Category: Single Moms

Do We Put Ourselves Before Our Kids More Than We Realize?

Posted by Delaine - October 17, 2012 - Children, Co-Parenting, Parenting, Single Dads, Single Moms, Surviving
poor parenting putting ourselves before kids after divorce pain 300x203  Do We Put Ourselves Before Our Kids More Than We Realize?

It’s tough being a single parent.   And in addition to sometimes feeling draining and overwhelming, it can feel “unfair” —  like our parenting responsibilities are stealing precious time and energy from us that we’d  prefer to spend on well…ourselves.  You know – our careers, our social lives, our dating/love life, etc.  “I didn’t sign up to be a…

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This Fiery Divorced Mom Got Burnt Big Time

Posted by Delaine - November 16, 2011 - Single Moms
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Ohhhhh the irony. Over the past few years since divorcing I’ve dug deep and worked hard to rediscover my passion and ‘fire.’  And I have said countless times, both to my myself and others, that “sometimes playing with fire doesn’t burn us, it awakens us.”  A nice play on a metaphor I’d always thought… But this…

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As A Divorced Mom, I Know It Takes A Community to Raise A Child

Posted by Delaine - June 19, 2011 - Career & Money, Children, Financial Help for Parents, Parenting, Single Dads, Single Moms
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  I never really understood – at a HEART level – what the expression “It takes a community to raise a child” meant.  But now that I’m a divorced single parent, I ‘get it.’ I’ve needed to rely on other people’s help these past few years in raising my three kids:  neighbors, friends, girlfriends’ husbands,…

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I’ll Never Regret Being A Stay-at-Home Mom

Posted by Delaine - June 15, 2011 - Children, Parenting, Single Moms
stay at home mom divorced delaine moore2  I’ll Never Regret Being A Stay-at-Home Mom

There have been many times since I got divorced that I questioned how smart my decision was to be a stay-at-home mom while married.  Cause in leaving the workforce for seven years, I not only left a gap on my professional resume, it left a hole in my self-worth.  And when I divorced, I felt so vulnerable…

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Helicopter Single Parents: Will You Give Your Kids Freer Range?

Posted by Delaine - April 9, 2011 - Co-Parenting, Parenting, Single Dads, Single Moms
young boys on bicycles  Helicopter Single Parents:  Will You Give Your Kids Freer Range?

It happened last weekend.   My eight-year-old son asked if he could bike over to his friend’s place two blocks away. Right away I said no.   What if they got hit by a car?  What if some predator chased them down the residential streets?  I wanted him within eye/ear sight.  Just in case. But when I opened…

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The Biggest Mistake I’ve Made Thus Far (Warning: A REAL Disaster!)

Posted by Delaine - March 11, 2011 - Parenting, Single Moms
divorced mom big mistake parenting 200x300  The Biggest Mistake I’ve Made Thus Far (Warning: A REAL Disaster!)

Ladies, over the past two years since I began blogging on this site, I’ve been upfront and candid about sharing my Self and life post divorce with you.  And as you well know, my ‘mistakes’ and challenges have traversed virtually every aspect of my life –  dating, sex, divorce legalities, career, single parenting… But today…today I feel compelled to share a biggie…

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Parenting After Divorce: Do You Have A Plan for Emergencies?

Posted by Delaine - February 3, 2011 - Co-Parenting, Parenting, Single Dads, Single Moms
little girl hurt1  Parenting After Divorce: Do You Have A Plan for Emergencies?

I was at home working when my phone rang – my ex-husband’s number popped up.  Thinking it was my children, I quickly answered. Instead it was my ex. I heard, “We’ve had a bit of an accident.  We’re on our way to get stitches.” “Who’s hurt?”  I asked heart racing. “Janet.”  (My four-year-old daughter)  “She cut open her…

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Divorced Mom Worries: Can I make this a happy holiday for the kids?

Posted by Delaine - December 25, 2010 - Parenting, Single Moms
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I just finished tucking my three children into bed this fine, Christmas Eve.  They protested the entire time that they’d be awake “all night” cause they’re so excited.  But right now I’m just so happy we shared a lovely evening together.  More than happy, I am relieved.

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“Time” – Can A Busy Divorced Mom Make it Her Friend?

Posted by Delaine - December 14, 2010 - Career & Money, Parenting, Single Moms
managing time single mom  “Time” – Can A Busy Divorced Mom Make it Her Friend?

“Even if the day was 36 hours long, I still couldn’t accomplish everything I need to do.” “I’m spread so thinly I feel like I’m sucking in every area of my life.” “With three young kids AND working full-time, I never get enough time for ME.”

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“Ex” – An Ugly Little Word?

Posted by Delaine - October 6, 2010 - Dealing with the ex, Parenting, Single Dads, Single Moms, Social Barriers & Change, Surviving
ex huaband ex wife word ex divorce  “Ex” – An Ugly Little Word?

