Category: Relationships

There’s a natural progression to relationships and it usually looks something like this: we date, we sleep over at each other’s houses more and more frequently, we move in together, we get married.  Oftentimes, we look at moving in together/getting married stage as the ultimate ideal – lives are completely integrated.  And we often assume that the quicker we get there, the [...]

Thinking back to my twenties, I remember I said the words “I love you” very soon in my relationships with men.  The “love feelings” would overwhelm me: the closeness, the intimacy, the peace of feeling cared for and apart from the rest of the world.  The warmth and power of these feelings would fill my chest, sometimes to the [...]

It’s a taboo subject in our culture: Married women, who dislike — even hate — having sex with their husbands. It’s a subject usually held in silence, behind embarrassment, confusion, sometimes even apathy. It’s consoled with inner placations, like “There’s more important things in a marriage than sex”, or “This is just a phase” or [...]

Though I don’t know my friend Tim really well, I’ve always held him in high regard.   He’s smart, he’s personable and he’s also very kind: he’s rescued me numerous times when I was faced with household and car repairs! The other day, however, I got to thinking that it seemed strange  that he was still single.  I mean, I knew he was [...]

At various times since I got divorced, I’ve felt that life would be a heck of a lot better if I had another partner to share it with.  Especially when I was going through ‘dark phases’ – God, how I yearned to have a man to protect,comfort, and love me… But four years later, I fully believe  that when [...]

Hmm – I bet the issue in this letter resonates with many of you.  Hi Delaine, I’ve been divorced a couple of times.  A recent acquaintance told me if we were to get serious, she expected me to complete her “To-Do List” every evening after work.  I am tired after work and just want to [...]