Category: Dating & Sex

The Secret Sex Life of a Single Mom Airs June 14th!

Posted by Delaine - May 30, 2014 - Dating & Sex, Escaping: Books, Music, Films, On My Book Becoming A Movie, slideshow ashley jones7
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I’m happy to let you all know that my book-turned-movie, The Secret Sex Life of a Single Mom, is airing again on Lifetime this weekend: Saturday, June 14 at 10 p.m. ET.  You can set up a ‘reminder’ through Lifetime American if that helps. Please note that it will NOT air on Canadian Lifetime or The […]

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The Duke: Questions & Cautions around Doms and D/s Relationships

Posted by Delaine - May 30, 2014 - Concerns & Fears, Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches, Internet Dating, Loving & Trusting, On My Book Becoming A Movie, Sexual Issues & Kinks, slideshow, Women's Sexuality alex c3
alex c4  The Duke:  Questions & Cautions around Doms and D/s Relationships

The Duke, The Duke, The Duke — without a doubt, he’s a big character in my book/movie that captures women’s attention.  He is a sexual Dominant after all; a grown-up and much more believable “Christian Grey”. Alex Carter plays ”The Duke” in my Lifetime movie – and dang…he is some convincing as a Dom, too (smiles).  Anyhow – I want to […]

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Talking Dating & Sex After Divorce on CTV's The Social

Posted by Delaine - April 3, 2014 - Between the Sheets, Concerns & Fears, Cougars & Single Moms, Dating & Sex, Internet Dating, Longing...and Learning, Women's Sexuality
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I had the amazing opportunity on April 2 to go on CTV’s daytime talk show, The Social, to talk about the challenging world of dating and sex after divorce. I can’t embed it yet here, cause it’s not yet uploaded to YouTube. But at the very least, I want to provide you with the link […]

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FROM THE ARCHIVES: Does Penis Size Matter?

Posted by ekzact_team - February 13, 2014 - Dating & Sex, Sex
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(From July, 2010.  Year Two post-divorce) The topic of men’s penis size was brought to my attention YET AGAIN this morning in an article on Fox.com: A new study revealed that French men need the largest condoms in Europe while Greeks get by on the small ones. This study by a German consultancy asked 10,500 men […]

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Ask Coach Delaine: “Why is my newly-divorced boyfriend retreating from me?”

Posted by Delaine - September 27, 2013 - Concerns & Fears, Dating & Sex, Fears & Challenges, Healing, Loving & Trusting, Phases/ Stages, Relationships, Single Dads, slideshow divorced man happy or hurting divorce moving on coping
divorcing man help sad angry trying to move on  Ask Coach Delaine: “Why is my newly-divorced boyfriend retreating from me?”

Question: Hello Delaine, I have been happily dating a separated man for the past year as he finished up his divorce.  His divorce was finally finalized last month. They were married for over 20 years and according to him, it wasn’t a good marriage. I’ve noticed, however, that ever since the divorce came through, he’s […]

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When Men Quickly “Replace” After Separation or Divorce

Posted by Delaine - September 11, 2013 - Dealing with the ex, Fears & Challenges, Grief/ Anger, Loving & Trusting, Relationships, Surviving, Understanding Men/Women
men replace quickly after divorce  When Men Quickly “Replace” After Separation or Divorce

When Barb contacted me via email last week, she was clearly very upset.  Only six months into her divorce, she’d discovered that her separated husband had a new serious girlfriend; they were even making plans to move in together.  “It’s not that I want him back,” she wrote.  “But it’s such a slap in the face – […]

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Be SMART: Qualities to Look For in a REAL Dominant

Posted by Delaine - August 30, 2013 - Dating & Sex, Loving & Trusting, Relationships, Sex, Sexual Issues & Kinks
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Ever since Fifty Shades of Grey became so popular, many women — single, separated and divorced — have decided they want to find their own sexual Dominant or “Christian Grey”. But as most of you know, I’ve had first-hand experience with Dominants and D/s –  and I want you all to know that if this is […]

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Financial Domination: An Unusual Fetish on the Fringes of BDSM

Posted by Delaine - August 30, 2013 - Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches, Sexual Issues & Kinks
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My girlfriend Deanne was messaging a younger man from a dating website this week, when out of the blue, he hit her with an “unusual” request: “Every month I’d like to give you money,“ he wrote.  “You can spend it on yourself or any way you want.  We can start out with small sums but maybe eventually get […]

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Is Women’s Sexual Desire Wired For Monogamy?

Posted by Delaine - July 27, 2013 - Between the Sheets, Dating & Sex, Relationships, Sex
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I sometimes worried there was something *wrong* with me – sexually, that is. Cause at some point, during every healthy serious relationship I was involved in, my sexual desire levels severely plummeted. And try as I did to restore them, using all the expert advice I could get my hands on through books, my efforts proved as futile as […]

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10 Online Dating Profile Turn-offs to Women

Posted by Delaine - July 6, 2013 - Dating & Sex, Internet Dating, Understanding Men/Women
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For those of you men reading, who are single and internet dating, I need to ask: Do most women not respond to your emails? Are you attracting the “wrong kind” of woman? Are you scratching your head, wishing you understood what the heck women online are looking for? If you answered “yes” to any of […]

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8 Flashing Warning Signs: Dating The Separated Man

Posted by Delaine - April 30, 2013 - Concerns & Fears, Cougars & Single Moms, Dating & Sex, Phases/ Stages, Understanding Men/Women
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He says his marriage is long over.  He says he’s ready to date again.  But would it be wise for you – a woman who is ultimately seeking a serious relationship – to throw caution to the wind and dive right in? I’d definitely say, “No way.” Getting involved with a separated man usually comes […]

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Are You And Casual Sex A Good Fit Right Now?

Posted by Delaine - April 29, 2013 - Between the Sheets, Concerns & Fears, Dating & Sex, Sexual Issues & Kinks, Women's Sexuality
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So right now, even the idea of entering a serious relationship may be enough to make you shudder — you just know you aren’t ready. At the same time, however, your hormones might be screaming loud and strong:  Give me sex, I want sex, I need sex sex sex! But is casual sex something you really want to […]

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Why You Need to SLOOOOOW Down That Next Relationship

Posted by Delaine - February 26, 2013 - Fears & Challenges, Longing...and Learning, Relationships
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There’s a natural progression to relationships and it usually looks something like this: we date, we sleep over at each other’s houses more and more frequently, we move in together, we get married. Oftentimes, we look at moving in together/getting married stage as the ultimate ideal – lives are completely integrated.  And we often assume that the quicker we get there, the […]

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Living Vacariously: Dating & Sex Books for the Divorced

Posted by Delaine - January 30, 2013 - Between the Sheets, Concerns & Fears, Cougars & Single Moms, Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches, Internet Dating, Longing...and Learning, On Writing My Book, Relationships, Sexual Issues & Kinks, Understanding Men/Women, Women's Sexuality
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Done With Fifty Shades of Grey….NOW What? By Zlata Faerman A good friend of mine recently told me, “Reading Fifty Shades of Grey literally changed my sex life.” When I asked her to explain further (even though, duh, I’m reading it too, so I get it), she said that she’s hasn’t felt so sexually charged […]

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