Category: Internet Dating

Dealing with Married Men on Dating Sites

Posted by Delaine - June 14, 2010 - Dating & Sex, Infidelity, Internet Dating
online dating married men  Dealing with Married Men on Dating Sites

Oh, the wild and wacky world of e-dating.  You’d think that by now, I’d be used to the insanity of it having been on and off sites for almost three years.  But THIS message, just in,  STILL caught me off guard (cutting and pasting): “Hi gorgeous!  You are one fine looking lady, phew! lol.  Where do […]

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Dating After Divorce: When You’re A Chameleon, How Do You Know What ‘Type’ You Like?

Posted by Delaine - October 13, 2009 - Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches, Internet Dating, Longing...and Learning
chameleon woman divorced  Dating After Divorce: When You’re A Chameleon, How Do You Know What ‘Type’ You Like?

As I continue to wade through the vast sea of online dating, I find myself feeling impatient with myself.  Not because I want a man pronto, but because I’m STILL not sure what ‘type’ of man I like.  And I wonder, Did I get a chameleon chromosone at birth?  Or do I simply have no idea what […]

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Does Your Ex Have A Problem With You Online Dating?

Posted by ekzact_team - July 23, 2009 - Dating & Sex, Dealing with the ex, Internet Dating
ex tracking spouse online  Does Your Ex Have A Problem With You Online Dating?

I started online dating about six months into my separation. And when my ex-husband found out, it was an ‘awkward’ moment: He was in my office and asked me which site I was on (he knew all the site names, for whatever reason).  He then told me to pull up my profile, (which I did, […]

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When’s the Best Time to Meet an Online Date?

Posted by Delaine - May 29, 2009 - Concerns & Fears, Dating & Sex, Internet Dating
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Yesterday, I received an email from a newly-separated woman who’d recently signed up on a dating site.  She wrote:   “I read your article that said you don’t spend a lot of time talking to prospective dates on the phone or IM because you find it sets up false expectations.   My concern is that I’m going to meet […]

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Internet Dating:Can Too Much Pre-Talk Wreck the In-Person Meeting?

Posted by Delaine - May 22, 2009 - Dating & Sex, Internet Dating
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A friend of mine recently asked me this question, and I’m curious as to what you think: If you talk to a prospective online date a lot by phone or IM, can it spoil the in-person meeting? My personal opinion?  Yes, it can.    Now don’t get me wrong – I always pre-screen a man once or twice by phone or through […]

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Two Divorced Women Date/Have Sex With Same Guy

Posted by Delaine - May 20, 2009 - Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches, Internet Dating
two divorced women sex same man  Two Divorced Women Date/Have Sex With Same Guy

My friend Rochelle and I were catching up with our long-time, also-divorced girlfriend, Sara, who was visiting from out of town.  Suddenly, Sara turned to Rochelle and said:  “So I just started dating this guy – a doctor from Edmonton – and the other day I remembered YOU had dated some doctor from Edmonton last year.” […]

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He Was “Concerned” About my Body Since I’m A Mom

Posted by Delaine - May 4, 2009 - Concerns & Fears, Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches, Internet Dating
divorced mom dating annoying men online  He Was “Concerned” About my Body Since I’m A Mom

We had just started chatting via Instant Messenger. Conversation was flowing nicely. Friendly, polite, he had good spelling (which I look for) .  And THEN… Then I told him I have three kids. A pause. A really long pause. Then his ‘probing’ began.

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This Divorced Mom Asks: “Do I Disqualify Men Too Quickly?”

Posted by Delaine - April 17, 2009 - Concerns & Fears, Cougars & Single Moms, Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches, Internet Dating
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According to my best friend Hali, I do.   Disqualify men too quickly, that is. Over drinks this past weekend, I was telling her about my dating life, when she quickly inserted: “Ummm Delaine…what dating life?” I laughed, rather taken aback. “What do you mean? You know I’m still on a couple of dating sites.”

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Would You/ Have You Tried Cyber Sex?

Posted by Delaine - April 12, 2009 - Concerns & Fears, Dating & Sex, Internet Dating
internet sex divorce  Would You/ Have You Tried Cyber Sex?

A newly-divorcing woman wrote me this weekend to say she’d begun internet dating after 10 years of marriage.  “But I don’t get this cyber sex thing,” she said.  “It seems like many men are looking for it.  And in all honesty, I’ve been tempted.  Have YOU had cyber sex Delaine?” Well (clearing throat), even though […]

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The Internet – A Quick Way for Wives & Husbands to Cheat

Posted by Delaine - March 22, 2009 - Dating & Sex, Infidelity, Internet Dating, Social Barriers & Change
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Good Morning America recently featured a report on cheating wives.  And two things about this news-clip stood out for me:  one, how society still ’gasps’ when its women who are choosing to have affairs.  And two, how the internet is making cheating so easy.  According to adultery expert, Bonnie Weil, an estimated 50-62% of married women cheat.  And admittedly, I […]

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My Anger Towards Men Speaks: Second Year into my Divorce

Posted by Delaine - March 3, 2009 - Dating & Sex, Healing, Internet Dating, Phases/ Stages
gross guy online divorce 300x251  My Anger Towards Men Speaks: Second Year into my Divorce

Over the past couple of months, men from the dating site, Lavalife, have started asking me the above question. The question comes in various renditions, from a simple “STILL on here, eh?” to “I can’t believe you still haven’t been snatched up!” Time and time again though, my reaction has been the same: to roll […]

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Internet Dating: 10 Expert Tips From A Divorced Mom to Get You Started

Posted by Delaine - January 23, 2009 - Dating & Sex, Internet Dating
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When a friend of mine first recommended I try internet dating, a social avenue that hadn’t even existed the last time I was single,I scoffed.  I mean, I’d heard of it, but I assumed it was full of weirdos and creeps.  Nonetheless, curiosity got the better of me – after all, how else was I ever […]

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