Category: From the Dating Trenches

The Duke: Questions & Cautions around Doms and D/s Relationships

Posted by Delaine - May 30, 2014 - Concerns & Fears, Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches, Internet Dating, Loving & Trusting, On My Book Becoming A Movie, Sexual Issues & Kinks, slideshow, Women's Sexuality alex c3
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The Duke, The Duke, The Duke — without a doubt, he’s a big character in my book/movie that captures women’s attention.  He is a sexual Dominant after all; a grown-up and much more believable “Christian Grey”. Alex Carter plays ”The Duke” in my Lifetime movie – and dang…he is some convincing as a Dom, too (smiles).  Anyhow – I want to […]

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Financial Domination: An Unusual Fetish on the Fringes of BDSM

Posted by Delaine - August 30, 2013 - Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches, Sexual Issues & Kinks
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My girlfriend Deanne was messaging a younger man from a dating website this week, when out of the blue, he hit her with an “unusual” request: “Every month I’d like to give you money,“ he wrote.  “You can spend it on yourself or any way you want.  We can start out with small sums but maybe eventually get […]

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Living Vacariously: Dating & Sex Books for the Divorced

Posted by Delaine - January 30, 2013 - Between the Sheets, Concerns & Fears, Cougars & Single Moms, Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches, Internet Dating, Longing...and Learning, On Writing My Book, Relationships, Sexual Issues & Kinks, Understanding Men/Women, Women's Sexuality
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Done With Fifty Shades of Grey….NOW What? By Zlata Faerman A good friend of mine recently told me, “Reading Fifty Shades of Grey literally changed my sex life.” When I asked her to explain further (even though, duh, I’m reading it too, so I get it), she said that she’s hasn’t felt so sexually charged […]

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I Made Out With A Married Man, and I Told His Wife (Part II)

Posted by Delaine - June 25, 2012 - Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches
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So as the countdown begins to this year’s Calgary Stampede, I’m reminded of last year’s “debacle” during the festivities. That is, I spent eight hours at a bar with a handsome “urban cowboy” who professed to be single and genuinely smitten by me. A day later, I found out that he was married — and […]

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Shhh…This Single Mom Went to a Sex Club

Posted by Delaine - April 30, 2012 - Cougars & Single Moms, Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches, Longing...and Learning, Sexual Issues & Kinks
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It happened years ago when I first got divorced: I was 37 years old, trying to re-acclimatize to singlehood and the dating trenches when – (blush) I went to a sex club. Now before going any further, let me just say that I am not some nympho or slut or kinky sex goddess; I’m just a […]

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Two Men in One Weekend (Gulp)

Posted by Delaine - March 24, 2012 - Between the Sheets, Concerns & Fears, Cougars & Single Moms, Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches, Single Moms, Social Barriers & Change, Women's Sexuality
two lovers one weekend after divorce delaine moore  Two Men in One Weekend (Gulp)

Oh my God, I am so paranoid. I just can’t seem to escape it. Might as well go ahead and write on my tombstone: Loving mom,dedicated friend, Had sex with two different men in one weekend, Devoted her life to worrying about it. But now that a few days had past since last weekend’s promiscuity, […]

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Is Your Dating Mindset SMART or Self-Sabotaging?

Posted by Delaine - February 27, 2012 - Between the Sheets, Concerns & Fears, Cougars & Single Moms, Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches, Internet Dating, Longing...and Learning, Phases/ Stages, slideshow, Support & Girlfriends, Understanding Men/Women, Women's Sexuality dating help after divorce women
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On the heels of recent  letters I’ve received from divorced women –  many who’d just finished reading my memoir –  it really struck me how we all share many of the same fears and challenges as we attempt to date after divorce:  How do I know I’m ready, how do I handle rejection, how do […]

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Top 3 Memorable Date Moments of 2011

Posted by Delaine - January 16, 2012 - Between the Sheets, Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches
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Ah, another year…another year of dating (smile).  2011 brought its shares of up and downs in the dating trenches for this divorced mother of three. Not as crazy as years previous (phew!), but memorable just the same. Thus – a quick peek back at my most memorable date moments – what shocked me, rattled me, and […]

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First Date Cooking: Awesome Recipe for the Culinary-Challenged

Posted by Delaine - January 15, 2012 - Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches, slideshow
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I’ve grown accustomed these past years since divorcing to creating dinner menus suitable for young kids – that is, not too fancy, easy to make, and rarely ethnic.  Cause whenever I’ve veered off this menu plan, little noses would turn up and I’d hear, “Can I have a bowl of cereal instead?”  (Frustrating!!!!) When we’re dating after […]

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Stop After The First-Date Kiss – Yeah, RIGHT

Posted by Delaine - September 24, 2011 - Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches, Women's Sexuality
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Hollywood TV and film make it look so easy:  at the closure of a first date, a man and woman stand facing each other on her porch.  Both are intensely attracted to one another.   Chins tilt, lips touch… and for a long, blissful moment, they yield to the passion of their first kiss. But -  […]

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“The Secret Sex Life of a Single Mom”

Posted by Delaine - September 6, 2011 - Between the Sheets, Concerns & Fears, Cougars & Single Moms, Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches, Infidelity, Internet Dating, Longing...and Learning, On Writing My Book, Sexual Issues & Kinks, Social Barriers & Change, Strong Mind & Spirit, Women's Sexuality
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So I’m knee-deep into the publishing process on my upcoming memoir, which is slated for release in Spring 2012. And my publisher, which is the feminist publisher Seal Press, has changed the title of it.  It’s now: The Secret Sex Life of a Single Mom. (gulp)….A little more in-your-face than its original title,  ”A Woman’s […]

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Cheating Husband: Screw NOT Telling His Wife!

Posted by Delaine - September 5, 2011 - Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches, Healing, Infidelity, Wisdom Gained
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So this is a live, personal photo posted here today folks.  That lady with the long hair and the rhinestone bra strap is no other than yours truly.  I wish I could show you the face of this urban cowboy I’m passionately kissing here, oh I REALLY wish I could – But I don’t think […]

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Wrestling Guilt: “I Don’t Want Him To Spend The Night”

Posted by Delaine - August 10, 2011 - Between the Sheets, Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches
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A new phenomenon has come to town and entered the bedroom of one of my clients.  One that is causing her to feel guilty; one that goes against her beliefs around relationships and in a way, feels like gender role-reversal:  she doesn’t want to spend the night – or all sorts of extra time –  with the new […]

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What Do You Say to, “I’m Not Into Monogamy”?

Posted by Delaine - July 24, 2011 - Between the Sheets, Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches, Relationships, Sex, Sexual Issues & Kinks, Uncategorized
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I recently went out on a first date with a stylish, charming man of French (Quebecois) descent.  And when our conversation moved into that of relationships (which it inevitably does with me) he suddenly caught me off guard by stating :   “I  believe in commitment…but not monogamy.” His admission left me quite tongue-tied.  I’ve never met someone who came right […]

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