Category: Single Dads

Ask Coach Delaine: “Why is my newly-divorced boyfriend retreating from me?”

Posted by Delaine - September 27, 2013 - Concerns & Fears, Dating & Sex, Fears & Challenges, Healing, Loving & Trusting, Phases/ Stages, Relationships, Single Dads, slideshow divorced man happy or hurting divorce moving on coping
divorcing man help sad angry trying to move on  Ask Coach Delaine: “Why is my newly-divorced boyfriend retreating from me?”

Question: Hello Delaine, I have been happily dating a separated man for the past year as he finished up his divorce.  His divorce was finally finalized last month. They were married for over 20 years and according to him, it wasn’t a good marriage. I’ve noticed, however, that ever since the divorce came through, he’s […]

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Do We Put Ourselves Before Our Kids More Than We Realize?

Posted by Delaine - October 17, 2012 - Children, Co-Parenting, Parenting, Single Dads, Single Moms, Surviving
poor parenting putting ourselves before kids after divorce pain 300x203  Do We Put Ourselves Before Our Kids More Than We Realize?

It’s tough being a single parent.   And in addition to sometimes feeling draining and overwhelming, it can feel “unfair” –  like our parenting responsibilities are stealing precious time and energy from us that we’d  prefer to spend on well…ourselves.  You know – our careers, our social lives, our dating/love life, etc.  “I didn’t sign up to be a […]

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As A Divorced Mom, I Know It Takes A Community to Raise A Child

Posted by Delaine - June 19, 2011 - Career & Money, Children, Financial Help for Parents, Parenting, Single Dads, Single Moms
divorce coach date coach delaine moore helping single parents 300x205  As A Divorced Mom, I Know It Takes A Community to Raise A Child

  I never really understood – at a HEART level – what the expression “It takes a community to raise a child” meant.  But now that I’m a divorced single parent, I ‘get it.’ I’ve needed to rely on other people’s help these past few years in raising my three kids:  neighbors, friends, girlfriends’ husbands, […]

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Helicopter Single Parents: Will You Give Your Kids Freer Range?

Posted by Delaine - April 9, 2011 - Co-Parenting, Parenting, Single Dads, Single Moms
young boys on bicycles  Helicopter Single Parents:  Will You Give Your Kids Freer Range?

It happened last weekend.   My eight-year-old son asked if he could bike over to his friend’s place two blocks away. Right away I said no.   What if they got hit by a car?  What if some predator chased them down the residential streets?  I wanted him within eye/ear sight.  Just in case. But when I opened […]

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Parenting After Divorce: Do You Have A Plan for Emergencies?

Posted by Delaine - February 3, 2011 - Co-Parenting, Parenting, Single Dads, Single Moms
little girl hurt1  Parenting After Divorce: Do You Have A Plan for Emergencies?

I was at home working when my phone rang – my ex-husband’s number popped up.  Thinking it was my children, I quickly answered. Instead it was my ex. I heard, “We’ve had a bit of an accident.  We’re on our way to get stitches.” “Who’s hurt?”  I asked heart racing. “Janet.”  (My four-year-old daughter)  “She cut open her […]

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The Results of a Divorced Father’s Biting Words

Posted by Delaine - November 23, 2010 - Parenting, Single Dads
hockey son divorced dad 199x300  The Results of a Divorced Father’s Biting Words

Over the past couple of months, Shelia has been quietly optimistic around her ex-husband’s relationship with their children, particularly their 10-year-old son.  For you see, since this past September he has been taking their kids on sleepovers twice a month – a  HUGE improvement over his ‘maybe’ once- every-four-to-six-weeks track record. He even began volunteering as an assistant coach for […]

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“Ex” – An Ugly Little Word?

Posted by Delaine - October 6, 2010 - Dealing with the ex, Parenting, Single Dads, Single Moms, Social Barriers & Change, Surviving
ex huaband ex wife word ex divorce  “Ex” – An Ugly Little Word?

