Category: Internet Dating

The Duke: Questions & Cautions around Doms and D/s Relationships

Posted by Delaine - May 30, 2014 - Concerns & Fears, Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches, Internet Dating, Loving & Trusting, On My Book Becoming A Movie, Sexual Issues & Kinks, slideshow, Women's Sexuality alex c3
alex c4  The Duke:  Questions & Cautions around Doms and D/s Relationships

The Duke, The Duke, The Duke — without a doubt, he’s a big character in my book/movie that captures women’s attention.  He is a sexual Dominant after all; a grown-up and much more believable “Christian Grey”. Alex Carter plays “The Duke” in my Lifetime movie – and dang…he is some convincing as a Dom, too (smiles).  Anyhow — I want to…

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Talking Dating & Sex After Divorce on CTV's The Social

Posted by Delaine - April 3, 2014 - Between the Sheets, Concerns & Fears, Cougars & Single Moms, Dating & Sex, Internet Dating, Longing...and Learning, Women's Sexuality
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I had the amazing opportunity on April 2 to go on CTV’s daytime talk show, The Social, to talk about the challenging world of dating and sex after divorce. I can’t embed it yet here, cause it’s not yet uploaded to YouTube. But at the very least, I want to provide you with the link…

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Qualities To Look For In A REAL Dominant

Posted by Delaine - May 31, 2013 - Concerns & Fears, Dating & Sex, Internet Dating, Sexual Issues & Kinks
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Many women are actively seeking a Dominant in their private lives as a result of having read Fifty Shades of Grey or The Secret Sex Life of a Single Mom.   But ladies, beware:  ANY man can sport black leather and  a flogger and call himself a Dom.  You need to know how to distinguish the…

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Living Vacariously: Dating & Sex Books for the Divorced

Posted by Delaine - January 30, 2013 - Between the Sheets, Concerns & Fears, Cougars & Single Moms, Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches, Internet Dating, Longing...and Learning, On Writing My Book, Relationships, Sexual Issues & Kinks, Understanding Men/Women, Women's Sexuality
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Done With Fifty Shades of Grey….NOW What? By Zlata Faerman A good friend of mine recently told me, “Reading Fifty Shades of Grey literally changed my sex life.” When I asked her to explain further (even though, duh, I’m reading it too, so I get it), she said that she’s hasn’t felt so sexually charged…

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Is Your Dating Mindset SMART or Self-Sabotaging?

Posted by Delaine - February 27, 2012 - Between the Sheets, Concerns & Fears, Cougars & Single Moms, Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches, Internet Dating, Longing...and Learning, Phases/ Stages, slideshow, Support & Girlfriends, Understanding Men/Women, Women's Sexuality dating help after divorce women
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On the heels of recent  letters I’ve received from divorced women –  many who’d just finished reading my memoir –  it really struck me how we all share many of the same fears and challenges as we attempt to date after divorce:  How do I know I’m ready, how do I handle rejection, how do…

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“The Secret Sex Life of a Single Mom”

Posted by Delaine - September 6, 2011 - Between the Sheets, Concerns & Fears, Cougars & Single Moms, Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches, Infidelity, Internet Dating, Longing...and Learning, On Writing My Book, Sexual Issues & Kinks, Social Barriers & Change, Strong Mind & Spirit, Women's Sexuality
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So I’m knee-deep into the publishing process on my upcoming memoir, which is slated for release in Spring 2012. And my publisher, which is the feminist publisher Seal Press, has changed the title of it.  It’s now: The Secret Sex Life of a Single Mom. (gulp)….A little more in-your-face than its original title,  “A Woman’s…

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Is Your Online Dating Profile Turning Men Off?

Posted by Delaine - March 12, 2011 - Dating & Sex, Internet Dating
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Having trouble getting men’s attention on dating sites?  Receiving very little mail or only attracting the losers and perverts?  Well ladies, MAYBE there’s something about your profile that’s turning the ‘good men’ off!   In this short video below I explain some of that doozie mistakes that SO many women make – have a watch and see!  And if…

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What’s Wrong with your Online Dating Profile?

Posted by Delaine - February 22, 2011 - Dating & Sex, Internet Dating
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Have you ever shown your online dating profile to a friend?  Get any solid feedback?  Cause the truth is, writing a successful online dating profile can be a lot harder than one suspects.  Worse still, you can unknowingly be turning off the opposite sex! Take my client Nancy as an example.  Late thirties, divorced with…

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Dating Adventure: It really is ironic…don’t you think?

