Category: Dating & Sex

"Friends With Benefits" – A Myth, A Rarity, or A Matter of Luck?

Posted by Delaine - May 18, 2015 - Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches
friends with benefits  "Friends With Benefits" – A Myth, A Rarity, or A Matter of Luck?

From Year Two Post-Divorce When my best friend Hali and I found ourselves newly separated and back out in the dating trenches, we kept hearing the term “Friends With Benefits.”   We both liked the sound of it and decided it was something we wanted.  After all, we weren’t ready for serious, but we wanted to have sex.  Thus a sexual…

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I Made Out With A Married Man, and I Told His Wife (Part II)

Posted by Delaine - February 25, 2015 - Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches
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From year four post-divorce So as the countdown begins to this year’s Calgary Stampede, I’m reminded of last year’s “debacle” during the festivities. That is, I spent eight hours at a bar with a handsome “urban cowboy” who professed to be single and genuinely smitten by me. A day later, I found out that he…

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The Grand SLAM: *Sex *Like *A *Man

Posted by Delaine - January 31, 2015 - Concerns & Fears, Cougars & Single Moms, Dating & Sex, Sexual Issues & Kinks, Women's Sexuality
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You’ve probably heard women refer to it – this concept of having sex like a man.  But what exactly does that mean?  Why is it challenging for women to do?  Yet why are more women doing it? Leaving judgements aside, let’s take a closer look: Meaning of SLAM: Some women think that having sex like…

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The Truth About Female Desire

Posted by Delaine - January 26, 2015 - Dating & Sex, Sexual Issues & Kinks, slideshow, Women's Sexuality passionate sex ex divorce
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Seven years ago, when I went through my divorce, I was overwhelmed by the mere idea of dating again — especially as a single mom of three in my late thirties.  During that first year post-divorce, however, I ended up going through a period of self and sexual exploration that shocked no one more than…

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Hello God? It’s Me, Delaine. Can You PLEASE Somehow End This Date?

Posted by Delaine - January 20, 2015 - Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches
bad date get me out of here  Hello God? It’s Me, Delaine. Can You PLEASE Somehow End This Date?

FROM THE ARCHIVES: Year four post-divorce His comments caught me totally off guard: We were out on our second date – me and this handsome, charming, 42-year-old divorced businessman. The Indian food we’d eaten was excellent, as was the conversation we’d shared: satisfying…delicious…with just enough ’spice.’  And as we sat there finishing up the last drops of our red wine, I…

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Looking Back: “The Duke” Was A Donkey’s Ass

Posted by Delaine - December 12, 2014 - Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches
donkey ass dominant the duke  Looking Back: “The Duke” Was A Donkey’s Ass

Seven years have now passed since I went through the insanity of my divorce.  I’m in a COMPLETELY different place in my life in all respects.  And when I think back on “The Duke” — the online, self-proclaimed “Dominant” who had a pronounced voice in my memoir, The Secret Sex Life of a Single Mom. my most prominent…

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The Many Degrees of ‘Man Craziness': Is It time to Break the Habit?

Posted by Delaine - November 3, 2014 - Concerns & Fears, Dating & Sex, Longing...and Learning, Phases/ Stages
divorced woman man crazy obsessed delaine moore dating  The Many Degrees of ‘Man Craziness

A lot of divorced women – myself included – go through a ‘man crazy’ phase in the aftermath of divorce. By ‘man-crazy’ I mean some part of them is always thinking about, worried about, or eagerly daydreaming about some guy they plan to meet, want to meet, or hope to meet. There are many different…

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The Secret Sex Life of a Single Mom Airing On The Movie Network

Posted by Delaine - May 30, 2014 - Dating & Sex, Escaping: Books, Music, Films, On My Book Becoming A Movie, slideshow ashley jones7
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I’m happy to let you all know that my book-turned-movie, The Secret Sex Life of a Single Mom, is now airing on The Movie Network (which includes HBO Can) The movie is starring Ashley Jones (as me) and Alex Carter as The Duke (the Dom).  Here is a quick synopsis of the movie as well…

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The Duke: Questions & Cautions around Doms and D/s Relationships

Posted by Delaine - May 30, 2014 - Concerns & Fears, Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches, Internet Dating, Loving & Trusting, On My Book Becoming A Movie, Sexual Issues & Kinks, slideshow, Women's Sexuality alex c3
alex c4  The Duke:  Questions & Cautions around Doms and D/s Relationships

The Duke, The Duke, The Duke — without a doubt, he’s a big character in my book/movie that captures women’s attention.  He is a sexual Dominant after all; a grown-up and much more believable “Christian Grey”. Alex Carter plays “The Duke” in my Lifetime movie – and dang…he is some convincing as a Dom, too (smiles).  Anyhow — I want to…

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Dating Advice: You Are Not Your Story

Posted by Delaine - May 27, 2014 - Advice, Concerns & Fears, Dating & Sex, Healing, Wisdom Gained
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FROM THE ARCHIVES MAY 2009 A divorced girlfriend of mine was going out on a date – a third date, which rarely happened with her. And as we talked over the phone beforehand, she was almost panicked.“I actually like this man, Delaine. But the timing couldn’t be worse – my life is such a mess,…

