Category: Cougars & Single Moms

Talking Dating & Sex After Divorce on CTV's The Social

Posted by Delaine - April 3, 2014 - Between the Sheets, Concerns & Fears, Cougars & Single Moms, Dating & Sex, Internet Dating, Longing...and Learning, Women's Sexuality
dee and gals from The Social  Talking Dating & Sex After Divorce on CTV

I had the amazing opportunity on April 2 to go on CTV’s daytime talk show, The Social, to talk about the challenging world of dating and sex after divorce. I can’t embed it yet here, cause it’s not yet uploaded to YouTube. But at the very least, I want to provide you with the link […]

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8 Flashing Warning Signs: Dating The Separated Man

Posted by Delaine - April 30, 2013 - Concerns & Fears, Cougars & Single Moms, Dating & Sex, Phases/ Stages, Understanding Men/Women
mars venus alien2  8 Flashing Warning Signs: Dating The Separated Man

He says his marriage is long over.  He says he’s ready to date again.  But would it be wise for you – a woman who is ultimately seeking a serious relationship – to throw caution to the wind and dive right in? I’d definitely say, “No way.” Getting involved with a separated man usually comes […]

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Living Vacariously: Dating & Sex Books for the Divorced

Posted by Delaine - January 30, 2013 - Between the Sheets, Concerns & Fears, Cougars & Single Moms, Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches, Internet Dating, Longing...and Learning, On Writing My Book, Relationships, Sexual Issues & Kinks, Understanding Men/Women, Women's Sexuality
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Done With Fifty Shades of Grey….NOW What? By Zlata Faerman A good friend of mine recently told me, “Reading Fifty Shades of Grey literally changed my sex life.” When I asked her to explain further (even though, duh, I’m reading it too, so I get it), she said that she’s hasn’t felt so sexually charged […]

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Shhh…This Single Mom Went to a Sex Club

Posted by Delaine - April 30, 2012 - Cougars & Single Moms, Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches, Longing...and Learning, Sexual Issues & Kinks
secret life of a newly single mother delaine moore mars venus coach calgary1 300x258  Shhh…This Single Mom Went to a Sex Club

It happened years ago when I first got divorced: I was 37 years old, trying to re-acclimatize to singlehood and the dating trenches when – (blush) I went to a sex club. Now before going any further, let me just say that I am not some nympho or slut or kinky sex goddess; I’m just a […]

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Two Men in One Weekend (Gulp)

Posted by Delaine - March 24, 2012 - Between the Sheets, Concerns & Fears, Cougars & Single Moms, Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches, Single Moms, Social Barriers & Change, Women's Sexuality
two lovers one weekend after divorce delaine moore  Two Men in One Weekend (Gulp)

Oh my God, I am so paranoid. I just can’t seem to escape it. Might as well go ahead and write on my tombstone: Loving mom,dedicated friend, Had sex with two different men in one weekend, Devoted her life to worrying about it. But now that a few days had past since last weekend’s promiscuity, […]

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Is Your Dating Mindset SMART or Self-Sabotaging?

Posted by Delaine - February 27, 2012 - Between the Sheets, Concerns & Fears, Cougars & Single Moms, Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches, Internet Dating, Longing...and Learning, Phases/ Stages, slideshow, Support & Girlfriends, Understanding Men/Women, Women's Sexuality dating help after divorce women
smart dating logo 8 275x300  Is Your Dating Mindset SMART or Self-Sabotaging?

On the heels of recent  letters I’ve received from divorced women –  many who’d just finished reading my memoir –  it really struck me how we all share many of the same fears and challenges as we attempt to date after divorce:  How do I know I’m ready, how do I handle rejection, how do […]

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Divorced Moms: Are They Hiding Their Sex Lives?

Posted by Delaine - January 7, 2012 - Between the Sheets, Cougars & Single Moms, Dating & Sex, Women's Sexuality
secret sex life divorced single moms delaine moore author  Divorced Moms: Are They Hiding Their Sex Lives?