Posted by Delaine - August 9, 2010 - Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches, Internet Dating
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So I spent the wee hours of last Monday night having a ‘private party’ with just me, a bottle of wine, and Alanis Morrisette.  Of course, she was just playing on youtube… but I’ll tell you, the music from her album, Jagged Little Pill, sure did hit the spot  – especially the song, Ironic.  For you see, further…

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The Dating Trenches: Liars & Players & Snakes, Oh My!

Posted by Delaine - July 26, 2010 - Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches, Internet Dating
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Venturing into the online dating world can feel as scary as trekking through a dark, unknown wood.  Who lurk’eth in the shadows? we can’t help but wonder.  Maybe “lions & ligers & bears, on my!” As I set out on last weekend’s first-date ‘adventure,’ I admit I felt both nervous and excited.  Both on the phone and during…

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Dating After Divorce: When You’re A Chameleon, How Do You Know What ‘Type’ You Like?

Posted by Delaine - October 13, 2009 - Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches, Internet Dating, Longing...and Learning
chameleon woman divorced  Dating After Divorce: When You’re A Chameleon, How Do You Know What ‘Type’ You Like?

As I continue to wade through the vast sea of online dating, I find myself feeling impatient with myself.  Not because I want a man pronto, but because I’m STILL not sure what ‘type’ of man I like.  And I wonder, Did I get a chameleon chromosone at birth?  Or do I simply have no idea what…

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Does Your Ex Have A Problem With You Online Dating?

Posted by Delaine - July 23, 2009 - Dating & Sex, Dealing with the ex, Internet Dating
ex tracking spouse online  Does Your Ex Have A Problem With You Online Dating?

I started online dating about six months into my separation. And when my ex-husband found out, it was an ‘awkward’ moment: He was in my office and asked me which site I was on (he knew all the site names, for whatever reason).  He then told me to pull up my profile, (which I did,…

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Internet Dating:Can Too Much Pre-Talk Wreck the In-Person Meeting?

Posted by Delaine - May 22, 2009 - Dating & Sex, Internet Dating
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A friend of mine recently asked me this question, and I’m curious as to what you think: If you talk to a prospective online date a lot by phone or IM, can it spoil the in-person meeting? My personal opinion?  Yes, it can.    Now don’t get me wrong – I always pre-screen a man once or twice by phone or through…

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He Was “Concerned” About my Body Since I’m A Mom

Posted by Delaine - May 4, 2009 - Concerns & Fears, Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches, Internet Dating
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We had just started chatting via Instant Messenger. Conversation was flowing nicely. Friendly, polite, he had good spelling (which I look for) .  And THEN… Then I told him I have three kids. A pause. A really long pause. Then his ‘probing’ began.

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This Divorced Mom Asks: “Do I Disqualify Men Too Quickly?”

Posted by Delaine - April 17, 2009 - Concerns & Fears, Cougars & Single Moms, Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches, Internet Dating
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According to my best friend Hali, I do.   Disqualify men too quickly, that is. Over drinks this past weekend, I was telling her about my dating life, when she quickly inserted: “Ummm Delaine…what dating life?” I laughed, rather taken aback. “What do you mean? You know I’m still on a couple of dating sites.”

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The Internet – A Quick Way for Wives & Husbands to Cheat

Posted by Delaine - March 22, 2009 - Dating & Sex, Infidelity, Internet Dating, Social Barriers & Change
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Good Morning America recently featured a report on cheating wives.  And two things about this news-clip stood out for me:  one, how society still ‘gasps’ when its women who are choosing to have affairs.  And two, how the internet is making cheating so easy.  According to adultery expert, Bonnie Weil, an estimated 50-62% of married women cheat.  And admittedly, I…

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My Anger Towards Men Speaks: Second Year into my Divorce

Posted by Delaine - March 3, 2009 - Dating & Sex, Healing, Internet Dating, Phases/ Stages
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Over the past couple of months, men from the dating site, Lavalife, have started asking me the above question. The question comes in various renditions, from a simple “STILL on here, eh?” to “I can’t believe you still haven’t been snatched up!” Time and time again though, my reaction has been the same: to roll…

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Internet Dating: 10 Expert Tips From A Divorced Mom to Get You Started

Posted by Delaine - January 23, 2009 - Dating & Sex, Internet Dating
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When a friend of mine first recommended I try internet dating, a social avenue that hadn’t even existed the last time I was single,I scoffed.  I mean, I’d heard of it, but I assumed it was full of weirdos and creeps.  Nonetheless, curiosity got the better of me – after all, how else was I ever…

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