Category: Making It Work

Thoughts on the “Next Serious Relationship” After Divorce

Posted by Delaine - November 10, 2013 - Blended & Changing Families, Fears & Challenges, Loving & Trusting, Making It Work, Relationships
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The title of this blog may be a bit misleading.  Cause I don’t want to talk in a professional  tone or way about the “next serious relationship” after divorce.  I want to talk about mine. That’s right.  MY next serious relationship.  I had one for over 18 months.  And I never told you anything about […]

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20 Relationship Insights From A Divorced Man

Posted by Delaine - August 19, 2013 - Fears & Challenges, Loving & Trusting, Making It Work, Relationships, Sex
thinking man  20 Relationship Insights From A Divorced Man

Contributed by Gerald Rogers Obviously, I’m not a relationship expert. But there’s something about my divorce being finalized this week that gives me perspective of things I wish I would have done different.  After losing a woman that I loved, and a marriage of almost 16 years, here’s the advice I wish I would have […]

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Travelling Spouse: Avoid the Pitfalls That Can Result in Divorce

Posted by Delaine - July 14, 2013 - Fears & Challenges, Making It Work, Relationships
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My ex-husband travelled a lot for work when we married.  He was gone about 70 – 80% of the time. And the circumstances we faced were tough.  Not just because we had three kids in three years so our marriage had the stresses of young kids to adjust to.  But because neither of us knew […]

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When Divorced Girlfriends Offend: Too Quick to Criticize Love & Men?

Posted by Delaine - October 23, 2012 - Fears & Challenges, Loving & Trusting, Making It Work, Midlife Divorce, Relationships, Social Barriers & Change, Support & Girlfriends, Surviving
good intentions divorced girlfriends hurt  When Divorced Girlfriends Offend: Too Quick to Criticize Love & Men?

Recently a divorced woman named Sue found herself in a “gross” conversation with her divorced griflriends.  Not “gross” as in the subject matter was lude or disgusting; rather, the conversation left her feeling gross.  For  somehow, her friends’ conversation had shifted to her relationship with her boyfriend –  and as she put it, “It was like […]

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Relationship Demand: “50% of my To-Do List is yours or I’m done”

Posted by Delaine - September 4, 2011 - Making It Work, Relationships, Understanding Men/Women
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Hmm – I bet the issue in this letter resonates with many of you.  Hi Delaine, I’ve been divorced a couple of times.  A recent acquaintance told me if we were to get serious, she expected me to complete her “To-Do List” every evening after work.  I am tired after work and just want to […]

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Do We Falsely Idealize Lifetime Married Couples?

Posted by Delaine - July 30, 2011 - Deciding to Stay or Go, Making It Work, Relationships, slideshow, Social Barriers & Change, Surviving marriage lifetime happy or unhappy divorce
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Unexpected change is sweeping through the lives of some of my dearest girlfriends these days.  It has arrived wearing the face of divorce or break-up.  As a result, deep and complex conversations around the nature of love, secrecy, and commitment have ensued.  And now, for the first time in my life, I find myself seriously […]

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Scoring Points with Girlfriends/Wives: Giant Mistake #1

Posted by Delaine - May 10, 2011 - Making It Work, Relationships, Understanding Men/Women
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So you took your lady out for a lovely evening.  It included the works: her favorite restaurant, a film or performance she was dying to see,  romance to the n’th degree, and maybe even a surprise gift of flowers or a piece of jewelery. You could tell by the smile on her face and the […]

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Your New Guy Behaved Like A Complete Jerk. But How ‘Bout YOU?

Posted by Delaine - February 25, 2011 - Dating & Sex, Making It Work, Relationships, Understanding Men/Women
relationships divorce pissed off fight  Your New Guy Behaved Like A Complete Jerk. But How ‘Bout YOU?

Oh, those first relationships we have after divorce can be tricky.  If only they came with the promise of never having to deal with same kinds of the infuriating fights we had while married. You know -  the kind where he has the BALLS  to sum up your points as being ‘over reactive’ and ‘melodramatic’…and then walks out.  But right now, […]

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How far should we go to make a relationship work because of great sex?

Posted by Delaine - January 21, 2011 - Deciding to Stay or Go, Healing, Making It Work, Phases/ Stages, Relationships, Surviving
passionate sex ex divorce  How far should we go to make a relationship work because of great sex?

Contributed by Peter Ehrlich. I’m haunted by my Ex Katherine. Not by that went wrong with our relationship, but what went right with our relationship – our love life. After being laid naked, fetal-positioned, paralyzed, and wanting by our breakup, I want to attempt a sequel with my Ex.  I am willing to work harder […]

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My New Bedtime Fantasy

Posted by Delaine - January 16, 2011 - From the Dating Trenches, Making It Work, Midlife Divorce, Relationships
divorced man bed sex fantasy  My New Bedtime Fantasy

Contributed by Peter Ehrlich. I want to talk about my newest, ongoing, “driving me forward” bedtime fantasy.  This twisted new fantasy is the new fuel that has launched me to join yet another dating site and contact virtually every single woman between the ages of 42 and 52.  I can go to any dating site […]

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Relationship Advice: Focus Less on the Kids & More on Each Other

Posted by Delaine - May 6, 2010 - Blended & Changing Families, Making It Work, Relationships
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Couples need to focus on each other more and their kids less, according to family coach and author David Code.  Not only will their kids be happier and healthier for it, so will their marriages/relationships.  And I’m taking notes:  cause when I was married, I admit I sometimes put being a great parent ahead of being a great spouse.  And […]

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Can Infidelity Save The Modern Marriage?

Posted by Delaine - November 12, 2009 - Dating & Sex, Infidelity, Making It Work, Relationships
affair spouse cheating  Can Infidelity Save The Modern Marriage?

Can cheating on your spouse end up saving your marriage? According to Noel Biderman in his new book, Cheaters Proper, How Infidelity Will Save The Modern Marriage, the answer, believe it or not, is yes. Who is this Noel Biderman?  This native Torontonian is the CEO and founder of  The Ashley Madison Agency, an online dating […]

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Relationship Patterns: I Don’t Want to Be a Man’s Psychologist

Posted by Delaine - June 27, 2009 - Fears & Challenges, Longing...and Learning, Loving & Trusting, Making It Work, Relationships, Understanding Men/Women
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Flash back a few years ago. Sitting on a park bench with a man I loved, a man I thought the greatest human being on earth. He was showing me old photos from his childhood, words, stories, spilling out of his mouth. I sat there listening, loving him, wanting to know more, wanting to help […]

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