What’s really happening in the sex lives of divorced or single moms? Are they at home on Saturday nights watering their plants? Are they periodically dating, but adhering to a strict code of abstinence? Or are many moms choosing to date and take lovers — perhaps until the next Mr. Right comes along (or not…)? […]

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“The Secret Sex Life of a Single Mom”

Posted by Delaine - September 6, 2011 - Between the Sheets, Concerns & Fears, Cougars & Single Moms, Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches, Infidelity, Internet Dating, Longing...and Learning, On Writing My Book, Sexual Issues & Kinks, Social Barriers & Change, Strong Mind & Spirit, Women's Sexuality
secret life of a newly single mother delaine moore mars venus coach calgary 300x258  “The Secret Sex Life of a Single Mom”

So I’m knee-deep into the publishing process on my upcoming memoir, which is slated for release in Spring 2012. And my publisher, which is the feminist publisher Seal Press, has changed the title of it.  It’s now: The Secret Sex Life of a Single Mom. (gulp)….A little more in-your-face than its original title,  ”A Woman’s […]

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“Mommy” vs “Woman Entitled”: Juggling Identities After Divorce

Posted by Delaine - May 21, 2011 - Between the Sheets, Cougars & Single Moms, Dating & Sex, Time Without Kids, Women's Sexuality
divorced mom seductress lover sex after divorce  “Mommy” vs “Woman Entitled”: Juggling Identities After Divorce

The other day a client and I shared a good belly laugh over a recent ‘event’ in her life.   For the first time since divorcing (over a year ago), she’d brought a man back to her house and taken him as her lover; a memorable event in any divorced person’s history book, I know! But […]

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Divorced Ladies: Is It Time To Unleash YOUR Cougar?

Posted by Delaine - January 1, 2011 - Cougars & Single Moms, Dating & Sex
uncage the cougar divorced  Divorced Ladies: Is It Time To Unleash YOUR Cougar?

Back when I first got separated and started online dating, I was insulted if any younger man called me a COUGAR. In my mind, ‘cougar’ meant older woman in leopard-skin leotards, teased hair and fake nails that wouldn’t quit. I might be in my late thirties, but excuse me, I wasn’t desperate, skanky, OR a […]

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Guys, Don’t Slam Her for Having Dated Younger Men

Posted by Delaine - June 23, 2010 - Cougars & Single Moms, Dating & Sex, Social Barriers & Change, Understanding Men/Women
older woman younger man not happy angry  Guys, Don’t Slam Her for Having Dated Younger Men

As I read through his lengthy profile on the dating site, I found myself laughing out loud.  It was written with such good humor that I assumed THIS line was too: “What I don’t like: 1) Women who date younger men in the hopes of hiding from the fact they are OLD. 2) Women who judge me cause […]

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Dear Younger Men: I’m no “MILF”. You’re the “SMILF!”

Posted by Delaine - January 30, 2010 - Cougars & Single Moms, Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches
young man yum small  Dear Younger Men: I’m no “MILF”. You’re the “SMILF!”

Since becoming single again this past year, I’ve been called a ‘Cougar’ – which I hate, and a MILF.  When I discovered MILF stood for “Mother I’d Like to F***”, I laughed.  Though some might find it offensive, I found it rather endearing:  I imagined these luscious, muscley young men looking at me with awe and […]

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First Ever “Cougar Cruise” Not As Salacious As Marketed to Be

Posted by Delaine - December 11, 2009 - Cougars & Single Moms, Dating & Sex
divorce cougar cruise 150x150  First Ever “Cougar Cruise” Not As Salacious As Marketed to Be

Last weekend, Carnival’s cruise ship, Elation, hit the mighty seas for what was branded as the first ever, “Cougar Cruise.”  Parting from San Diego, California and porting in Ensenada, Mexico, this three day adventure was marketed as a ”sexually charged’  trip of dancing, eating and partying for older women and younger men.  According to the trip’s sponsors, The […]

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Dating Younger Men – Would You? Could You? Dare Ya!

Posted by Delaine - October 21, 2009 - Cougars & Single Moms, Dating & Sex
younger man older woman divorce  Dating Younger Men – Would You? Could You? Dare Ya!

When I first started dating after divorce, I felt like I’d arrived on another planet.  Not just cause I had no idea how to date again, but because it quickly became apparent that a new ‘phenomena’ had come to town since I’d last visited:  Young Men Seeking Older Women.  And oh yeah -  their holsters were […]

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