Category: Dating & Sex

Last month, a local book club contacted me to say that they’d chosen my just-released memoir as their April pick. They also asked if I might attend their meeting in person, to which I agreed wholeheartedly — discussing my book’s core messages around sexual and personal awakenings would be a huge honor for ME (!). [...]

Today, as women everywhere breathe heavily over Fifty Shades of Grey, an erotic novel complete with bondage, discipline and power fantasy role-playing, I actually find myself breathing a little easier… Because it’s something I’ve experienced in real life. Moreover, I chose to tell the world about it in my just-released memoir (gulp). And at the [...]

Oh my God, I am so paranoid. I just can’t seem to escape it. Might as well go ahead and write on my tombstone: Loving mom,dedicated friend, Had sex with two different men in one weekend, Devoted her life to worrying about it. But now that a few days had past since last weekend’s promiscuity, [...]

On the heels of recent  letters I’ve received from divorced women –  many who’d just finished reading my memoir –  it really struck me how we all share many of the same fears and challenges as we attempt to date after divorce:  How do I know I’m ready, how do I handle rejection, how do [...]

There’s a natural progression to relationships and it usually looks something like this: we date, we sleep over at each other’s houses more and more frequently, we move in together, we get married.  Oftentimes, we look at moving in together/getting married stage as the ultimate ideal – lives are completely integrated.  And we often assume that the quicker we get there, the [...]

Thinking back to my twenties, I remember I said the words “I love you” very soon in my relationships with men.  The “love feelings” would overwhelm me: the closeness, the intimacy, the peace of feeling cared for and apart from the rest of the world.  The warmth and power of these feelings would fill my chest, sometimes to the [...]