“EX-husband,”  “EX-wife,”  “The EX.”   The term “ex” is one we all use after divorce, in both our written and oral communications.  It’s something we don’t  give much thought to either – it’s just part of the English language, right?  But have you ever noticed how you feel when say it?   What about when someone ELSE uses it in conversation?  Cause…

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Another Big Life Passage Is Upon This Full-time Divorced Mom

Posted by Delaine - September 28, 2010 - Career & Money, Career Growth & Change, Healing, Identity, Parenting, Phases/ Stages, Single Moms, Strong Mind & Spirit, Time Without Kids
divorce evolution woman1  Another Big Life Passage Is Upon This Full-time Divorced Mom

Three weeks ago, the youngest of my three children started school full time.  And as she disappeared into the school with a brave look on her face, I stood in the school yard waiting for ‘it’ to hit me: sadness…or at least nostalgia.  I’ve been a stay-at-home mom for ten years after all… But I had tears.  No…

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Rocky Balboa’s Got Nothing On Single Moms!

Posted by Delaine - June 29, 2010 - Parenting, Single Moms
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I’m writing this article with the theme song of the movie Rocky playing in my mind.  For at this very moment, I don’t just feel like Delaine The Divorced Mother who raises her three kids 95% of the time on her own with no help.  No no –  I am a champion; my feet are dancing…

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What Kind Of Man Wants ‘Serious’ With A Single Mom?

Posted by Delaine - June 16, 2010 - Dating & Sex, Fears & Challenges, Longing...and Learning, On being alone, Relationships, Single Moms
dating single mom men  What Kind Of Man Wants ‘Serious’ With A Single Mom?

So I broke up with someone last week – a single dad of two.   He’s the first man I’ve gone out with since divorcing that I contemplated getting serious with whatsoever.  But even though we got along brilliantly, even though he said he was crazy about me, one main thing deterred his interest: the fact that I…

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Choices or Sacrifices? Which Do Divorced Moms Make?

Posted by Delaine - December 10, 2009 - Career & Money, Career Growth & Change, Parenting, Single Dads, Single Moms, Social Barriers & Change
woman clouds smaller  Choices or Sacrifices? Which Do Divorced Moms Make?

Many months ago,  during a deep conversation with my Good Man – a handsome, young widower who continues to restore my faith in men –  we began talking about ’sacrifices’ and ‘choices.’  Or rather, I was rambling on about how I think women make sacrifices when they become wives and mothers – when he cut me off.  “Do you really think of…

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Worries Of A Divorcing Mom: Am I Doing ‘Enough’?

Posted by Delaine - December 10, 2009 - Children, Parenting, Single Moms, Surviving
worried divorced mom enough  Worries Of A Divorcing Mom: Am I Doing ‘Enough’?

Even when I was married, I sometimes worried that I wasn’t doing ‘enough’ for my kids: Should they be involved in more activities or less? Am I too strict or not strict enough? Am I doing, saying, showing my kids enough of whatever they need to feel loved and special? We only get one shot…

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The Ex’s Empty Chair is Filled with Friends & Role Models for My Kids

Posted by Delaine - November 17, 2009 - Children, Parenting, Single Moms
husband left divorced mom  The Ex’s Empty Chair is Filled with Friends & Role Models for My Kids

I’ll admit, the fact that I’m a single mom to three kids with an ex who’s rarely around, has worried and terrified the hell out of me – sometimes to the point of tears or hours of depression.  Though I’ve tried desperately to make good parenting decisions, to do what’s best by my children, the Doubt Monster and…

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A Child of Divorce asks: “Are You Going to Marry Him, Mom?”

Posted by Delaine - October 1, 2009 - Children, Parenting, Single Dads, Single Moms
boy divorce family father  A Child of Divorce asks: “Are You Going to Marry Him, Mom?”

My eight-year-old son and I entered a conversation on my possibly remarrying the other day.  It came through a strange side-door.  We were walking down our street, I ahead of him, when two men walking the other way called out: “Fine fine fine, like a bottle of wine” followed by “The Whistle.” “Why did they do that Mom?”…

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My Top Three Turn-Offs About SOME Divorced Dads

Posted by Delaine - September 1, 2009 - Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches, Parenting, Single Dads, Single Moms
divorced dad turn off12  My Top Three Turn-Offs About SOME Divorced Dads

On the heels of my positive article called Seven Reasons Why I Like To Date Divorced Men, I now want to disclose the top three things that turn me off dating some divorced DADS. Please read that again – I said SOME divorced DADS. And no, this is not meant to undermine the positive stuff…

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Divorced Mom Has The S-E-X Talk With Her Sons

Posted by Delaine - August 20, 2009 - Parenting, Single Moms
mom son talking bonding  Divorced Mom Has The S-E-X Talk With Her Sons

I know that parents – divorced or not – can have very different opinions about talking to their kids about sex. Not just over who should do the explaining (ie: school board vs same sex parent vs a book), but at what age the initial conversation should take place and how much info should be given.…

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Divorced Mom Faces an Emergency

Posted by Delaine - July 28, 2009 - Co-Parenting, Parenting, Single Dads, Single Moms
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I’m writing this at 1 a.m.  and am completely exhausted.  Yesterday evening, the sound of my seven-year-old screaming outside launched me out my front door in my socks.  I ran towards him in the park, heart pounding. “I hit Kyle by accident!” he screamed.  “I hit him in the head with my golf club!” I kept running, my son…

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