Category: From the Dating Trenches

Looking Back: “The Duke” Was A Donkey’s Ass

Posted by Delaine - November 12, 2014 - Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches
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donkey ass dominant the duke  Looking Back: “The Duke” Was A Donkey’s Ass

Seven years have now passed since I went through the insanity of my divorce.  I’m in a COMPLETELY different place in my life in all respects.  And when I think back on “The Duke” — the online, self-proclaimed “Dominant” who had a pronounced voice in my memoir, The Secret Sex Life of a Single Mom. my most prominent […]

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Financial Domination: An Unusual Fetish on the Fringes of BDSM

Posted by Delaine - August 30, 2013 - Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches, Sexual Issues & Kinks
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My girlfriend Deanne was messaging a younger man from a dating website this week, when out of the blue, he hit her with an “unusual” request: “Every month I’d like to give you money,“ he wrote.  “You can spend it on yourself or any way you want.  We can start out with small sums but maybe eventually get […]

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Living Vacariously: Dating & Sex Books for the Divorced

Posted by Delaine - January 30, 2013 - Between the Sheets, Concerns & Fears, Cougars & Single Moms, Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches, Internet Dating, Longing...and Learning, On Writing My Book, Relationships, Sexual Issues & Kinks, Understanding Men/Women, Women's Sexuality
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Done With Fifty Shades of Grey….NOW What? By Zlata Faerman A good friend of mine recently told me, “Reading Fifty Shades of Grey literally changed my sex life.” When I asked her to explain further (even though, duh, I’m reading it too, so I get it), she said that she’s hasn’t felt so sexually charged […]

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Is Your Dating Mindset SMART or Self-Sabotaging?

Posted by Delaine - February 27, 2012 - Between the Sheets, Concerns & Fears, Cougars & Single Moms, Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches, Internet Dating, Longing...and Learning, Phases/ Stages, slideshow, Support & Girlfriends, Understanding Men/Women, Women's Sexuality dating help after divorce women
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On the heels of recent  letters I’ve received from divorced women –  many who’d just finished reading my memoir –  it really struck me how we all share many of the same fears and challenges as we attempt to date after divorce:  How do I know I’m ready, how do I handle rejection, how do […]

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First Date Cooking: Awesome Recipe for the Culinary-Challenged

Posted by Delaine - January 15, 2012 - Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches, slideshow
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I’ve grown accustomed these past years since divorcing to creating dinner menus suitable for young kids – that is, not too fancy, easy to make, and rarely ethnic.  Cause whenever I’ve veered off this menu plan, little noses would turn up and I’d hear, “Can I have a bowl of cereal instead?”  (Frustrating!!!!) When we’re dating after […]

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“The Secret Sex Life of a Single Mom”

Posted by Delaine - September 6, 2011 - Between the Sheets, Concerns & Fears, Cougars & Single Moms, Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches, Infidelity, Internet Dating, Longing...and Learning, On Writing My Book, Sexual Issues & Kinks, Social Barriers & Change, Strong Mind & Spirit, Women's Sexuality
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So I’m knee-deep into the publishing process on my upcoming memoir, which is slated for release in Spring 2012. And my publisher, which is the feminist publisher Seal Press, has changed the title of it.  It’s now: The Secret Sex Life of a Single Mom. (gulp)….A little more in-your-face than its original title,  ”A Woman’s […]

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Only Love Can Break Your Heart

Posted by Delaine - April 30, 2011 - From the Dating Trenches, Longing...and Learning
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Written by Peter Ehrlich. I remember the first time I heard Neil Young sing Only Love Can Break Your Heart, I was in my early twenties.  And I remember what I thought about the song.  “Nice little jingle, but I should get back to Keith Richards banging out his signature dirty riffs to All Down […]

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Dating Someone Who Lives Out of Town – Worth The Time & Effort?

Posted by ekzact_team - February 1, 2011 - Dating & Sex, Fears & Challenges, From the Dating Trenches, Relationships
long distance  Dating Someone Who Lives Out of Town – Worth The Time & Effort?

Since divorcing, I’ve dated a few out-of-town men. These men were whirlwind romances that I KNEW would go nowhere – our geographical distance was too great. Nonetheless, these relationships were exactly what I needed at that time to help me find my bearings in the dating trenches soon after separating from my former husband. Recently, […]

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