Category: Relationships

What's It REALLY Like to Have An Affair?

Posted by Delaine - May 11, 2013 - Advice, Grief/ Anger, Infidelity, Phases/ Stages, Relationships, slideshow, Surviving
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It was my deepest, darkest secret – something that nourished me, tortured me, yet ultimately tore my family apart:  After seven years of marriage, the birth of three kids, and weathering the emotional storm of my husband’s infidelity, I made the choice to have an affair. Now I’m not revealing this today as some kind of [...]

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When Divorced Girlfriends Offend: Too Quick to Criticize Love & Men?

Posted by Delaine - October 23, 2012 - Fears & Challenges, Loving & Trusting, Making It Work, Midlife Divorce, Relationships, Social Barriers & Change, Support & Girlfriends, Surviving
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Recently a divorced woman named Sue found herself in a “gross” conversation with her divorced griflriends.  Not “gross” as in the subject matter was lude or disgusting; rather, the conversation left her feeling gross.  For  somehow, her friends’ conversation had shifted to her relationship with her boyfriend –  and as she put it, “It was like [...]

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Why You Need to SLOOOOOW Down That Next Relationship

Posted by Delaine - February 6, 2012 - Fears & Challenges, Longing...and Learning, Relationships
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There’s a natural progression to relationships and it usually looks something like this: we date, we sleep over at each other’s houses more and more frequently, we move in together, we get married.  Oftentimes, we look at moving in together/getting married stage as the ultimate ideal – lives are completely integrated.  And we often assume that the quicker we get there, the [...]

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“I Love You”: To Say or Not to Say

Posted by Delaine - January 24, 2012 - Fears & Challenges, Longing...and Learning, Loving & Trusting, Phases/ Stages, Relationships
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Thinking back to my twenties, I remember I said the words “I love you” very soon in my relationships with men.  The “love feelings” would overwhelm me: the closeness, the intimacy, the peace of feeling cared for and apart from the rest of the world.  The warmth and power of these feelings would fill my chest, sometimes to the [...]

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Would You Rather Read A Book or Have Sex? A Poll for (Divorced) Wives

Posted by Delaine - January 16, 2012 - Relationships, Sex
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It’s a taboo subject in our culture: Married women, who dislike — even hate — having sex with their husbands. It’s a subject usually held in silence, behind embarrassment, confusion, sometimes even apathy. It’s consoled with inner placations, like “There’s more important things in a marriage than sex”, or “This is just a phase” or [...]

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He said: “Why have a girlfriend when I have a maid?”

Posted by Delaine - January 2, 2012 - Dating & Sex, Fears & Challenges, Grief/ Anger, Relationships, Understanding Men/Women
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Though I don’t know my friend Tim really well, I’ve always held him in high regard.   He’s smart, he’s personable and he’s also very kind: he’s rescued me numerous times when I was faced with household and car repairs! The other day, however, I got to thinking that it seemed strange  that he was still single.  I mean, I knew he was [...]

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