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Talking Dating & Sex After Divorce on CTV's The Social

Posted by Delaine - April 3, 2014 - Between the Sheets, Concerns & Fears, Cougars & Single Moms, Dating & Sex, Internet Dating, Longing...and Learning, Women's Sexuality
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I had the amazing opportunity on April 2 to go on CTV’s daytime talk show, The Social, to talk about the challenging world of dating and sex after divorce. I can’t embed it yet here, cause it’s not yet uploaded to YouTube. But at the very least, I want to provide you with the link…

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Loving Again After Divorce: I Admit It – I’m Afraid

Posted by Delaine - March 25, 2014 - Dating & Sex, Fears & Challenges, Healing, Longing...and Learning, Loving & Trusting, Phases/ Stages, Relationships
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From year two post-divorce… A close male friend of mine, one whose opinion I value greatly, keeps telling me:  Gypsy (his nickname for me), you are so afraid to fall in love.  You’ve built walls to protect yourself and keep men out, but you must be careful not to become your own prisoner. Immediately I…

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Ask Coach Delaine: “Why is my newly-divorced boyfriend retreating from me?”

Posted by Delaine - September 27, 2013 - Concerns & Fears, Dating & Sex, Fears & Challenges, Healing, Loving & Trusting, Phases/ Stages, Relationships, Single Dads, slideshow divorced man happy or hurting divorce moving on coping
divorcing man help sad angry trying to move on  Ask Coach Delaine: “Why is my newly-divorced boyfriend retreating from me?”

Question: Hello Delaine, I have been happily dating a separated man for the past year as he finished up his divorce.  His divorce was finally finalized last month. They were married for over 20 years and according to him, it wasn’t a good marriage. I’ve noticed, however, that ever since the divorce came through, he’s…

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When Men Quickly “Replace” After Separation or Divorce

Posted by Delaine - September 11, 2013 - Dealing with the ex, Fears & Challenges, Grief/ Anger, Loving & Trusting, Relationships, Surviving, Understanding Men/Women
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When Barb contacted me via email last week, she was clearly very upset.  Only six months into her divorce, she’d discovered that her separated husband had a new serious girlfriend; they were even making plans to move in together.  “It’s not that I want him back,” she wrote.  “But it’s such a slap in the face –…

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Financial Domination: An Unusual Fetish on the Fringes of BDSM

Posted by Delaine - August 30, 2013 - Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches, Sexual Issues & Kinks
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My girlfriend Deanne was messaging a younger man from a dating website this week, when out of the blue, he hit her with an “unusual” request: “Every month I’d like to give you money,“ he wrote.  “You can spend it on yourself or any way you want.  We can start out with small sums but maybe eventually get…

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Qualities To Look For In A REAL Dominant

Posted by Delaine - May 31, 2013 - Concerns & Fears, Dating & Sex, Internet Dating, Sexual Issues & Kinks
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Many women are actively seeking a Dominant in their private lives as a result of having read Fifty Shades of Grey or The Secret Sex Life of a Single Mom.   But ladies, beware:  ANY man can sport black leather and  a flogger and call himself a Dom.  You need to know how to distinguish the…

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8 Flashing Warning Signs: Dating The Separated Man

Posted by Delaine - April 30, 2013 - Concerns & Fears, Cougars & Single Moms, Dating & Sex, Phases/ Stages, Understanding Men/Women
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He says his marriage is long over.  He says he’s ready to date again.  But would it be wise for you – a woman who is ultimately seeking a serious relationship – to throw caution to the wind and dive right in? I’d definitely say, “No way.” Getting involved with a separated man usually comes…

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"I Want A Sensitive Man" -- Are You Sure?

Posted by Delaine - April 27, 2013 - Dating & Sex, Making It Work, Relationships
men replace quickly after divorce 233x300  "I Want A Sensitive Man" -- Are You Sure?

“I want a sensitive man.”  It’s become a popular mating call by women these days, especially among women on the heels of a breakup or divorce.  Oftentimes their former partners were, as one divorcing woman put it, “as expressive as a piece of cement.”    Thus, the “sensitive man” —  a guy who’s in touch with…

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Why You Need to SLOOOOOW Down That Next Relationship

Posted by Delaine - February 26, 2013 - Fears & Challenges, Longing...and Learning, Relationships
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There’s a natural progression to relationships and it usually looks something like this: we date, we sleep over at each other’s houses more and more frequently, we move in together, we get married. Oftentimes, we look at moving in together/getting married stage as the ultimate ideal – lives are completely integrated.  And we often assume that the quicker we get there, the…

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Living Vacariously: Dating & Sex Books for the Divorced

Posted by Delaine - January 30, 2013 - Between the Sheets, Concerns & Fears, Cougars & Single Moms, Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches, Internet Dating, Longing...and Learning, On Writing My Book, Relationships, Sexual Issues & Kinks, Understanding Men/Women, Women's Sexuality
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Done With Fifty Shades of Grey….NOW What? By Zlata Faerman A good friend of mine recently told me, “Reading Fifty Shades of Grey literally changed my sex life.” When I asked her to explain further (even though, duh, I’m reading it too, so I get it), she said that she’s hasn’t felt so sexually charged…

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