Category: Between the Sheets

One-Night Stands & Selfish Men

Posted by Delaine - June 26, 2011 - Between the Sheets, Concerns & Fears, Dating & Sex, Understanding Men/Women, Women's Sexuality
stud sex men and one night stands  One-Night Stands & Selfish Men

Most women know – and men will even admit -  that a lot of men are selfish when it comes to one-night stands:  they’re in it only for their own sexual satisfaction and couldn’t care less about the woman’s. This unfortunate realization hit home hard for a client of mine last week.  She went over […]

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“Mommy” vs “Woman Entitled”: Juggling Identities After Divorce

Posted by Delaine - May 21, 2011 - Between the Sheets, Cougars & Single Moms, Dating & Sex, Time Without Kids, Women's Sexuality
divorced mom seductress lover sex after divorce  “Mommy” vs “Woman Entitled”: Juggling Identities After Divorce

The other day a client and I shared a good belly laugh over a recent ‘event’ in her life.   For the first time since divorcing (over a year ago), she’d brought a man back to her house and taken him as her lover; a memorable event in any divorced person’s history book, I know! But […]

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Are You & Casual Sex A Good Fit Right Now?

Posted by Delaine - March 21, 2011 - Between the Sheets, Dating & Sex, Women's Sexuality
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So today I want to talk about casual sex.  Not to promote it, but to get real around it – cause oftentimes after divorce, we know we aren’t ready for a serious relationship BUT…the bod screams, “I want some action, damnit!’  I know first-hand that being pent-up can lead us to feel irritable, unable to concentrate, and just plain […]

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The Greatest Male Lovers Open Their Hearts, Not Just Their Zippers – EVEN During First Times

Posted by Delaine - February 21, 2011 - Between the Sheets, Dating & Sex
great lover man divorce dating  The Greatest Male Lovers Open Their Hearts, Not Just Their Zippers – EVEN During First Times

It hit her light a lightning bolt.  Within seconds of their meeting, she felt attracted to him.   And over the course of the next two hours, as they sat talking and getting to know one another, their chemistry was so intense, she found herself unable to concentrate: her thoughts were roaming under his clothes…tracing up and down his magnificently athletic body… […]

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Disempowering Marital Sex: Two Divorced Women Reawaken

Posted by Delaine - December 30, 2010 - Between the Sheets, Dating & Sex, Grief/ Anger, Healing, Infidelity, Phases/ Stages, Surviving, Women's Sexuality
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Two years into Sam’s seven-year marriage, she started hating having sex with her now-ex-husband. Sex became something she ‘got over with’ to keep the peace and keep him happy. And he wanted it a lot – every day, if not twice, even though she was oftentimes pregnant, nursing, or up at night with babies/toddlers. On […]

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Role Reversal: “Honey…this is sex not love”

Posted by Delaine - October 7, 2010 - Between the Sheets, Dating & Sex, Women's Sexuality
not love great sex dating divorce  Role Reversal: “Honey…this is sex not love”

We enjoyed each other for hours.  And it was as wonderful as the other four times we’d been together.  Passionate.  Intense. Deep.  Stress-relieving.  But as I lay snuggled against him in the aftermath,  eyes closed, brain off in Post-Orgasmic Wonderland,  I suddenly heard:   “I love you, Delaine.” My eyes flew open.  Did I imagine that?  Oh God, on no, he actually […]

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Post Divorce Sex: Less Than A Bump & A Grind

Posted by Delaine - January 2, 2010 - Between the Sheets, Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches
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Prior to that night, I’d met him three times for dinner. And even though mentally and physically he charged all my cylinders, I kept my foot on the brakes; I wasn’t just looking for ‘any’ lover, I wanted an ‘alpha’ lover – a man who was strong, passionate, and very much in control, both inwardly […]

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She’s Has Multiple Lovers – But No Guilt

Posted by Delaine - September 2, 2009 - Between the Sheets, Dating & Sex, Healing, Phases/ Stages, Women's Sexuality
divorced woman sex multiple men1  She’s Has Multiple Lovers – But No Guilt

A divorcing girlfriend was updating me on her dating life over the phone.  She’d just flown back from spending a fun-filled weekend with a new man she’d met online.  She said, “I don’t think he’s Mr Right, but he does have some wonderful qualities.  And man – was he ever something in bed!  Really aggressive.  […]

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Sleeping With A Man After Divorce

Posted by Delaine - July 2, 2009 - Between the Sheets, Dating & Sex
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Since separating from my ex-husband two years ago, I haven’t slept with many men; in fact, less than a handful. Oh – let me clarify:  I mean actually sleeping with men.  This has been the case for two reasons.  One, I haven’t wanted to sleep beside most of them.  And two, I usually have my kids at home and […]

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Friends with Benefits: One Step Closer

Posted by Delaine - April 6, 2009 - Between the Sheets, Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches
friends with benefits1  Friends with Benefits: One Step Closer

Recently I wrote an article about the concept of  ‘friends with benefits,” and how, even though it sounded good in theory, I was skeptical if  could translate into real life for most people.   This past weekend, however, I think I got a few steps closer to having such a relationship. How?  It was simple actually: I just came right out […]

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