Delaine - April 29, 2013 - Between the Sheets, Concerns & Fears, Dating & Sex, Sexual Issues & Kinks, Women's Sexuality
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So right now, even the idea of entering a serious relationship may be enough to make you shudder — you just know you aren’t ready. At the same time, however, your hormones might be screaming loud and strong:  Give me sex, I want sex, I need sex sex sex! But is casual sex something you really want to […]

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Living Vacariously: Dating & Sex Books for the Divorced

Posted by Delaine - January 30, 2013 - Between the Sheets, Concerns & Fears, Cougars & Single Moms, Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches, Internet Dating, Longing...and Learning, On Writing My Book, Relationships, Sexual Issues & Kinks, Understanding Men/Women, Women's Sexuality
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Done With Fifty Shades of Grey….NOW What? By Zlata Faerman A good friend of mine recently told me, “Reading Fifty Shades of Grey literally changed my sex life.” When I asked her to explain further (even though, duh, I’m reading it too, so I get it), she said that she’s hasn’t felt so sexually charged […]

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Shhh…This Single Mom Went to a Sex Club

Posted by Delaine - April 30, 2012 - Cougars & Single Moms, Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches, Longing...and Learning, Sexual Issues & Kinks
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It happened years ago when I first got divorced: I was 37 years old, trying to re-acclimatize to singlehood and the dating trenches when – (blush) I went to a sex club. Now before going any further, let me just say that I am not some nympho or slut or kinky sex goddess; I’m just a […]

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“The Secret Sex Life of a Single Mom”

Posted by Delaine - September 6, 2011 - Between the Sheets, Concerns & Fears, Cougars & Single Moms, Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches, Infidelity, Internet Dating, Longing...and Learning, On Writing My Book, Sexual Issues & Kinks, Social Barriers & Change, Strong Mind & Spirit, Women's Sexuality
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So I’m knee-deep into the publishing process on my upcoming memoir, which is slated for release in Spring 2012. And my publisher, which is the feminist publisher Seal Press, has changed the title of it.  It’s now: The Secret Sex Life of a Single Mom. (gulp)….A little more in-your-face than its original title,  ”A Woman’s […]

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What Do You Say to, “I’m Not Into Monogamy”?

Posted by Delaine - July 24, 2011 - Between the Sheets, Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches, Relationships, Sex, Sexual Issues & Kinks, Uncategorized
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I recently went out on a first date with a stylish, charming man of French (Quebecois) descent.  And when our conversation moved into that of relationships (which it inevitably does with me) he suddenly caught me off guard by stating :   “I  believe in commitment…but not monogamy.” His admission left me quite tongue-tied.  I’ve never met someone who came right […]

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Is Sex The Most Important Part of a Relationship or Marriage?

Posted by Delaine - December 20, 2010 - Relationships, Sex, Sexual Issues & Kinks, Understanding Men/Women
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Not long ago, a girlfriend of mine had a conversation with her husband that went like this: “So…did you have fun with the guys playing poker last night?” “Yup.” She sat there waiting…finally : “So what do you guys talk about when you meet up?” He looked at her like she was green. “What do […]

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Dating After Divorce: An Indecent, Freaky Or Attractive Proposition

Posted by Delaine - December 16, 2010 - Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches, Sexual Issues & Kinks
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So a woman I know received a proposition this week from a man online.  We’re still trying to figure out if we think it’s indecent.  Is it different?  Yes.  Freaky?  Borderline.  Is she considering it?  Hmmmm…kind of. First I should mention, she’s met him in person already.  He apparently seemed totally normal.  He even seemed smart […]

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LUST: Damned if you give into it, damned if you don’t

Posted by Delaine - June 30, 2010 - Dating & Sex, Internet Dating, Sexual Issues & Kinks, Women's Sexuality
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As my divorced girlfriend Amy told me about a recent first date she went on, she was practically squealing.  For not only was her date smart, funny and gentlemanly, she was very sexually attracted to him.  “I kept having to tell myself to stop staring at his lips,” she laughed.  “My mind kept flashing with scenes of us getting naked!”  So at […]

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“My New Girlfriend Doesn’t Like Oral Sex Or Cuddling”

Posted by Delaine - January 24, 2010 - Dating & Sex, Relationships, Sex, Sexual Issues & Kinks, Women's Sexuality
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Do you ever wonder if staying in an unhappy marriage for years has made you blind to warning signs as you date again?  Are you so accustomed to  ‘dealing with’ relationship issues and compromising who you are/what you need, that you continue dating someone who’s already bringing you down? Take Chuck for example, a man who recently wrote […]

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How Long Could You/ Should You Go Without Sex After Divorce?

Posted by Delaine - May 13, 2009 - Dating & Sex, Sexual Issues & Kinks, Women's Sexuality
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  My divorced friend and I were standing side-by-side, watching our kids play soccer in the field.  Out of nowhere, she suddenly blurted:  “Can you believe I haven’t had sex in over two years?”  My mouth flew open.  “You can not be serious!”    She laughed and shook her head.  “Yes, I’m afraid I am.  Since […]

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