Written by blended family expert Shirley Cress Dudley. 1- Keep contact to a minimum. One phone call a day is excessive, several text messages a day is extremely excessive. If you have a subject related to the kids, speak briefly and clearly about your expectations. Emails are better than phone calls if your issue is […]
Category: Trying to Get Along
Written by Shelley Stiles. During and after our divorce, we all have a strong desire to protect our children and ensure they are safe and sound. Most of us are familiar with the well-known strategies for achieving that goal but what it all comes down to is the question: Do you love your kids more than you […]
Studies have shown that it’s the ongoing hostilities between divorcing parents that really emotionally damage and traumatize children. So how do you protect your children’s emotional well-being if divorce matters are in the Red Zone, the two of you aren’t speaking, and you can’t even stand being in the same building as him/her? You may ‘know’ you should smile and talk civilly and put […]
This past week, a divorcing girlfriend told me about ’collaborative software’, something her divorce mediator had recommended. Her and her ex’s parenting schedules are hectic and becoming a source of contention because of miscommunication. Moreover, she’s at the point where she really doesn’t want to see his face or talk to him if she doesn’t […]
Does this scenario rings any bells? Sue is the primary caregiver of her two children. Her ex, Brian, is a part-time dad who pays child support and takes the kids every second weekend and one evening/week. When they first got separated, Brian was very concerned about his limited access to the kids; he wanted them […]
I was browsing around on various forums today to see what/if moms were buying for their ex-husbands for Father’s Day. No doubt, some moms couldn’t care less about the day. But the vast majority said they’d ensure dad received ‘something’ – it was definitely in the kids’ best interest. The question was What?