“EX-husband,”  “EX-wife,”  “The EX.”   The term “ex” is one we all use after divorce, in both our written and oral communications.  It’s something we don’t  give much thought to either – it’s just part of the English language, right?  But have you ever noticed how you feel when say it?   What about when someone ELSE uses it in conversation?  Cause […]

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Choices or Sacrifices? Which Do Divorced Moms Make?

Posted by Delaine - December 10, 2009 - Career & Money, Career Growth & Change, Parenting, Single Dads, Single Moms, Social Barriers & Change
woman clouds smaller  Choices or Sacrifices? Which Do Divorced Moms Make?

Many months ago,  during a deep conversation with my Good Man - a handsome, young widower who continues to restore my faith in men -  we began talking about ’sacrifices’ and ‘choices.’  Or rather, I was rambling on about how I think women make sacrifices when they become wives and mothers – when he cut me off.  “Do you really think of […]

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A Child of Divorce asks: “Are You Going to Marry Him, Mom?”

Posted by Delaine - October 1, 2009 - Children, Parenting, Single Dads, Single Moms
boy divorce family father  A Child of Divorce asks: “Are You Going to Marry Him, Mom?”

My eight-year-old son and I entered a conversation on my possibly remarrying the other day.  It came through a strange side-door.  We were walking down our street, I ahead of him, when two men walking the other way called out: “Fine fine fine, like a bottle of wine” followed by ”The Whistle.” “Why did they do that Mom?” […]

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Her Ex-Husband is a Bully – and Her Kids Now Bear the Brunt End of It

Posted by Delaine - September 9, 2009 - Abuse, Children, Co-Parenting, Parenting, Single Dads, Surviving
bully ex divorced mom kids  Her Ex-Husband is a Bully – and Her Kids Now Bear the Brunt End of It

Her ex was at her house doing pick up of their kids the past weekend when it happened. She and her three kids were over at the school yard finishing a quick game of soccer in the snow. Suddenly, her eldest son, now eight, tripped her daughter by accident. “Kyle,” she said to him, “You have to avoid […]

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My Top Three Turn-Offs About SOME Divorced Dads

Posted by Delaine - September 1, 2009 - Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches, Parenting, Single Dads, Single Moms
divorced dad turn off12  My Top Three Turn-Offs About SOME Divorced Dads

On the heels of my positive article called Seven Reasons Why I Like To Date Divorced Men, I now want to disclose the top three things that turn me off dating some divorced DADS. Please read that again – I said SOME divorced DADS. And no, this is not meant to undermine the positive stuff […]

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Men Are Confused Too: Trying To Understand Their ‘Wound’

Posted by Delaine - August 14, 2009 - Dating & Sex, Single Dads, Understanding Men/Women
single man tough hurting 201x300  Men Are Confused Too: Trying To Understand Their ‘Wound’

So I’m becoming less judgmental and more open to men. That’s a broad statement, I know. But ever since I watched the movie, The Ugly Truth, and saw how underneath Gerard’s Butler piggish character was a wounded man with a big heart, the more sympathetic AND curious I’ve become about what makes men the way […]

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“HUNG” – A Well-Endowed Divorced Dad Gets Pimped Out?

Posted by Delaine - August 6, 2009 - Escaping: Books, Music, Films, Single Dads, Social Barriers & Change, Surviving
hung divorced dad pimped out TV  “HUNG” – A Well-Endowed Divorced Dad Gets Pimped Out?

If someone created a TV series about a divorced mom who prostituted herself to make ends meet, I sure as heck wouldn’t find it funny. BUT -  what if this same idea was applied to a divorced dad?  One who’s severely down on his luck and thinks his large penis is his ‘Winning Tool.’

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Divorced Mom Faces an Emergency

Posted by Delaine - July 28, 2009 - Co-Parenting, Parenting, Single Dads, Single Moms
hurtboy1 300x173  Divorced Mom Faces an Emergency

I’m writing this at 1 a.m.  and am completely exhausted.  Yesterday evening, the sound of my seven-year-old screaming outside launched me out my front door in my socks.  I ran towards him in the park, heart pounding. “I hit Kyle by accident!” he screamed.  “I hit him in the head with my golf club!” I kept running, my son […]

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