Category: Fears & Challenges

Relationship Warning: Do You See His Potential or Who He REALLY Is?

Posted by Delaine - August 31, 2010 - Dating & Sex, Fears & Challenges, From the Dating Trenches, Loving & Trusting, Relationships, Understanding Men/Women
infatuated mans potential  Relationship Warning: Do You See His Potential or Who He REALLY Is?

It’s been three and a half years since my ex-husband and I split up.  And since then, despite the many dates and mini-relationships I’ve had, I’m still single.  But I don’t think of this as being a ‘bad’ thing ; I think I’ve needed this time – to heal, to grow, to like myself more…and to get a much stronger […]

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What Kind Of Man Wants ‘Serious’ With A Single Mom?

Posted by Delaine - June 16, 2010 - Dating & Sex, Fears & Challenges, Longing...and Learning, On being alone, Relationships, Single Moms
dating single mom men  What Kind Of Man Wants ‘Serious’ With A Single Mom?

So I broke up with someone last week – a single dad of two.   He’s the first man I’ve gone out with since divorcing that I contemplated getting serious with whatsoever.  But even though we got along brilliantly, even though he said he was crazy about me, one main thing deterred his interest: the fact that I […]

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Relationships:The Huge Missing Piece I FINALLY Found

Posted by Delaine - February 23, 2010 - Fears & Challenges, Healing, Relationships, Wisdom Gained
relationships dating puzzle piece 199x300  Relationships:The Huge Missing Piece I FINALLY Found

I dare say I’ve had an epiphany in the relationship department; a giant revelation around what I ultimately need.  And though it may seem an obvious component to you, I’m afraid  it’s something I’ve never had before.  And I can’t help but grin cause it came via a most unusual source. Do you remember my Handsome Good Man?  He’s the widower […]

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Is It WRONG For A Man’s Wallet Size To Matter?

Posted by Delaine - February 18, 2010 - Dating & Sex, Fears & Challenges, From the Dating Trenches, Relationships
money dating wealthy divorce 150x150  Is It WRONG For A Man’s Wallet Size To Matter?

No doubt today’s subject is controversial and uncomfortable for some…but I’m fielding these questions anyway:  Does how much a man earns at his job affect your decision to date him or continue dating him?  Or do you find such a concept offensive, shallow, and/or insulting to the meaning of  True Love? After asking a few divorcing girlfriends for their honest […]

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Relationships: Do Women Need ‘Deeper’ Men?

Posted by Delaine - July 20, 2009 - Dating & Sex, Fears & Challenges, Longing...and Learning, Relationships
what women want in men  Relationships: Do Women Need ‘Deeper’ Men?

A divorcing girlfriend of mine is dating a man who, externally, seems to have it all – good looks, wealth, the trimmings. And inwardly, there’s no denying he is a good, decent man. Together, they seem to make good ‘partners,’ going places, doing projects, having fun… Recently, however, she confessed: “On some deeper level, we […]

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Relationship Patterns: I Don’t Want to Be a Man’s Psychologist

Posted by Delaine - June 27, 2009 - Fears & Challenges, Longing...and Learning, Loving & Trusting, Making It Work, Relationships, Understanding Men/Women
divorced men counselling 300x233  Relationship Patterns: I Don’t Want to Be a Man’s Psychologist

Flash back a few years ago. Sitting on a park bench with a man I loved, a man I thought the greatest human being on earth. He was showing me old photos from his childhood, words, stories, spilling out of his mouth. I sat there listening, loving him, wanting to know more, wanting to help […]

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Loving Again After Divorce: I Admit It – I’m Afraid

Posted by Delaine - June 25, 2009 - Dating & Sex, Fears & Challenges, Healing, Longing...and Learning, Loving & Trusting, Phases/ Stages, Relationships
divorce fear of love1  Loving Again After Divorce: I Admit It – I’m Afraid

A close male friend of mine, one whose opinion I value greatly, keeps telling me:  Gypsy (his nickname for me), you are so afraid to fall in love.  You’ve built walls to protect yourself and keep men out, but you must be careful not to become your own prisoner. Immediately I get angry at him.  […]

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New Relationship Consideration: Would You Have Another Baby?

Posted by Delaine - June 6, 2009 - Fears & Challenges, Relationships
divorced mom pregnant  New Relationship Consideration: Would You Have Another Baby?

I gave birth to three kids in three years and I can honestly say their early years were a blur to me; life was INSANE.  And since divorcing I’ve sworn I wouldn’t have another child.  “This body now belongs to ME,” I’ve joked with my girlfriends.  The other day, however, a girlfriend asked me, “Then […]

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You’ve PROVEN You Don’t “Need” A Man – NOW what?

Posted by Delaine - March 26, 2009 - Fears & Challenges, Loving & Trusting, Relationships, Support & Girlfriends
black and white side cropped sm  You’ve PROVEN You Don’t “Need” A Man – NOW what?

“You’ve proven you don’t need a man, Delaine.”   My best friend Hali then put her wine glass down on the restaurant table and continued: “So when are you going to stop proving it and move BEYOND it?” I looked at her confused. “What are you talking about?” “You’ve done it Delaine.  You’ve shown everyone that you can […]

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